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Post by cj59 on Dec 1, 2018 19:19:52 GMT
This is a monthly thread for those of us who have a lot of weight to lose. The definition of “a lot” is something that is determined personally, so everyone who feels they have a lot of weight to lose is welcome to post here.
Please join us in offering support, checking in for accountability, help with questions, etc. We’re in this for the long haul.
We’d also love to hear from those of you who are maintaining a large loss. We need those tips to help us to keep the weight off once we lose it
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Post by cj59 on Dec 1, 2018 19:24:40 GMT
Hello Everyone - Welcome to December sunrose - Hope you enjoy putting up your tree and the cookie baking - sounds like fun. DotRen - Those lawn decorations sounds neat. I would love to do up my whole yard with those things, but I don't want to do it where I live and just being myself - and I'm really too lazy to take care of them I do like to see the yards and houses decorated this time of year. Reminds me of when I was a child and we'd go out at night and see all the lights I've set a few daily goals for this month, so I hope that I can stick to them. I'm not going to worry about food too much and hopefully that will help me to stop the overeating so often. I'd like to work on not being so tough/hard on myself. I think that would be a good step in eating better and feeling better. Hope you are enjoying the weekend.
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Post by sunrose49 on Dec 2, 2018 12:58:01 GMT
Good morning
cj59, thanks for the December start. Gee December already. I think your plan sounds good. I need to work on the same with me "being so touch/hard on myself." I too use to love the lights when I was a kid.
DotRen, good luck decorating! I don't get into it as much as I use to. I put a few things up, but the mice got into some boxes in the basement and made a home. Ugh!
Off to my WW meeting. I think I will lose a pound--fingers crossed.
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Post by DotRen on Dec 2, 2018 14:52:01 GMT
Just a quick good morning and hope you have a wonderful day
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Post by cj59 on Dec 2, 2018 17:53:06 GMT
Hello Everyone sunrose - good luck at your meeting. I rarely go out on the weekend but I got up early and went to do some shopping. Target has a special today only that their gift cards are 10% off. You can buy up to a maximum of $300. I bought $200 worth and saved $20 - a really great deal - free money! I usually send these cards to a few family members that live out of state. Traffic was light and there weren't a lot of people in the stores and I was back home by 10:00 A.M., so it worked out well. I met my fitness and eating goals yesterday, so that's 1/31, hoping for 31 days in a row I'd really like to get into Intuitive Eating, but I'm not sure I'd ever be able to live that way. I think it would take a long time for my mind to disconnect from thinking that foods are either "good" or "bad". Hope you are all enjoying your weekend.
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Post by DotRen on Dec 3, 2018 12:13:04 GMT
We managed to get the tree up and a few lights. I told DH if he didn't get off his butt and help me, I was going to shove a candy can up his.. well - and put HIM in the yard decorated with the untangled lights lol. He helped My diet was somewhere in the North Pole with Santa this weekend. Ugh. Back on track today I hope. I really need to make an effort to eat veggies every day. The romaine recall and all the others in the past few months has really made me lose my love of veggies and salads. Or at least I think that's a big part of my subconscious with it since I normally could eat a big salad every day until all this started. Anyway, I hope your week is off to a good start
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Post by wwlurker on Dec 3, 2018 13:48:37 GMT
cj59, I happened to be lurking (hence my name lol) had to pop in and comment on the Intuitive Eating thing. I've been toying with it forever. I've really been working on my relationship with food and trying to reject diet culture (hence why I'm not around much anymore). I just think that we are so conditioned to think that there's something wrong with us so that diet companies can make a buck. It's everywhere. It's definitely a process and I'm not even close to being there yet. I go in phases where I do better than others. I read the Intuitive Eating book, a book or two by Geneen Roth, and the Beck Diet Solution (not the same, I know). I also listed to intuitive eating podcasts. I've read a lot about bingeing an restriction and how bingeing is a reaction to restriction. Basically, the thought is that if you stop the restriction, the bingeing will take care of itself. I've curated my social media feeds to ensure that lots of different body types are represented. I try to remind myself that the end game is a healthy relationship with food, not so much losing weight. I haven't weighed myself in months. I've also not lost anything as far as I can tell. My hope is that one day, I'll have a normal relationship with food and my weight will settle where it wants to be. Of course, a large part of me hopes that it settles somewhere about 80 pounds less than where it was when I last weighed myself. But I'm trying to accept that it may not. I don't binge or often eat way too much anymore. I am much more likely to leave food on my plate. My main issue seems to be not paying attention to what I'm eating. I can do a lot of damage by not noticing how many cookies I've eaten. I need to work on the mindfulness part. Sometimes I track but I try to keep it more for informational purposes than for restricting. If I find I'm feeling like I'm restricting, I'll stop for a while. I also need to start just plain taking better care of myself. I make sure that my kids eat well, go to bed early and bathe & brush their teeth regularly. I'm trying to look at self care as simply doing those things for myself as well. What I do know is that I feel like I've been had by diet companies and media. I don't think I'd ever join a paid program again. All of this is to say that I think that it's definitely worth looking into. It doesn't happen overnight, but I think that I have a much healthier attitude towards food and body image than I ever had before, even though I'm probably at my biggest. But to me, the peace of mind is priceless. Good luck!
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Post by sunrose49 on Dec 3, 2018 14:15:50 GMT
Good morning
cj59, I saw the Target special on the gift cards. Pretty cool. I really don't have much shopping to do this year.
wwlurker, it's good to see you. I often thing about my younger years when I really did not think about food one way or another. We had 3 meals a day and maybe a snack. Then I met a boy that had opinions about my weight. After that I had eating issues with several men. And you are right the companies are not helpful!
DotRen, too funny about your husband. Did he help?
I was sick yesterday. Feeling better today and the sun is out. I will get out a couple times for a walk.
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Post by cj59 on Dec 3, 2018 21:42:22 GMT
Hello Everyone DotRen - That's a pretty funny story about getting your husband to help you I'm a bit scared to eat any salads at restaurants now. I do like iceberg lettuce more than others, so I can make a good salad with that as the base. It's really scary how many of our foods have problems. I have the same issue with fresh poultry - I can rarely bring myself to cook with it, I prefer to buy already cooked poultry. sunrose - Hope you continue to feel better. It's really sad how people can make us feel bad about ourselves, isn't it? I'm sorry those men said anything to you. I've felt bad about my body since I was a child, and it's a bad mindset to break. wwlurker - It's so good to see you. Thanks so much for all your thoughts and information on Intuitive Eating. I've done the Beck Diet Solution reviews a few times too. I'm glad that you are working on your relationship with food, I do believe that's the key. Sometimes we just have to do what we have to each day to make it through and I'm sure with a family and job, that's even tougher for you. I really think I have to make a choice soon between continuing on a "diet" path with food - restrictions, eating plans, etc., or eating whatever I want but learning that no food is bad and that I need to listen to my body and mind when choosing what to eat. I had hoped that after over 2 years of sticking to a plan I could live that for life, but I know that all my bingeing is the result of food restrictions. So I either accept that I really just can't eat some foods ever again or learn to only eat them when I really want to. It helps to be able to share here and know you understand, thanks
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Post by DotRen on Dec 4, 2018 10:11:57 GMT
sunrose49, he helped lol. I think he knew I was serious I hope you're feeling better. cj59, I just don't know why there have been so many contaminations. It's scary. If I didn't have a brown (black!) thumb, I'd grow my own, but I can't even grow basil, which is like the simplest thing to grow lol. I don't know if I could grow weeds! wwlurker, hello:) Well I've been up since 2am because my dog decided he needed to go out. I don't know how people who have to walk their dogs do it lol. We have a fenced back yard, so he just goes out and does his stuff.
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Post by sunrose49 on Dec 4, 2018 12:01:34 GMT
Good morning
cj59, yes, it was cruel actually of the men I was with to have such nasty things to say about my body. My ex-husband even said "sorry, but most men want the bathing suit woman" ugh--glad he is my ex.
DotRen, glad your husband helped out..lol My sister is like you when it comes to growing stuff.
Waving to all
I plan to hit my steps today. Headed out at 9:00 to walk with my friend and then this afternoon will walk with my doggie friend (baby ;-)
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Post by sunrose49 on Dec 5, 2018 13:55:11 GMT
Good morning
Just a howdy for now. Hope everyone is doing well.
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Post by DotRen on Dec 5, 2018 14:44:26 GMT
*waves* I did pretty well yesterday. Cleaned house and that had to be 100000 calories burned lol. Got my veggies in. I'm thinking about making these red velvet cheesecake brownies for DH to take to work and share. They look pretty simple. I'm not a fan of using a lot of food color, so if I make these for here at home, I'll probably just leave that out. red velvet cheesecake brownies
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Post by cj59 on Dec 5, 2018 21:39:07 GMT
Hello Everyone DotRen - those brownies look delicious and so pretty. Let us know if you make them and how they turn out. I've made brownies from scratch a few times, but I have to admit I really prefer the box mix brownies I would love to get a dog again, but thinking about getting up early in the morning and staying up later at night to take the dog out, makes me realize I shouldn't get another dog. They are wonderful companions though. sunrose - Hope you are getting in your steps and doing well. I'm still eating badly and now I'm starting to feel the effects of gaining weight back, so I hope that gives me "kick in the head" and gets me back on track. I'm still getting in fruits, vegetables, dairy, water and steps each day - but I'm eating too much sugar. That is really my main addiction. I'm going to have to read up on giving up sugar cold turkey, because I think I really need to do that. Enjoy the rest of your day
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Post by irisinnia on Dec 6, 2018 21:31:59 GMT
Hey everyone!
Long time no see! I’m doing awful. Up 2.2 this week to 224. I was setting my goals up for 2019 and this weight is really the weak link in my life. Everything else is going great or could be kicked up a notch with a little more time or a little more effort. Weight loss... seems like lifting a boulder.
I’m seeking you all out because I need a serious kick in the pants from people that get it.
Thanks for being here!
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