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Post by ann1953 on Jan 12, 2017 12:29:57 GMT
This is a place for all those in their 50's & 60’s to get together and gab. Talk about what is on your mind be it the WW'er program, family, friends, or anything you'd like to share. The Lighter Side Cafe is open 24/7....First one here please use the copy/paste method to get us going. All like-minded people are always welcome here.
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Post by ann1953 on Jan 12, 2017 12:30:54 GMT
Good morning all. It's going to be another pleasant day in New England. Makes for messy walking, but that's okay. Going to Weight Watchers and then shopping around afterwards. I'll pop in later.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 12, 2017 14:07:59 GMT
Thanks for,the coffee, Ann. Enjoy your meeting.
It's a warm, rainy day in Dayton. I am meeting GF for lunch at McAlister's Deli. We haven't tried it before but they have lots of healthy options and even a choose 2 where you can get half a salad, half a sandwich, half a baked potato or a cup of soup. They have vegetarian options as well. My GFs usually let me pick the restaurant. I think somewhere along the line I got the rep of being picky. Fine by me.
Waving to the rest of the gang. Carolyn, I hope you have dug yourselves out.
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Post by suewms on Jan 12, 2017 14:13:45 GMT
Good Morning, WW Friends ~ We have a dark and dreary day today with freezing rain all morning; then turning to ice and snow this afternoon. I have my doctor's appointment this afternoon which I am REALLY looking forward to! Ann ~ Thanks for starting us up this morning. Enjoy your WW meeting & shopping. Chele ~ Enjoy your lunch and gab fest. I also truly enjoy those! Thanks for the prayers. I have cooked poached eggs for breakfast and now need to get the beef stew started in the slow cooker for tonight. BBL. Make a great day!
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Post by ksbruns on Jan 12, 2017 14:36:54 GMT
LOL, if the posts looked like the previous every day, I wouldn't have any trouble posting!
I'll take a minute for some True Confessions: when I'm tired and overwhelmed then seeing all the posts overwhelms me...sad but true. And if I find I can't even focus on what I am reading, then that tells me I don't need to be blabbing. So that's the short version of what's been going on with me.
You all know my struggles to find balance, and I think that's the core of what's going on. After crashing over the holidays after the move, now I find a pretty busy schedule (why, I want to know??), a lot of chaos in the apartment (though getting better!) and not enough Kathy time. Sadly, this is the time of the year when all my doctor's appts get going and my calendar looks busy until the middle of February.
So, I've been detaching, made some really poor food choices yesterday, not so much in the SP total, but in the choices, and really hunkered down when I got in from MGH. Today is a completely clear day, not one thing scheduled and I need to cherish those days when they come along instead of feeling like it's time for a little Kathy Get-Away. I am not someone that really enjoys working on my *stuff*, so I'm sure that doesn't help either.
Tomorrow I begin 3 weeks of gel injections for my knee and I know that has me worried...I am prepared for discomfort, but I'm always anxious when I can't exercise and I know I need to take the weekend off, no matter how I'm feeling. So, a lot going on....and not handling it particularly well.
Brady and Dana are coming over tomorrow night; fortunately, I have been to this rodeo long enough to know that having the apt *perfect* was not in the cards, but I have been trying to get a bit done and plan for the food before I head to the ortho in the AM, so it will be a busy, but hopefully, quiet and *easy enough* day. It's J's choir practice night, so I do have a big chunk of time.
I will now read the past two days and see what I have missed.
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Post by ceebee53 on Jan 12, 2017 14:40:03 GMT
Hi Everyone,
I'm going shopping and out to lunch with girlfriends today while our DHs golf. We have a warm, sunny day in the forecast.
Sue, be careful driving in the ice and snow. I'm praying that you will get some answers at your appointment today. I'll be thinking of you.
Ann, enjoy your WW meeting and shopping afterwards. Thank you for opening us up today!
Chele, enjoy your lunch at McAllister's! I have eaten there and like it a lot.
Waving hello to everyone else who stops in.
Carol
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Post by ceebee53 on Jan 12, 2017 14:57:36 GMT
Kathy,
We were posting at the same time. I hope you enjoy your "free" day and that it helps you feel more peace in your life.
I understand the feeling of being overwhelmed sometimes reading the posts. I love reading what everyone has to say, but sometimes I am too tired and my brain isn't capable of responding. I remember what you all told me when I first joined--that I don't always need to write personals, and that just waving or saying hi is enough. We all agreed this should be our happy place where we can be who we are and participate only as much as we are able at the time. I had the feeling that you were detaching a little, and I was glad to see your post today.
I will be thinking of you tomorrow with your knee injections. Take care of yourself.
Carol
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Post by ksbruns on Jan 12, 2017 15:09:23 GMT
I loved the camping discussion and will have to plant myself firmly in @u21queen 's camp. I actually love the outdoors, but need pavement, good coffee not too far away, and shade. carolyn0506 sounds like she keeps the creature comforts not too far away and I will have to just keep admiring kca195 from afar. J and I eat separately for the most part from our various times apart...I was on SFT when we were first struggling and I think that sealed the deal, LOL...and as I have gotten more and more vegetarian, he is a serious meat-eater, so it's pretty much the norm for us now. There is no way he would eat my vegetable soup, ann1953 . I know I need to get to a TJ's soon because they have the base whatever my version of Kathryn's Soup is...although I'm not sure I am ever risky enough for Mad Scientist! judy709 , I'm still going to think you are an extrovert, GF, but I shouldn't label, should I, LOL. Sadly, I was that *draining friend* for so many years, I have tried to make amends to those friends still in my life, so I really get it, and kudos to you for giving your energy to your niece. Once I quit over-eating, I realized how much I have to treasure my little bag of energy, and usually I am pretty good about finding the quiet to keep it stocked. So, I really don't have any friends that drain me, but I definitely recognized myself....kudos on the WI, you are rockin' in. I think it's great that your friend is going to Sloan-Kettering. We were in NYC when I was sick, and I had lots of *advice* to go there, but I loved my doctor and didn't want to switch. I was later told that my cancer was *pretty standard* (is there such a thing?) and the protocol would have been the same everywhere, but for advanced complicated cases, I think it's wonderful when people can expand their options. kca195 , I love that quote, too...I am very aware that I still look for fullness in *all the wrong places*, LOL, but I'm better. Your weather is ALL over the place, (what's new, right??) Weather is such a part of the conversation!, Brady says it's the *universal conversation* and I think he's right. @u21queen I was so glad I went back to read because I was very confused by the change in Teddy's appearance! Can't believe that carolyn0506 is dealing with a *real snow*...but I still love snow, never have lost my Southern awe of it...I can get as tired of it as the next person by the end of the season, but being able to make the *first tracks* is awesome. Kudos to you and judy709 with the yoga....I made the decision that I could not afford the $$ or time involved in a yoga class right now, but I'm doing a 30 Days of Yoga challenge online and I really want to stick to it for the whole 30 days. This teacher uses planks a good deal which makes me *feel like Kathryn*, LOL. I'm still very impressed with myself when I exercise! suewms reading your post about the howling wind...which we had last night! It truly feels like I can check your weather and know what's coming, LOL. I am a *blue light* lady myself, maybe it's from having cataract surgery, but I like a bright light....I bought some bulbs in Pittsburgh that had a little grade on the front and I didn't like the brightest blue. I used to adore Reveal bulbs and still get them when I can find them. I hope you get some answers you want today! ceebee53 I had never heard of the tree! (I haven't spent a lot of time west of Texas) but that was interesting; I'm glad you're enjoying your time in the South. I guess there was a lot of grieving after the Natl. Championship game Monday, but I'm glad 'Bama got knocked off their perch. judy709 should know that I wouldn't be able to recommend much about life in the South to anyone, but yeah, seeing those old homes is something...and a couple of cities. Okay, I'll take my bad attitude out of this conversation! Yes, I'm good about *saying* that's how the Café is, but not so good at following through; I will just 👣👣👣
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Post by judy709 on Jan 12, 2017 16:17:02 GMT
Hi everyone--it's a warmish and sunny day so I'll take it! Having a busy morning at work which is fine by me, too.
Kathy, I do relate to being overwhelmed. Sometimes, when I am tired, my thoughts are racing and I can't slow them down. Thanks for your kind words about my niece. I don't have too many draining friends because, unless they are close family or loved ones, I don't have the patience and I feel like they suck the lifeblood out of me. I am not speaking about problems that friends have or needing help with issues because we all them and need our friends but I mean the ones who only see you when they are down and seem to be always down. I just don't know how to fix them, and I have found they really don't want my advice. I am a little sad about severing a friendship within the last year for that reason--nothing dramatic in the severing just pulling back with less and less contact because my barometer told me that I did not like how I felt when I was with her. Too much drama and too high maintenance to use lingo. And I felt as though I was being manipulated to a degree and it was taking energy away from those I love. Call me a victim soul because I can get too caught up in empathizing. I am learning, though.
Last night I had a wonderful dinner with 4 others before we went to see Manchester by the Sea. It's a bit of a downer as a movie, but so well acted and it did have its moments of comic relief with the nephew and uncle's relationship. I was worried about the topic and Dianne going, but it was her first choice of movie and we all enjoyed it and discussed it afterwards. We'll continue movie nights every month. Dinner choice could have been better for me. I thought I had chosen a healthy dinner, but it was a chicken and broccoli loaded with a creamy sauce. Live and learn. I should have asked more questions, but it was good and I'll move on. One thing I have learned from all of you "pros" is that it's not all or nothing. Ann has really taught me that. You can splurge and then get back. Before, I'd throw my hands up and give up. Now, I know what a process this WL journey is.
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Post by judy709 on Jan 12, 2017 16:23:11 GMT
Kathy, good luck with the gel injections. What will that do? I hope it's not painful. Thinking of you.
Sue, fingers and toes crossed for resolutions to the jaw and mouth pain and sinus, etc. you have been enduring for way too long. I feel so badly for you and just want this done.
Chele, have fun at the deli. It sounds like a great place and a little like a Panera in the half sandwich soup deal. Yum.
Ann, I hope you have a good day. Wasn't that darn wind a whistler last night?! Good luck at WW today and enjoy your walk. At least it is sunny and warmish.
Waving to AWF.
P.S. Sue, credit to you--I love my new flannel sheets so much. I can't wait to go to bed at night! :-) Also, loving the new shower curtain with the beautiful embroidered birds. Sounds a bit funny but they are so lovely.
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Post by ceebee53 on Jan 12, 2017 16:25:51 GMT
Hi Again, ksbruns, I'm glad you brought up Judy's judy709 comment about retiring/living in the south. I wanted to respond, but didn't want to offend anyone who might be reading this! I love spending the winter here. We have a lot of friends here, we enjoy the climate in the winter, and it is good "alone" time for DH and me. However, I am always happy to get home in the spring. I'll just say that for ME, it's one of those places that I like to visit, but would not want to live full-time. I have to admit that I was very happy that Clemson won the championship! Nick Sabin (Alabama coach for those who might not know) used to be the coach at Michigan State. A lot of people were upset that he left MSU to go to LSU--not necessarily that he left, but when and how he left. DH and I were definitely cheering for Clemson, and we, too, were glad to see 'Bama knocked off their perch! I had to say all that before I forgot! Waving to all! Carol
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Post by ksbruns on Jan 12, 2017 16:27:52 GMT
judy709 You are very wise; it took being sick and a lot of trauma to learn that about relationships (although I'm not sure I was ever much of a good listener, soooo much more of a talker; that's another thing I have made amends for...) I appreciate so much that there were a few souls that took the time to listen when all I did was whine. Learning in Al-Anon that I couldn't fix them was huge for me, and I hope I don't give unsolicited advice; it's tricky online because you can't be sure if someone just wants to vent or if it's a request for input. So, I try to always ask if I want advice, LOL. I do better when I can pop in often, like this, and respond to one post. BUT, even though I *can* check in today, it needs to be on breaks! It's still wet outside, but the sun is out and Leia and I just got our walk, so need to start some chores. I am making my *World Famous Chex-Mix* today because with the move and their early departure, this was the first holiday in Brady's life that he didn't have it. I have a HUGE commitment to myself to not munch it all day and have a serving tonight. There...I'm just putting it out there right now. I need to take advantage of the sun being out and enjoy the light in the apartment....to chores!
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Post by carolyn0506 on Jan 12, 2017 18:28:15 GMT
Good Morning:
(((Kathy))): I understand you feeling overwhelmed by lots of posts. I try to make sure the cafe is a support and not a drain for me. I think we all do. Yet another balance challenge! I’m sorry you’re not getting enough down and recuperate time. Moving is utter upheaval plus your other activities & tasks…well, it just sounds so understandable to me. I think you’re amazing.
Kathryn: I love it that you are encouraging someone new to exercising. Planks are excruciating for me too. When I used to exercise after work, they were sometimes part of the class. Now they aren’t. Which is too bad because I sure don’t seem to do them on my own. I used to think it was a good thing the teacher couldn’t hear what we were all thinking as she instructed, “Stay up! Stay up!”
Ann: We are GMTA on the chopped salad. Subway is a favorite place for 2 of my DGKs. Which makes sense. They can assemble a sandwich just the way they like it. I was so happy when I noticed that salad and tried it. Probably someone in front of me in line ordered it. Chopping really blends the flavors well. Enjoy your WW meeting!
Judy: I’ll check out Colm Tolbin for sure. I finished The Tumbling Turner Sisters. I feel that you would like it. It’s historical fiction—about the vaudeville era. I guess, for me, it was not a must read but was an interesting and sometimes fun read. Also a fast read. Yahoo! on the pound loss! That’s great news.
Sue: Definitely prayers for your PCP visit and I’m very glad you’re seeing your PCP as getting to the bottom of this will be such a relief. As I mentioned with Ann, my DGKs like Subway which was kind of a carb minefield for me. So this is great. You just walk down the line, as with a sandwich, and tell them what you want and they chop it all up together. I ask for little oil and vinegar packets and “dress” it myself.
Carol: Well, I felt a little good natured envy when I heard you were heading down to the pool. If I could choose to live somewhere warmer for winter, I think I might. It sounds idea to me. I do love warm weather. Reading about your “winter” give me a vicarious thrill.
Chele: LOL on the poor Corgi. They have such short legs. Caption would be something like: 2” legs in 8” snow. They’re such cute dogs. Of course they make me think of Queen Elizabeth. The snowfall around here has caused such excitement. I live East of the city at the mouth of the gorge and we had less—DH’s deepest measure was 4.5. LOL on your “picky” rep. Healthy choices have a way of making us discriminating doesn’t it?
This Is Us Question: I did watch the 1st episode a while back and liked it. But sidetracked. Now I want to try to get back on it—DH less enthusiastic and I almost always watch TV only with him so I’ll have to figure that out. But I haven’t been married 42 years for nothing! LOL. So this is my question. Is there more than one season? I think what I found when I was looking last night was Season 1.
I had missed the discussion about light here. This is something I think about as my eyes are bothering me. I find light colors confusing. I have been using Ott lights. Sometimes that helps.
We have sunshine and snow and the wind is back. 20 mph with gusts to 31 is what my App says. Temp is 28. Yahoo for Cuddle Duds! I think I’m going to be an old lady and use my trekking poles today. The sudden icy patches scare me and I think the poles might help me feel more secure on my walk. And good sunglasses will be a must.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 12, 2017 18:59:50 GMT
Just some quick thoughts. I, too, find it overwhelming at times to respond to everyone, but I am sure no one feels slighted if a person does not call them out by name during a particular day.
Kathy, someone on another thread said she thought the picture was Teddy in a Corgi disguise. 😁 She was being facetious, of course.
Carolyn, "This Is Us" just started in the fall and it is still a season 1. Like Sue, it took me a couple of episodes to get used to the time jumps but now I kind of like it, because IRL you don't tell someone your life story chronologically. It comes out in various conversations when something triggers a memory.
Lunch was great. GF and I agreed we will go back.
Have a good one.
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Post by suewms on Jan 12, 2017 19:17:40 GMT
So nice to return home and find all my Cafe friends here to chat with while I eat my lunch. There was a small portion of tossed salad in the fridge as well as rotisserie chicken (sans skin & bones) so I weighed out 2 oz of chicken and mixed it into my salad and made just enough for lunch. The beef stew looks delicious in the slow cooker. Talk about short cuts, I used a small chuck steak that DH picked up - and cubed it and removed as much fat as possible. I put it in with water and McCormick's seasoning mix and let that cook while I went to school. I bought frozen Stew Vegetables at Meijer the other day and let them thaw while I was gone and just cut up the potatoes and added it all. I am one of those who likes peas in stew, so will add some frozen green peas when I get back home, and voila! supper! Kathy ~ Happy to see you!! While I understand the feeling of overwhelmed - I have to concur with Carol that we all agree (and remind ourselves and each other) tht this IS our happy place - no worries, no pressure, no unrealistic expectations. I am glad we frequently reiterate that so we all remember. I also get that with the move and the holidays and all, life can be overwhelming in and of itself. Glad you can take the "me time" that you need. Judy ~ I also have had my share of experiences with draining friends. But not recently. I am fortunate now to have a network of friends where it is even-steven and that makes all the difference in the world. I love the lunch/gab fest that goes along with each sharing and giving as much as they take. That balance is so important. I might make a greater exception for family, though, as I would feel much more invested in them. I am so glad that your niece has your listening ear with a warm, loving heart attached. She is, indeed, fortunate. In regards last night's dinner - remember "it's only one meal". You definitely have mastered jumping right back where you need to be. PS: When I first put on the flannel sheets each winter, my DH gets in bed saying over and over "Oh, I love my bed"! There is just something so warm and cozy and nurturing about them. Carolyn ~ Yes, there was a Season 1 of This Is Us and Season 2 just started Tuesday night. I watched the marathon of Season 1 last Saturday. Before that it was available on our On Demand channel. I know what you mean as I usually watch all my TV with DH, but that particular day there were back-to-back-to-back college football games on so I moved to the bedroom and watched hours of This Is Us. It suited us both well at the time. Not as a steady diet, but once in a while ..... Once we got into the show we found we really enjoy it. I agree "Yahoo for Cuddle Duds" as I am wearing mine today. I need to get a move on as I have a Credit Union deposit to make on the way to the doctor and my car is crying out for gas and there is a (preferred) station right on the corner on the way to his office. Then I'll have those two chores behind me. I have typed up an outline of my "woes" for the past 4+ months so he can see the whole big picture. That way I don't forget to tell him anything. Nothing is falling from the sky right now so perhaps I can get there and back without dealing with bad weather.
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