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Post by bbbearsmom on Feb 15, 2017 14:22:03 GMT
This is from Colleen:
Do you believe the more we focus on giving ourselves what we really truly want, of fulfilling our deepest desires, the less we struggle with food and weight and the more we thrive? |
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Post by bbbearsmom on Feb 15, 2017 14:25:07 GMT
I don't think this applies to me. Maybe I'm just not a deep thinker. The eating issue was mostly me learning to overeat and not getting that I needed to change my habits. Part of that was I don't think I thought I could change and wasn't sure how to keep it up when life got in the way.
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Post by keshet51 on Feb 15, 2017 14:41:46 GMT
I'm with you, Judy, don't think this really applies to me. For years I thought it did, endless therapy, work on myself, spiritual work through OA and nothing made any difference until I "got" it with Beck and the fact that I needed to change my brain and that in fact I could. I've had very satisfying and happy times in my life and am generally pretty content so I don't think my eating issues have anything to do with deeper unfulfilled needs. And when I've had unhappy times I didn't necessarily overeat more - in fact during my last divorce 8 years ago, I lost a lot of weight and didn't think about food much at all. For me I think that I got used to using food to meet every sign of discomfort and it was hard to disconnect from this.
A book that got me started on this path of understanding my brain was something called Brain Over Binge which talks about how our brains are wired and where the impulse to binge comes from. But I didn't get the tools to actually "fix" this until Beck.
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Post by doordie50 on Feb 15, 2017 14:45:08 GMT
Judy I'm really sorry to hear what happened with the extinguisher yesterday - that must have been so scary. Wow what a mess!
To the topic, this is one that doesn't really apply to me. I never equated food with love or used it as a substitution for something lacking that I'm aware of. I just never understood the concept of portion control and grew up eating as fast as lightning. I've actually made some bad food choices at times of deep contentment.
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Post by jamescat1 on Feb 15, 2017 17:33:30 GMT
It doesn't apply to me either. I feel that my struggle with food and weight is always there no matter what else is going on in my life.
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Post by surfgirl on Feb 15, 2017 18:05:17 GMT
I'm with you guys, I don't think this statement applies to me either. I struggle with eating too much good food. Sometimes I binge on snacky stuff, but I don't think it's because I'm inherently unhappy or unfulfilled.
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Post by jancanlose2016 on Feb 15, 2017 21:21:12 GMT
I don't think this applies to me either. If food's available I'm available to eat it.
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Post by ladymajky on Feb 16, 2017 0:01:46 GMT
I'll join you all on the "does not apply" couch. I feel like I gained my weight through inattention to consequences. If I saw food, I ate food. I never stopped to think that I couldn't eat it all every day. I was doing WW, or some other program, throughout that time. I just had trouble applying the rules to myself and my life. Or remembering in the throes of the moment that I was supposed to be controlling things. Like Andi, the strategies and mind-games that Beck outlines made all the difference.
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Post by bbbearsmom on Feb 16, 2017 1:51:22 GMT
Great posts today.
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Post by Tammy on Feb 16, 2017 7:10:18 GMT
Well, I have used food to simulate happiness. And I've used food to avoid an unpleasant task. And I've used food to avoid dealing with problems.
OA was helpful to me. I had some really self-destructive binges before OA. Beck was also helpful. I am a multi-talented overeater. I can overeat for many different reasons.
The question:
Do you believe the more we focus on giving ourselves what we really truly want, of fulfilling our deepest desires, the less we struggle with food and weight and the more we thrive?
I think sort of the opposite. Being fat made me really unhappy. I needed to solve that problem before I could move on to solving other problems. I think you accept a diet, quit struggling, and then you learn to deal with the other problems in your life.
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Post by bbbearsmom on Feb 16, 2017 16:43:36 GMT
I think sort of the opposite. Being fat made me really unhappy. I needed to solve that problem before I could move on to solving other problems. I think you accept a diet, quit struggling, and then you learn to deal with the other problems in your life. So true! |
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