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Post by ann1953 on Jan 19, 2017 10:35:57 GMT
This is a place for all those in their 50's & 60’s to get together and gab. Talk about what is on your mind be it the WW'er program, family, friends, or anything you'd like to share. The Lighter Side Cafe is open 24/7....First one here please use the copy/paste method to get us going. All like-minded people are always welcome here.
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Post by ann1953 on Jan 19, 2017 10:44:14 GMT
Happy Thursday, all. I feel like I missed a day of my life yesterday. I napped and read the day away. It's just what I needed to get myself back 'on track' mentally and physically. Now I'm feeling better. I'll go to my WW'er meeting and then we'll do our usual jaunts then back to the ol' homestead! Actually I'm a home body so I'm happiest just staying put!
Sue I am so very sorry you are dealing with depression. I also second the music therapy and most definitely talking to your PCP should it continue. Have you tried that site I mentioned, Stop, Breathe, Think? You may find that helpful. Or a good comedy to take you mind off things. Praying that you start to get yourself back. (((hugs)))
Judy, I know what you are going through with the loud mouth lime gal. I had to learn the art of blocking it out when I worked for the City. We had SEVERAL of those people that would talk and talk and talk about absolutely nothing. When I ate lunch, I would sit with my headphones on all cranked up and just relax and then hit the pavement during good weather. It does seem that those that have the least to say will say it at the top of their lungs! So unfair in an office environment! Good luck finding your 'peace'.
Carol love your photo. Makes me hungry LOL. Carolyn thank you for your kind words.
Kathy bummer on the accident. I hear you wanting to pay out of pocket rather than going through the insurance company. Glad that all is going well at the hospital and especially that you are meeting new people. You never know which one will become a true friend.
I also received my last follow up appointment for March with my oncologist. I really like her (and the other two surgeons) so that to me is a win-win.
Waving to anyone that I may have overlooked.......my brain is not up to snuff these days.
Have a great day and will try to pop back in later!
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Post by Deleted on Jan 19, 2017 12:37:10 GMT
Ann, thanks for the start and glad you feel refreshed and renewed.
Sue, I am hoping you find the right "therapy" for your blues. It is hard when you know you are down and can't seem to find the way back to yourself. I had a long period of that, so I know how it feels. I had to quit my job to find my peace. I hope your solution is not as drastic.
Kathy, sorry about your fender bender and glad it was not a bad one physically.
Judy, I feel your pain regarding Chatty Cathy.
Carolyn, yes, Teddy does the wriggle dance when Iggy comes home.
Carol, I hope the storms have disappeared.
Kathryn, glad to hear DH's procedure went well.
Waving to Art and anyone else I missed.
I am headed out to the vet's for supplies.
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Post by ann1953 on Jan 19, 2017 13:25:07 GMT
Chele Hi! I love your picture. Waiting for Carl to get back from walking Luigi so we can leave for Weight Watchers. I'll CBL
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Post by ksbruns on Jan 19, 2017 13:29:57 GMT
Good morning, you two! I need to have my quiet time before I get up and going....still polishing my halo from getting the recipe prepped yesterday, so will get it in the crock-pot in a bit.
Jeremy went off without his phone this AM, (I didn't have my bus emoji, LOL) so I must try to find him when I go into Cambridge.
Ann, have fun at your meeting today, so glad the world feels turned back up the right direction.
Chele, my Lulu came, but I'm going to return it. I just don't *love* it on me, or maybe I'm just feeling the guilt! What irony that I will spend some of the money from the sale of the car on mine.
I'm on the bus today, so should be fine! Later...
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Post by suewms on Jan 19, 2017 15:10:42 GMT
Good Morning, WW Friends ~
Ann ~ Thanks for opening up the Cafe this morning. You are so faithful! I just love sitting down at my computer and seeing your smiling face. I am glad you took advantage of the opportunity yesterday to read and nap. It must have been exactly what you needed. Enjoy your WW meeting today (I know you always do). I think it is so great that you have that group. I had one for a time and loved walking in and being greeted by name with smiles. But that Center closed (much to my dismay) and now I periodically see one of my old WW friends out and about. Thank you for your prayers. So many of my friends have let me know they are praying for me and it means so much!! I am a serious believer.
Kathy ~ So sorry to hear about your accident! That is really the pits!! But you should give yourself credit for finishing up the project you started with the sweet potatoes. So what are you making for supper? I am certain the hospital folk thoroughly enjoyed and appreciated your efforts yesterday. You're right, of course, about balance. I don't ever want to appear "whiney" but do want to be honest and "authentic". We had a great time at supper and it did lift my spirits. I told DH driving home that it was the best I had felt in some time (even though it was late). That was a blessing. Sorry about J's phone. My DH left without his recently and when he came home to get it he asked me why I didn't call him to let him know?? What ?!? Funny guy ........
Judy ~ I thought of you last night at supper. The restaurant had TV's on all over the place (but no sound) and the low overhead music was playing Easy Listening music. I first noticed it because it was Karen Carpenter (who is one of my faves) and then noticed every song they played. I doubt very much anyone else noticed it; but I did because I needed it. I found it very relaxing and stimulating at the same time (does that make sense?). So "God provides" as always - and I got exactly what I needed. Need to remember "God Is Good, All The Time".
Carol ~ Thanks to you also for the kind words of wisdom. I totally agree with you and Carolyn that when I start to feel better physically, good mental health will return as well. I am just impatient. I know all these jumbled up feelings are coming from my poor sick body - I just wish I knew what was wrong with it. I wish they could wave a wand over me and find the problem so we could begin to fix it. But maybe we have and I just need to give it time. I am now on day 7 of a 20-day treatment plan and I have improved, so I need to focus more on how better I am and less on how bad it is. I KNOW that, but sometimes backslide, so being able to share with you ladies on here is a true blessing for me. I also keep forgetting to remember that the medication is also no doubt having a tremendous effect on me as well.
Chele ~ Thanks for the reassurance. I guess we've all "been there, done that" but it helps me so much to be reminded of that. I also love your picture. What did you end up making with pecans? They are one of my favorites and they are so versatile. Also bring back fond memories of cracking them with my dear Papa (who was my very favorite person as a child).
We are going to possibly see the sun peek through some this afternoon. That would be nice. We were forced to keep the kids indoors yesterday because of huge puddles all over the playground (and they are a for-sure kid-magnet). I wonder if it will be any different today? I find that going outside seems to clear my head so I wouldn't mind that at all, especially if we see some sunshine!
Waving "hello" to all my other Cafe friends ...
BBL. Make a great day!
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Post by Art on Jan 19, 2017 15:17:35 GMT
Good morning all. Another wet one. But went to the gym and got almost all of my steps in. So excited about tomorrow.
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Post by carolyn0506 on Jan 19, 2017 16:39:59 GMT
Good Morning:
Judy: I said it before but I have such sympathy re: your loud/yakky coworker. The only way mine got by was she was whip smart and fast so when she worked she could produce. The talk was often about having too much work to do—an attitude endemic to her work unit. And she was a know-it-all about every topic under the sun. I tried to remind myself that she was essentially good-hearted, because she was. My other stress was my strong work ethic. I hated working with slackers so I would remind myself that it was none of my business. But it was tough. So happy to be away from all of that. I tried a couple of different headphone styles but ended up with a small, hard set that went over the top of my ears. This so I could easily yank them off to around my neck. The goal was easy on, off. Reaching up to take the bud-style out of my ears was too cumbersome. I went with cheap from a department store. I set up calming playlists on my iPod. I hope you can work something like this out. It helped me a lot. Definitely made me more productive when I was working on tasks that required focused concentration. One more thing. I finished Ordinary Grace yesterday. Wow. Sad. Beautiful. Sad. Spiritual. Reminded me of the feeling I had about Peace Like a River. Also Jayber Crow. I’m going to check out his detective series. I have a hold on the first book but there are other holds before me—a good sign.
Sue: LOL on Walleye Wednesday! Authenticity is a great concept isn’t it? I’m glad you felt well last evening. I so understand the impatience because this has gone on so long. Hugs and prayers and faith that you’re on the path to recovery.
Carol: Those pecans are pretty! Love their flavor too. What a fun project that you appreciate all year. Yes, eating out is a challenge for me too. I’m getting better with practice. I have some pretty ingrained principles now that seem to help most of the time.
Kathy: Oh rats! I’m so sorry about the bumper. 2 of my kids have newer vans and they have auto backup cameras. I wish we had that with our vehicles because it’s easy to miss something behind. Also sometimes I’m slow in lots because I’m trying to miss an obstacle when I’m actually probably miles away from it. Anyway, sympathetic groan here. Yes, first world problem, but stressful for sure. I’m sorry.
Ann: I was happy reading about your rest and restore time and that it was successful and you’re feeling better. I love the Stop, Breathe, Think idea and will check out that App. I also love to be home.
Chele: I love the phrase “find the way back to yourself.” Wonderful that retiring gave you that gift. LOL on Teddy. One of my favorite things about dogs is their joy when the whole pack is together.
Art: I agree that you’re great about getting those steps in. Priorities!
I’m so very grateful for the big thaw here. Getting around with soggy ease is familiar and freeing. I have been getting to the gym before class and getting some steps in before class starts. I’m SOOOO sore but motivated. To WW yesterday and got my voucher for January. I don’t know that I’ll ever get back to my happy zone but my last 2 WIs have been down so that’s encouraging. Back to sorting and donating. I have things stacked around the house so it’s motivating to get back to it. DGD has a band concert tonight. And I’m making vegetable soup today.
Great Thursday to all.
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Post by judy709 on Jan 19, 2017 16:55:54 GMT
Hi All,
Popping in to say hi and off to my TOPS WI with that great group. I'll be back to read and respond later. Have a wonderful day all!
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Post by suewms on Jan 19, 2017 18:46:33 GMT
"Friends Are The Very Best Therapy" ....... great saying. I had an opportunity last night to tell DH more about our group in the Cafe and all the encouragement and support and love and prayers from all of you and he was really impressed. (Of course, we're a very impressive group, right?) Anyway, I can't say enough about how much you all mean to me.
Today at school a very dear friend stopped me for a hug and asked how I was and when she wasn't satisfied with my "OK" she pursued it. (She and I have the kind of friendship that not only allows but welcomes that.) She added her love and offer to pray - and that raised my spirits as well.
We actually had outdoor recess - AND the sun came out and is shining brightly now! The sunshine did wonders for my well-being. Just looking at it out the window is cheering. A great night's sleep was very welcome and I even slept in a little bit longer this morning. I had really missed that wonderful, healing sleep while it was elusive.
Nothing much on my agenda this afternoon. I may make a trip to Meijer, but don't know that I want to rush into anything <LOL> There are some sale items that I need to pick up today or tomorrow, but first I need to eat some lunch and then decide what's for dinner so I can start prepping. Right now that's a comfortable place to be.
Hope you are all having a great day!
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Post by ann1953 on Jan 19, 2017 19:13:17 GMT
Hi girls, yeah Sue to the indoor recess sunshine hug from your friend and most important that you are feeling more upbeat! Baby steps are a godsend during these times. ((((((((((hugs)))))))))))
Yeah Carolyn on the big thaw, veggie soup and your happy weigh ins. It takes time to get back to where you want to be. I know you can do it.
Kathy hope you find "J" to give him the phone. Carl sometimes forgets to turn his on LOL.
Judy have fun at TOPS.
I was very happy to be down .6 today! Evidently my wii is off! I was up this a.m. higher than 'normal'. The battery must be low, and sometimes it doesn't always tell me. I changed it, so it should be good to go tomorrow.
I received 2 more appointments in the mail today....one for an over the phone interview with the hospital at 11:00 on 1/30. Nice that I don't have to actually go in there to 'meet the press' so to speak. I'm all about answering questions in the comfort of my own home and in my pj's LOL. The other one is my follow up with my surgeon for March 1st. I tell you, this DANCE CARD is filling up pretty darn quickly. I told Carl that I will need to schedule a Chinese food fest soon LOL.
Yeah Art for getting in your steps.
I'm going to shut down now and just get comfy cozy. Hope everyone enjoys the rest of this day.
Ciao
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Post by judy709 on Jan 19, 2017 19:34:36 GMT
Sue, I'm glad you had a nice talk with your dear friend at work. Sometimes, for me, it is the kindness of others that brings me to tears faster than anything. People are really so goodhearted, aren't they? And when you are going through a rough patch, you really find out who the truly loving ones are. Remember that saying about how everyone wants to be your best friend when you are in the limousine, but what you really want is someone to take the bus with you! Maybe it was Oprah, but I've always liked that one. Your friend was very insightful to pick up on your feelings. That's a great pal.
Kathy, I am so sorry about the rear fender bender. That sounds like shades of me. I remember years ago when I was driving my dad's big fancy car. I backed up fast into a strong metal light pole in a parking lot! I did way more damage than you did, though. I sprung the trunk and did major damage. So, I have been there as I am sure most of us have. My neighbor took out her garage door gawking at a handsome lawn maintenance guy next door. LOL True story! And they say only men are gawkers! Not so. Thought that might make you smile.
I am down a half a pound this week and I'll take it. Inching towards my goal.
I am using a cheapo pair of headphones that have a hard headband around them so I can lower them. So far, so good!
We are planning our second movie night with my friend with cancer. As they say, no good deed goes unpunished. Ten people want to join us this month, but a few have TOO much input about where we have dinner, what theater we should go to, what movie we should see, etc. Ugh...some people can't just go with the flow. And, I did not ask for input. LOL I am of the firm belief that not everything should be accomplished by a committee! So, I just tell them-- "maybe next time." It's an invitation to join--either say yes, or decline, right? Sorry to be the whiner lately, but I love having a sounding board. The idea of the whole movie night is to put a smile on my friend's face not to cater to everyone's whims. I can't wait to see how they divide up the dinner bill. Maybe I should just order pizza and salad and have it brought to a conference room so we can eat before the movies. Any ideas, you party planners?
Back to work!
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Post by ann1953 on Jan 19, 2017 20:06:41 GMT
Judy you are most definitely a gal after my own heart. I say simplicity rules!!!!! If I were planning the movie and food, it would be a comedy and either the salad and pizza or salad and a cold cut tray. Win-Win all the way! People at times just really SUCK....
I had to get back online to make SURE that a certain someone was BLOCKED from email account. I'm sick and tired of the 'negative nellies' in life. I don't have any room for them and won't tolerate the sarcasm. I put up with it in the past but certainly not now when I have enough on my plate.
Okay, gals, my vent is over. I'm shutting down now.
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Post by ann1953 on Jan 19, 2017 20:09:42 GMT
Yeah Judy on being down .5!!!!! That is awesome, my friend!
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Post by suewms on Jan 19, 2017 21:13:44 GMT
Ann ~ Thanks for the reminder about baby steps. I want to be well right now! but I know that is unrealistic. I am so happy that your appointments are all getting put in place ahead of time, so you know exactly what to expect. DH had something similar when he had his hip replacement, and they called and told us where to be on what days and what to bring - and I was so grateful!! Congrats on your WL (and new batteries LOL).
Judy ~ You are right about "those friends" who sense our need. I have said very little at all about my medical/dental condition at school (yeah, seriously). Too much drama in that setting and too many people willing to devour any shred of news (translates to gossip) whether it's their business or not. My friend, Karen, is not one of those at all - and I shared with her today only because she looked deep inside me and asked what was going on and was not going to be put off (God love her!). I concur with keeping it simple with the movie night with your friend. It IS about her!! It isn't about anyone else. If they can't get on board with your intentions, they can plan their own movie night. Don't let that dissuade you at all!! I know with our Red Hat group if we have a movie/lunch day, the one person in charge of that month picks the movie and the lunch spot and notifies the rest of us. If we don't want to go, that's OK, but we don't make a mountain out of a molehill. Stick to your guns and remind them all that it is about HER - and come or not, no worries. If you want to order pizza that's fine - but if that's not what you and she want - then tell the rest of them you're going *here* and be prepared to buy their own dinner (they are, aren't they?) Congrats on your WL! You are so consistent - you are absolutely inspiring!
DH is off to sell some equipment this afternoon so I have some quiet time before we start supper preparations. That's always welcome. Later .....
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