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Post by success4susie on Nov 18, 2020 11:31:28 GMT
This thread is for anyone that has been away from healthy eating, had a gain and is recommitting. We accept all forms of healthy eating here, whatever that means to you. We touch base daily for accountability and to encourage one another. This is a judgment free zone.
We all struggle to get the weight off and keep it off. Sometimes this is a challenge, but we never give up and that is the key. Regardless of our situation or where we are in reaching our goal, we count on talking to each other every day and are blessed to have one another as friends.
All are welcome here.
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Post by success4susie on Nov 18, 2020 11:33:50 GMT
Good Brrrr Morning...oh my golly, it is 27 degrees here and I have outdoor exercise this morning...cheez! Although it was chilly around the fire pit last night...I guess that was almost balmy compared to this morning - lol. Just decided to get us started - hope everyone has a great day.
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Post by Jarmstrong on Nov 18, 2020 12:52:38 GMT
Good morning.
I woke up and I am incredibly grumpy today. I have a big cup of coffee and trying to start my day and find a positive attitude - but struggling a little bit.
Susie enjoy your outdoor class.
Waving to everyone. I hope everyone has a great day.
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Post by LR63402 on Nov 18, 2020 13:12:19 GMT
Good morning friends.
Well, today was the day. I got up and as soon as my bare feet hit the tile in the bathroom, I knew I'd be finally turning on the heat for the first time. haha! It was 59 inside (34 outside), so I made my wishy-washy goal of waiting until the inside temp dropped below 60. I'm enjoying a coffee right now and waiting for it to heat up a little bit before I jump in the shower. haha.
The barbacoa last night was Deeeeeeelicious and we have enough left over for tonight as well. So unless Mark wants otherwise, we're already good to go for this evening. I can always pack up the meat and freeze it if he doesn't want it again tonight.
I did hear from DD last night and they're going to drive over on Wed. afternoon and head back home Saturday morning. That actually works out perfect, as we will offer DMIL and DFIL that we can go over to their house Saturday afternoon to watch the football game (this is a game that DH and DFIL almost ALWAYS watch together in person). But anyway, us going over for the game should smooth over that we won't see them on T.giving day (hopefully...Lol). I'll have to think up something good to take as our gameday snacks/meal so DMIL won't have to do a lot of work.
Susie - thanks for starting us! Glad that you got to have one last meeting around the fire pit.
Janet - IF you guys do shut back down, would you be able to make another request for a hotspot or air card or some other device to get the tablet online? Maybe they just forgot about once the previous shut down ended. I mean, seriously how can they expect you to do your job if you don't have the needed tools to do them? Also sorry about your slackerssisstant (I'll keep thinking to come up with a better name for her). Although, I'm wondering what is it that she actually does do to help you?
Jana - I hope you shake those grumpies, girl! Letting them go will make the work day pass a whole lot faster! Think of your coffee as your mystical magical happy drink. 
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Post by success4susie on Nov 18, 2020 19:01:21 GMT
I had 4 layers on the top this morning and 2 on the bottom... I got rid of 2 from the top, plus my hat, gloves, and scarf by the time we finished - lol! Our instructor worked hard to get us warmed up. I can't believe 15 showed up for the class...these people are troopers!
I played mah jongg and am now in for the rest of the day... I picked up some fabric from our "sweatshop" boss (our endearing term for the gal in charge of our Stitch Therapy group) and may work on cutting some children's masks since more schools are asking for them now. However, for the time being, I am going to read by the fireplace.
Jana - sure hope the grumpies disappeared quickly...remember your motto: fake it til you make it!
Lora - Ok, if you have finally turned on the heat, winter has arrived - lol....WONDERFUL that everything has worked out for Thanksgiving weekend - yippee!
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Post by LR63402 on Nov 18, 2020 23:43:04 GMT
Susie - Wow lady! Yes, you and your friends are most definitely troopers! Had to LOL at the "sweatshop" boss comment. Back in the spring when you all started with the masks, who would have ever thought that you'd still be making them at this point, dang it.
Mark reached out to his mom and they are fine with the plan for the holiday weekend. I'm not sure what all we'll be eating there, but DFIL has requested that I make my green beans. Lol.
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Post by Jarmstrong on Nov 18, 2020 23:53:15 GMT
Ladies I am coming here because I am not sure where else to go.
I am struggling and I don't know what my problem is. All I want to do is stay in bed and sleep. I was not in the greatest mood today and I was really trying to just push through work and just be there and do what needed to be done.
I don't know if you remember my "friend" that I had been super close to - She and I went through our last divorces together, I was her Maid of Honor when she got remarried, threw her bachelorette party, baby reveals and baby showers for both of her children, was their god mother - etc. DH and I spent so many weekends with them. She went through a bad divorce from her 2nd husband (kids' father). He was abusive - an alcoholic - had been in a bad car accident that left him partially disabled - so over the last 10 years it was a lot. I always showed up for her - when her kids were born, during the bad time with her husband - so fast forward to last year. When my DM got sick - and I spent the last 3 weeks of her life with her by her side rarely leaving her - and then her passing away. I didn't reach out to very many people - but this "friend" knew what I was going through. She never once text me, called me, sent me a FB message - nothing. When my mom did pass away - nothing - like literally nothing. Not an I'm sorry - not I have been busy and haven't been able to take 2 minutes to send you a message nothing. She did text me about 2 weeks after my mom passed away to complain about her ex husband. I was so hurt that I did not respond to her message. Oh and on top of all that, her ex husband called me the night of my mom's funeral and talked to me and told me he was sorry, and that he had been thinking about me and knew we weren't close but he just wanted to let me know he was thinking about me.
Last week was her DD birthday - it was on my calendar so obviously I was thinking about it. Today I received a text message from her. It basically said "i know we aren't talking but "we" have been thinking about you and Olivia misses you" (Olivia is the daughter) I thought I had all of her information blocked so I was caught off guard by the message to begin with - I responded "do you even know why we aren't talking" and her respond was "because I wasn't there for you during your mom's passing"
I haven't responded - and that was the extent of the conversation. I just left it until this evening - to see if she had anything else to say and nothing. I figured I have given her enough time that if she wanted to add anything. I made sure she is blocked again on all my social media, on my phone etc - I don't know what to do with the emotions this stirred up. I couldn't concentrate at work- so I came home. I took something and I went to bed and slept for 3 hours.
I know I just can't let this take any more of my head space or my heart space - but I don't know what to do with it. I am not sure the point of her message unless it was to remind me Oh hey I am still here and I still don't give a crap about you. I don't know -I don't really THINK that was the purpose of the message was.
I just know that I am not ok and I don't know how to be ok. I don't want to engage with her and end up feeling even more hurt and frustrated.... I just don't know what to do.
Anyway - that is my daily "poor me" post. Don't feel like you need to respond - I guess I just needed to get it out somewhere that I feel safe and I definitely feel safe with all of you.
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Post by LR63402 on Nov 19, 2020 1:14:14 GMT
Jana - Is this your friend whose husband was in the motorcycle accident - not that it really matters, I was just trying to remember. Honestly, it sounds like she is a user and doesn't know how to give back what she is so good at taking. That's fairly common with toxic narcissists, I think. I really think this is something that you need to just release into the universe. You don't need one more thing to think about, to obsess over, to cause you worry, pain and stress. So just refuse to give it time. Maybe write it down on paper and then toss that paper into the fireplace or firepit or whatever. Kind of like an exorcism of those feelings, pull them out and let them go. Then it's not yours to carry around for one minute longer.
Sending many, many hugs your way.
Respect yourself enough to say "I deserve peace." Then walk away from people and things that prevent you from attaining it. ~ Jerico Silvers
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Post by robinmd on Nov 19, 2020 1:30:46 GMT
Hello all,
Jana, it is good to have a place you feel safe to really say what is on your mind and heart. I am glad you did, and I totally understand the reasons for your feelings about this person in your life. I sure agree with Lora, and it is good that you blocked her from causing those feelings to come up again and cause you so much distress. I'm sorry you are having a rough time right now.
Lora, I had to turn up the heat, too! It was cold this morning, and it will be colder tomorrow morning...and we will be back up to the mid-60's by the weekend. Are you also expecting a warm-up?
Janet, your co-worker irritates ME, and I'm just reading about it! You have so much patience, I swear.
Susie, you guys are motivated and dedicated! No one wanted to miss the last outdoor workout. Won't the first one in the spring be wonderful?
I hope DH doesn't lose his fitness access. That was so hard on him.
I wanted to check in and say hi...work is busy. It makes the day go by pretty quickly in hindsight, but while I'm going through it, the day seems to be unending. I need to pack a lunch for tomorrow, but the coffee pot is set and ready. I am going to head on up for the night and see if I can't get a good night's sleep. I hope everyone is has a good day tomorrow. Waving to all,
RobinMD
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