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Post by Deleted on Feb 4, 2017 22:10:51 GMT
keshet51 Andi,We all have to do what works for us.I don't think I have ever accepted the "no choice" attitude.I always feel like I have a choice.In my case I have actually learned to like the healthier choices I make.That doesn't mean I don't take a bite of one of my DH's snacks and enjoy it too.I have learned to track that bite and I feel so much better about the "choice I made" to not be so strict and rigid with myself. Also,I'm not a longtime maintainer.I have been doing WW Online for 4.5-5 yrs trying to lose weight.I have yet to learn the yrs of maintaining that so many people have already gone thru.We are all in this together.We all still have our struggles and while I don't find it hard I can't say it will ever be easy either.
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Post by pbnj on Feb 4, 2017 22:34:07 GMT
keshet51 You sound a lot like me. Took one of the beginning tests and I come out as a "Rebel" (the GDT board has started a chapter by chapter review). Never in my life would I have thought I would be labeled that but as I read the chapters I find myself rebelling and having every one of the sabotaging thoughts listed!! But many, many of the strategies are spot on and I've incorporated them in my daily efforts---just not the 'do it or else' mentality. Maybe because I'm in a better place in my weight loss journey than a year ago. Looking forward to starting at the beginning of the book and working through with folks who are not as critical as some of the GDT ones!!
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Post by ladymajky on Feb 4, 2017 23:41:45 GMT
We are definitely not "critical" during the Beck review! We all know it's hard work, and we do what we can to help each other along and get through the hard parts. Shaming and scolding have no part in our review. Sabotaging thoughts are notorious for being sneaky and subtle and sounding so logical. What we can do is expose the scam that sabotaging thoughts perpetrate.
After 25 years of futile effort, I finally lost 72 pounds between July 2010 and March 2014. What with many attempts at WW, and go-rounds with Jenny Craig, Atkins, South Beach, and the cabbage soup diet, I became an expert at losing weight. Since March 2014 I have drifted up about four pounds. The whole idea of maintaining weight is new to me. I never maintained before. I find it to be very difficult, and a whole different mindset from losing. I have found the friendly advice on this thread invaluable.
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Post by ladymajky on Feb 4, 2017 23:51:07 GMT
I got sidetracked from something I wanted to say.
I am easily tempted by the lovely displays at the grocery of the cookies, cakes, ice cream, pies, breads, chips, ..... you get the idea. But then I look at what all is in the carts of the people who pick items up from these displays. And I look at them, and their family, and their children. And I remember the connection between the lovely displays, the contents of the carts, and the painful knees, aching hips, gut rolls, round cheeks, and skin tight clothing on the parents and on the children. I have to think about having those goodies, and not having those goodies. It was hard work, and it took over 25 years to get here, but every day I try to remember that I AM A THIN PERSON.
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Post by pbnj on Feb 5, 2017 0:13:55 GMT
ladymajky Carol Ann, I haven't accepted for one minute yet that I'm a thin person! In my mind I won't be "thin" until I lose at least 10 more pounds which may or may not ever happen! Right now I'm just accepting that I'm no longer "overweight" and have been able to 'maintain' for 4 months. I love your signature lines... "You're not hungry, you're bored." I walk around telling myself that often! And not putting food in my mouth when there is food there is a new awareness for me and I'm constantly amazed when I find myself doing it!
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Post by surfgirl on Feb 5, 2017 0:43:08 GMT
I got sidetracked from something I wanted to say. I am easily tempted by the lovely displays at the grocery of the cookies, cakes, ice cream, pies, breads, chips, ..... you get the idea. But then I look at what all is in the carts of the people who pick items up from these displays. And I look at them, and their family, and their children. And I remember the connection between the lovely displays, the contents of the carts, and the painful knees, aching hips, gut rolls, round cheeks, and skin tight clothing on the parents and on the children. I have to think about having those goodies, and not having those goodies. It was hard work, and it took over 25 years to get here, but every day I try to remember that I AM A THIN PERSON. Your post made me remember that when I'm in the supermarket, I too notice what others have in their carts and to be brutally honest, when I see an obese person, usually dragging along obese children, and they've got all this processed shit in their cart, I just say to myself, "surf, you sooo do not want to be like them, do you?" It's a very sobering moment for me, because if I allowed myself to give in to all the wants in the eating department, I would look like these folks, and I'd be very unhealthy. Interestingly, when I'm in either Whole Foods or Trader Joes, I usually see folks baskets and carts loaded up with healthier options. I mean, both places sell their own version of junk foods, but folks that shop the latter two stores always seem to shop more healthily. At least that's what I've noticed.
Okay, total random comment over...
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Post by Tammy on Feb 5, 2017 4:16:32 GMT
In June, I will be at goal for 5 years. I've maintained a 55+ pound loss. No quick, easy fixes for me. I'm pretty much doing what I've been doing all along, ever since I started WW.
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Post by Tammy on Feb 5, 2017 4:21:50 GMT
Getting thin in your head can be really difficult. I was overweight most of the time between having kids and 5 years ago - almost 25 years. One day I was shocked while waiting in line outside at a restaurant and I looked at all the people reflected in the glass window. I was much thinner than anyone else. I would not have said that without seeing it in the glass.
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Post by bbbearsmom on Feb 5, 2017 17:35:58 GMT
Great posts!
I use to read the GDT thread sometimes when we still had the boards on the WW website. Through it I found out that Beck did not approve of our thread because we were too easy about implementing what was in her book. I just don't want people to give up. Maybe not this time, or the next, but maybe the one after that things will start to fit together for someone. Yes, for me it did come down to me admitting Beck is right but I got there in my own way. Like I said the other day: I always liked what was said in the book but I'm am just not the type that would follow all of the directions. I'm really big on people hanging into the end of the review even if all they do is read the thread because to me it is important to see the whole arc of the book and to realize at the end you have put together skills that can give you the lifestyle you want.
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