Joan, OMG! I can't believe that happened to you. I hope they didn't take anything valuable! what is with the police not coming to investigate before you could get there. Do you have security cameras?
It's been really busy for us since last Thurs. our car broke down on our way to Boston...it's a 2015 bmw with less than 11,000 miles on it!!! Ugh, it's in CT right now we had a rental to go back home, and we will have to drive back up there to pick up our car when it's fixed, some time this week. Also my sister and I are in the middle of fast pace process of buying my mom a house in close to where my aunt just bought a house in a 55+ community so my mom can be close to my aunt. We are putting a bid in on a house tomorrow sight unseen. It is a crazy market.
Wow, Sue, how does a car with 11,000 miles break down? What the heck!
Housing is insane—good luck with getting the house—out here the prices are sky high with people bidding up over selling price—it’s nuts. And then there’s cars—we took my Subaru Forrester in for a recall check this morning—there literally is not one 2021 car for sale on the entire huge lot or in the store—the guy said that every car shipping in for the next several months is already sold sight unseen. Used cars are super expensive. The world is just upside down!
filed the final police report—only three things missing—pr. Of earrings DH gave me when dating, a nice necklace I bought from an artist and an antique knife of DH’s. We have not really valuable things and they only trashed the master bedroom/closet/bathroom/linen closet. Sort of feel sorry for the guy—he didn’t get much for all thr trouble and risk he took! They are installing a new window next week. Apparently this guy was casing the neighborhood—two neighbors saw him and at their own houses and one scared him off—at one place he was on the Ring video but they did not answer ( he was checking for cameras and security as they watched. That night he showed up again and the ring video notified them—they flipped on all the backyard lights and when they viewed the dark video they could hear the click of their side gate as he ran off when the lights came on. He thought they were gone because they did not answer the doorbell. Am sure that was our guy as well. He did not come to the door as we have no video notice. Didn’t trip the impact alarm as he cushioned his glass cracking with a pillow—stayed out of the main part of the house where we have motion detectors. But he didn’t vandalize so I am thankful! Could have been so much worse. Just really angry that he kept me from my time with the girls.
I have been sort of an emotional mess—all this stress has triggered some memories related to my own personal eating disorder—which I feel I am working on openly for the first time ever—it’s pretty “deep”—also having some issues handling the anxiety related to all that happened and to my kids—hard for me to not “worry” and lose sleep and I am noticing that I can’t seem to let it go —so am calling my dr and ask about some help for anxiety. DD from CA has become so obese—eating compulsively—and that triggered memories of my own bad place I was in for years—so this morning I unloaded what life was really like to DH—we talked for a long time—he did not know that I was a closet eater and had no idea that I went through some months of purging and bingeing. I sort of buried all that but I think when I’m under super stress all that comes back and I start migrating to old behaviors. This time is different tho—I think I’m becoming stronger—but remembering and facing what it was like has been super emotional and stressful. Also, I may be letting go of food as the comfort I reach for—whatever it is, I think I need some help to deal with all of it. Meanwhile, I have lost another 2 pounds over about the last three weeks—I tried on my size 6 dress I’d set a goal to fit into and now it actually looks really good—I had ice cream with the family twice—something that is in the past hard to do—so enjoyed it but did not crave more—baby steps forward! My new goals include not every eating those super pleasurable foods alone—but to allow myself to enjoy them with another person so the food doesn’t become the focus—amazing you can be almost 77 and have this much stuff to work on yourself!
DH is working at installing a lot of new security things that we monitor ourselves—we will also get the shield stuff put on our windows in the bedroom and the den—Police officer said breakins everywhere are way up.
If Vegas housing landlords start evicting we are predicted to have 100,000 people evicted and homeless—how can this be America? I cannot imagine what this generation of children will be like if this comes to pass.
I wish airlines would require proof of vaccination. So proud of NYC mayor for deciding it was time. This is ridiculous! If you basic human right gives you the right to potentially kill others something is wrong!
Joan, I'm sorry you're going through so much stress and anxiety. I think the majority of people are too. I know I wake up every morning feeling anxious about everything that is going on with family, SO, health, etc. I think it's good for you to discuss with your Dr. I have been thinking that I need to take some medication for that as well.
Been soooo busy, my mom's bid for a house close to her sister in NJ has just been accepted. We had been looking in that area for the past several weeks. Lots to do for mom as well as for our own move. Of course my sister does a ton for my mom. Also our car is still waiting for a part in CT.
Tonight I'm taking my third nephew out for his graduation dinner, another prix fixe dinner at a James Beard award winning chef!
I have been on anti anxiety medicine for several years now. It really helps even things out. I can do library instruction sessions without too many problems now, whereas before the thought of even speaking to people in a group setting was paralyzing. My BP has been great since also. It is worrisome that so many people are experiencing anxiety to the point of needing meds. I think the media and constant connection to world events is partly to blame.
Joan, I’m glad it wasn’t worse. People are just out of their minds these days.
Sue, I’m glad you were able to find a house for your mom. Let us know how the dinner went.
Sue, am so glad you got the house for your mom—here it is just awful with house hunters bidding over asking prices—keep wondering when the bubble is going to pop. I’m sorry you, too, are experiencing anxiety—and hoping SO is okay. I had another wakeful two hours last night from 12:30 to 3:45 about—just read my book. My brain gets in a worry loop and reading does sort of drown it out if I am into the book enough. Finally told myself I would do two things on Monday—call two people—Dr. and therapist (to hunt for one) which I kept saying I would do, then I’d have a relatively good couple days and put it off. It’s time.
Holly, what are you on? DGD20 went off her meds—Zoloft I think—in Jan—did not realize that—she feels she is somewhat bipolar and wants to be reevaluated—not super manic/depressive but worries she will someday become that—For some reason she is managing school in spite of being off which is an amazing thing—so guessing some of her inability to do that before had to do with immaturity as well. I do worry tho (yup, again) that she is taking too heavy an academic load this fall—is going to quit her job for a semester and thinks she can do 17 credits but that’s a lot.
We are having lettuce wraps tonight—they are made other than crisping the lettuce—decided not to do clay till tomorrow as we had housecleaning and so ran errands for a couple hours+ this morning and they were not done till after lunch time. I walked and then have walked a ton since. DH has been having knee problems so has a appt end of august and has not been able to walk with me. We are Smokey and gray today from all the forest fires north of NV—it was so bad this morning it smelled Smokey even in our house. In Reno DGS20 had soot on his car this morning! DD in Sacramento is losing her voice from air quality.
I had another massage on Friday—she worked on my bicep/tricep problems and really worked on my left forearm—OMG, that helped release my fingers which have been threatening to become trigger fingers—when I had the one cortisone shot for my index trigger finger he said that people who have had carpal tunnel surgery typically get trigger finger issues later in life—dang—solve one big problem and cause another. He did my carpal tunnel surgeries back in 2004. Anyway I will go weekly for massages and she will keep working on both forearms and see if she can continue to release fingers. The others don’t actually catch yet but I can feel them moving that direction.
Holly, I am reading West with the Giraffes—have you read it—based on a true event when the San Diego Zoo’s head keeper (the only woman one in the world at that time) arranged to bring two giraffes over the ocean and to San Diego—it’s pretty engaging.
Have you all watched Unforgotton on PBS Masterpiece Mystery Theatre? It has four seasons—fourth one is showing now—and it’s so fantastic—wonderful acting, writing, drama—I binge watched the whole 3 back seasons after watching the 4th! Because we contribute to PBS we can get all the episodes at once on Apple TV.
Have you had your last nephew dinner out yet, Sue?
SO has started packing up his books and paintings. He ordered hundreds of boxes and packing material. Unfortunately 2 nights ago a 7' tall empty book shelf fell on his foot. OMG he drives me crazy, he thinks he can do anything! Luckily, nothing broken, just swelling on the top of his foot and a lot of pain the first night. He put ice on it and a light compression bandage and took some advil. Of course the next morning he started up with the packing again.
The dinner with my 3rd nephew was great. I just love spending one on one time with them. They are each so different but all are such nice boys, and very open with me. The dinner was very good...8 courses, very small portions, seasonal with local ingredients. I ordered the wine pairing to go with it too for the both of us. I've done that before with the older brothers, trying to expose them to fine dining and wines. SO hates tasting menus because he is so limited in what he likes to eat (and it's getting worse with age) - I told the boys they will have to be the ones I go out with for these types of meals.
Joan, SO has been taking what he calls "happy pills" for years. It has helped but he says it kind of dims some emotion. Whatever the case, I think it's better for him. It helps with stress, anger, anxiety and he can just let things go a bit and not dwell on things making him miserable.
Holly, when does school start for you? How are you and DBF doing these days?
We did not get the first house that we bid on, we came late into that one and there were already multiple bids in the mix - and we offered a lot more. But we got the second one, which we also bid more for, I think we were one of the first to see it. It's smaller and not as close to my aunt's house, but I think it is in better condition. We had to quickly get a lawyer to look at the contract and this week an inspection. My mom can't handle any of these things it's all on my sister and me.
So the car is still in CT. They don't even have an ETA on the part that they need. Good thing SO and I live in the city and never drive anyway!
Scary when accidents like that happen to us—the bookshelves! So glad nothing was broken. At my age it’s just one silly little mistake that can change our lives!
I had my first counseling session yesterday—will do that weekly. She wants me to go to a special dietician for eating disorders—who will work in tandem with her—I will do that—the goal being to de-obsess about food—she pointed out that while I am in a good place managing my weight now, I am also working at it like a major thesis project! And that’s true—I track and plan and calculate and weigh—so much wasted time thinking and planning for food consumption—she said that alone creates a brain function that creates stress. I went to the nutritionist yesterday too—will not see her for another 2 months—I am down now 25 #—only want to lose about 3 more and then just maintain.
Today I have a massage—thank goodness—she is going to work on my right elbow and hand—my trigger finger as of yesterday seems to be back almost fully—so frustrating.
Our mornings are now running about 79º so walking is lovely—that may sound warm but in a dry climate is actually a nice cool temp. It’s getting up to about 102-104 but that’s super bearable here if the evenings cool down.
My youngest DGS was here on Monday for one night with DDIL—park ranger son’s wife. H e has grown so much since December when he was about 4 in taller than me—he is now 6 ft—how the heck does a body grow that fast in 8 months! He has grown his hair long and is quite thin but fit—and super handsome now—and mature—so often it wasn’t fun to be around him but the transformation is amazing! He is mixing music and has gotten all kinds of DJ jobs in their small community—making good money—pretty amazing for a kid almost 16. He’s taught himself—also taught himself to drum—and he’s pretty good.
DGD21 flies back to NYC today after nearly a month at home with her cat, Nick. Still feel so sad about only having two days with her. Still planning to go on the 31st for her birthday the next day—hoping I have the courage to do it. DH will stay home and let me go on my own—
DH yesterday installed a whole new router system and everything is working so fast! Everything is computer operated here—lights, sprinklers, alarm system, cameras, thermostat—he created a new network and managed the whole system cross over—pretty proud of that—not as much cursing as usual either!
I keep hanging more clothes in my “need altering” space—my WW BF from years ago will alter for me—she owes me a ton of favors—told her yesterday when she was apologizing for all the computer “fixing” I do for her that I was soon calling in all my markers! LOL. Some things I will just have to get rid of—but not saving any larger clothes this time. However, I’m so glad I saved my smaller clothes—enough that I have things that fit right—some of my shirts and pants however are going to have to be retired as they are just too baggy and look sloppy.
Hope your school start up is smooth, Holly—already with public school four days in there are murmurings of covid cases. So scary.
The first day of class is Wednesday, so everyone moved in this weekend. They are offering vaccination clinics twice this semester, but they want everything to be as normal as possible with face to face classes and activities.
It is so humid here. Tomatoes are coming in pretty quickly. I planted a salad mix and will plant onion, broccoli and radishes soon. I heard that radishes are really good roasted, but I thought I would give them a try.
Joan, I take Prozac. I started out on celexa, but it messed with my stomach. 17 hours is a lot, but I guess it also depends on the type of classes she is taking. I have not read that book, but will check it out.
Sue, men are so stubborn! Haha. I am glad it wasn’t broken. BF is similar about tastes. I am trying to introduce him to different types of food because he is used to fast food and frozen meals. It is funny to watch when he tries new stuff and expects to hate it, but ends up liking it. We are doing fine. We’re both loners, so trying to figure out how to find that balance has been challenging. We are getting out more at least. Going to see a couple of shows in Charlotte this fall.
That’s really nice to hear, Holly, about you and your BF—planning activities and working him toward better food choices.
I started counseling—have a second session tomorrow—all virtual. I’ve been working on painting my dessert bowls—bisque fired four of them but I dropped on and broke it! Geez! Clutz that I am! I have four more to paint and bisque fire—am waiting on some more glaze i ordered—everything seems to be in short supply or delayed any more.
I think I am going to NYC for the 21st birthday—DH will stay home which will allow DD to stay with me—perhaps allow us some time to talk which we were really shorted by the beach debacle.
DGD20 called me two days ago and we chatted for about 45 min—talked about how worried both of us are about DD—I shared my eating history with her and she told me that her counselor diagnosed her as having a binge eating disorder—which she is now managing—she looks really good—never started purging so that’s good. Her classes start the 9th so she is really enjoying a bit of free time other than work days.
DH has been installing all the new security system parts—a lot less cursing than I expected, but some.
yesterday I wrenched my neck somehow and spent the day using my tens unit and icing and heating—it’s way better today but still not full range of motion looking left. My masseuse will probably help with that on Friday!
We are tearing out the raised beds, Holly. Today we ordered some 24 X 83” X 30” garden troughs for my gardening for standing up—two—I cannot wait—will be so much better! And that’s plenty of space what with the pots that I already use for tomatoes. Our gardener will tear out the old beds and we will pay him to get soil and fill the troughs when we get them put together.
Very tired—got to get down on the floor and do my stretches—hope you all had a good weekend.
Hi! Quick post, checking in, I am reading the posts. We've been so, so busy. In between packing and helping my mom with buying the new house (dealing with lawyers, house inspections, contract negotiations, etc) I think we overpaid, ugh. We lost the first house we bid on and I think we didn't want to let this one go. We have over 200 boxes packed now and have gotten rid of a ton of stuff. SO is such a hoarder. I told him to really think about what we can throw out because we don't want to bring these boxes into the new house and then just leave the the boxes in a closet for the next 5 years.
Hope to check in again this weekend with some personals.
It has been so busy here with everything. More of the same, packing, mom's new house issues - we are still negotiating with sellers, and honestly hope it doesn't go through. We went into it too quickly. Good lesson for us. If we do end up with it, it's not the end of the world, just money lost if we sell it later at a loss.
Joan, how are your counseling sessions going? I think most people obsess about food, one way or another. Most people I know have issues. How is your trigger finger? Is it painful? Are you still flying to NYC in a few days? I am doing the opposite of you, getting rid of my "skinny" clothes and buying larger sizes now
Holly, how are the classes going? It's great you are getting your BF to try new things, and that he is willing to do so. Trips to Charlotte sounds fun, I've never been there and have heard good things.
It's been so hot here, the humidity is terrible, I want to take a shower after every time I step out of the house.
Early last week, SO and I took my 3rd and 4th nephews out to a final dinner before my 4th nephew left for Boston C on Thurs. We went to the Comcast 2 tower in the city, built 2 years ago and is the tallest building in the city. The Four Season's hotel is on the top floors and we went to the restaurant on the highest level 60 stories. Their formal restaurant is a Philly outpost of the NYC Jean Georges. It is still closed due to the pandemic, but the bar and more casual restaurant is open and that's where we went. The hotel/restaurant is very NYC glitzy and the boys loved it. From the ground floor building lobby there are glass elevators with a view of the city that take you directly up to the 60th floor with no stops. The boys were impressed, probably the most fancy environment they have ever been in. I ordered a special caviar appetizer (very pricey), cut it into thirds and gave my nephews a taste (SO hates caviar). The older one LOVED it, said it was the best thing he ever tasted, the youngest one hated it, haha. We had so much fun.
Oh SO did finally take the train to CT to pick up our car.
Last week we went back to the NJ house to check on the crawl space, we are worried about water, etc but we can't back out of the deal because of that. My aunt and uncle have moved into their new house so they came with us to mom's new house to check it out and then we went to a late lunch. It was so nice to see them.
Tonight we are going to a young couple's (we used to work with them) new house. They are grilling so I hope the weather will improve, it's raining right now.
Oh and the World Cruise in Jan 2022 that we cancelled because of moving into the new house has been officially cancelled by the cruise line. There were just so many stops where the ports may not be open by then. So now I don't have to be disappointed that we cancelled. We still have another 2 reserved, one next fall and another Jan 2023
It is really hot and humid here too. I try to wait til the evening to do anything outside.
For the last few weeks I have been doing some light weight training 3 times a week. I think it is helping my shoulder in particular, helping build those muscles.
Sue, as crazy as the housing market is, I would imagine that it would be difficult to find anything that you wouldn’t sell at a loss. In my area, the problem is that people tend to stay put for a long time. A lot of the same people still live in the neighborhoods I lived in 25-30 years ago.
I hope we’re out of this mess by then! I’m glad your nephews enjoyed their dinner. My great uncle tried to get me to try caviar, but I couldn’t do it.
Joan, is your family in Sacramento safe? I saw that the Caldor Fire is getting close to that area, especially around Tahoe.
Wow—made it back, finished a whole trip, had fun, didn’t drown in Hurricane Ida’s record rainfall in NYC! Finally a success!
DGD21’s b’day was the 1st which was cloudy all day but super pleasant—had 11:30 breakfast at the Clinton St Cafe in lower East End—OMG, so delicious—I ordered a southern breakfast—grits, scrambled eggs, 2 fried green tomatoes, and the best bacon I’ve ever had! DGD helped me eat part of it as she had their signature pancakes and needed some protein. Her friend who is now a new asst manager/hostess at Sheraton Times Square went with all of us and DGD had her first legal drink—a special something or other with Prosecco.
That evening about 4 it started to rain lightly at first—then harder—the three girls took the subway from DGD’s to the Primi It restaurant again in lower East End—we decided we would be sopped so we called a cab—well two as there were four of us. OMG by the time we got there it was coming down so hard. But we had a lovely table for the seven of us and we had one of the best dinners ever—the beet salad was just a beautiful stack of beets with a tiny bit of goat and maybe some other white cheese drizzle and pistachios and a bit of mint—super delicious and I usually don’t like mint on things but this was subtle and awesome. The truffle toast we all shared tastes of was just amazing! I had lemon chicken which was so good. They brought us three sampler desserts—I enjoyed tasting all—all of this day was about dropping my obsession and enjoying the meal—which I did but totally did not over eat and we only had two meals that day! They all had drinks too—during the dinner the lightning and thunder were picking up and the rain was literally pouring out of the sky. After dinner we trudged across the street to a bar we had picked out—only us and about five other people there. DGD put on her 21 tiara and sash and was so happy when the door/bouncer scanned our NYC app for ID and vaccine status because hers set of this special song announcing her 21st—DD’s boyfriend bought two rounds of kamikazie shots for everyone but me and then they all had espresso martinis—I sipped on that a few times as it tasted like yummy dessert and one of the girls had an audition the next day and didn’t want to drink much more!
At 9:30 or so we all get an emergency weather warning to find higher ground, not to travel unless we are fleeing for our lives. So we used Curb to arrange a taxi pick up for the girls and us—for 10–the girls left first and thank goodness we did not let them subway—that was the beginning of the subway stations flooding and one they were definitely going through was even on the news as it was knee deep in water, coming down the stairs like Niagara Falls! However the taxi driver was naive and tried to go all the way up fifth Avenue and then cut across Central Park—DGD tried to tell him not to do that—he tried anyway—vehicles were floating in low spots on all the cross roads thru the park so he had to learn the hard way and go all around the park to get the the West Side! But at least they were safe—he did not charge them for his mistake.
We all got to our hotel and were dried off and watching the news and freaking out—had we waited longer we might have had serious problems—=it was just so bad!
My work with my counselor has been beyond helpful—I did not stress out around DD—I truly fully enjoyed being with her, told her so, and loved being with DGD as well. DGD and DD from here and boyfriend went to the MET on Thursday while DD had to work on line with her company.
In the late afternoon we all met up at Little Island Park—OMG—such a wonderful park built in 2020 and free to all—we stayed till nearly total sunset and took some wonderful pictures—if you have not heard of it, look it up—it is a man made island park built on “tulips” of concrete floating on the Hudson—down across from The HiLine, Chelsea and the Whitney Museum—in that area. Sue I have a feeling you and SO know of it as it is quite a feat of architecture and engineering.
We taxied up to DGD’s neighborhood for dinner at The Consulate Restaurant—another awesome meal—I had branzino which was perfect. Hit two bars afterward that were nearby—just two drinks and then DGD walked home and we taxied. No subway service at all that day so taxis were a premium—but they were not overcharging! Uber was charging more, I swear—they totally took advantage of the day!
Friday was just DGD, DD and myself—went to Columbia’s bookstore to get tee shirts and a hat for DH, then shopped and finally hit Madewell which I’d never been to—OMG, bought three sweaters that are so lovely and stylish—and got a less sneaker looking pair of sneakers from DSW since I am living in sneakers now with these crazy old feet!
we ordered Thai food in and watched a movie together. DD and boyfriend spent the whole day with a friend of his who has a waterfront home on Long Island.
So it was just a great vacation in NYC—some things were closed because of the flash flooding but since the MET was open we got a bit of art in—wanted to do the MOMA. Closed. It felt odd and sad tho to see Time Square so quiet, also no one is working in all those offices so not rushing on the street of business suits on men and women on work schedules. It’s scary—how are all the places going to survive without that?
I felt so much safer eating out there because you cannot eat and drink inside without a vaccination proof—everyone is masked unless drinking or eating. Washed hands constantly. Wiped down the seat and tray table on all flights with gloves on and wore gloves to use the restroom.
Hope you guys are enjoying your long weekend, although I guess it only matters to Holly, haha.
Joan, I was wondering how you were doing there with the effects of Ida! Was almost going to text you. Glad that you were able to get all your activities in and didn't get stuck anywhere with the floods. Sounds like you had a wonderful time and all that yummy food! And all the bar hopping, lol! Your DGD21 must have been so happy to have you all visit. I'm glad the counseling is helping with your stress. It's amazing you have only seen her a few times?
Funny I just saw a segment on Little Island Park on CBS Sunday Morning a few weeks ago. Pretty amazing! Joan, you can probably find the video of it on youtube. Last time we were in that area was probably 5+ years ago...we stayed at the Standard Hotel and as we were walking back from dinner one night we saw a naked couple having sex by the floor to ceiling high windows, something the hotel was famous for. I was so shocked!!! People actually want to stay there to do that!
Holly, how long do you think you will stay at your current house?
So now, my mom is saying she doesn't want to move away from my sister, especially with me moving to the west. She's willing to lose her down payment. I hope to talk to the lawyer tomorrow about how much we might lose.
We were supposed to go out to dinner with a couple from Palm Springs CA that we met on a cruise a 3 years ago, they had visited us in 2019. They were just on a 3 week cruise in Europe on our favorite cruiseline and were flying into Philly on their way back home. The were originally going to stay a few days but with delta they decided to fly home asap, which was the next day. So no time to see them, but they said they had a wonderful time onboard. Everyone was vaccinated and they were in a ship "bubble" They were mostly in the Greek Islands and there weren't too many restrictions. They even still had lunch buffets on the ship, passengers were not masked and could socialize freely, crew members were masked. I can't wait until we go on our cruise next fall!