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Post by gjmmaxty on Feb 18, 2021 11:51:08 GMT
This thread is for all of us who have been on the weight loss merry-go-round quite a few times. We have banded together to make this our FINAL time. We offer support & motivation, WEIGHT LOSS TIPS, food ideas – whatever you need to make it your FINAL time. If you start the day’s thread, please copy and paste this paragraph, with the following 2021 Goals:
Carole:
1.) Journal Daily, thoughts, feelings, ideas
2.) Track daily, Good, Bad, Ugly, HONESTLY
3.) Move every day, 10-30 minutes, as able
4.) Limit/Reduce Alcohol, All of it!
5.) Be thankful for something - every day.
Gabrielle:
1. Wellness--take steps each day to address better wellness (moving, attention to my eating, getting sleep, etc.)
2. Debt-- continue to take steps to eliminate debt (including the kids college debt that we are covering) so that I have no debt when I retire
3. Connectedness-- each month have a plan to stay connected to those who I care about (maybe dinner once/month after COVID, Zoom, phone calls, etc.)
4. Creativity -- seek out projects that keep me using the creative side of my brain (knitting, paint parties?, etc.)
5. Journaling/Self-Awareness--find a way to journal my thoughts and to think through challenges and opportunities
Sue:
1. Get moving - plan to utilize my Cubii 3-5 times per week at least
2. Moderation - limiting junk, snacks, wine and all things I know that sabotage my success
3. Daily Gratitude - continue our November daily gratitude.
4. Start a journal - my "Life & Apples" journal will arrive later in the week.
5. Be more "present" - in life, in my journey, with family & friends, in all aspects of my world.
Jenny:
1) I'm moving to a clean eating plan like more veggie dishes and less red meat.
2) I pulled out my Bob Harper from the Biggest Loser's " Yoga for weight loss Dvd" and do that in the evening since it's pouring down rain here.
3) Cut way back on the wine at nights, they sell those tiny little bottles that have 5oz in them and limit myself to only 1-2 per day, that can work right?
4) Track everything even if I'm in the negatives and hold myself accountable.
Christine:
1. Cardio exercise daily (walk, stationary bike)
2. FOLLOW the WW Plan using Honesty.
3. Daily gratitude - Say something NICE each morning
Karen:
1. Take one step at a time and be kind to myself.
2. Move by getting my kayak on the water at least one day per week... it will be more as the weather warms.
3. Stick to my intermittent fasting schedule.
4. Try to sleep reasonably.
Shelly
1. Be more organized at work. Never leave with stuff on my desk
2. Be there for people when they need someone to lean on
3. Stick with WW plan!!! No matter what!!!!
4. Be a better influence on those around me
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Post by gjmmaxty on Feb 18, 2021 11:57:11 GMT
Good morning my friends,
Today's theme is "Thoughtful Thursday"--it is more than thinking first before doing, but also about being thoughtful and kind to ourselves. I think that we do alot of thinking and acting around being thoughtful to others....it is key though to be kind and thoughtful about our own needs too. So, take a moment today to stop and think about what YOU need to feel better. YOU deserve it!
I am leaving in a bit for our Thursday run--looking forward to the cold, fresh air after the long day of Zooms and being trapped inside yesterday. I had really hoped to stand up during the Zoom last night but I was in charge of the meeting and people kept "raising their hand" (the icon that you choose) so I had to call on people and things --- my vision isn't good enough to see that on the laptop screen while standing away from the desk so I ended up sitting an awful lot. Today is a new day though and I am starting with movement and will be using my standing desk for most of the day---yay for a new day!
I am going to have to cut my posting short this morning, but will be back around lunch time and will enjoy checking back in. I was happy to see that our Shelly posted yesterday---good to see you Shelly! Have a good morning and I look forward to catching up a bit later!
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Post by carole58 on Feb 18, 2021 12:34:04 GMT
Thanks for starting us off this morning Gabrielle - Yikes, you ARE up and out EARLY this morning! WHEW!
Thoughtful Thursday... I agree ~ We need to be more thoughtful with ourselves... it doesn't always have to be about others! I had a blip on the scale this morning - and was quite frustrated/angry with myself... but in thinking... It's not a bad thing! WI is tomorrow, and it doesn't matter what the scale says - what matters is how I feel... how I think about it/myself... and what I am doing RIGHT not all about what I may have done "wrong"! Today is another chance to make myself get up and walkaround each hour... even getting outside if I can.
Snow may start here around noon, and continue to fall ALL Day - into the night - overnight - into the morning... but by the time it all ends - 24 hours of snow... it should still only be 3-6", so not the worst storm to come around in my lifetime! The good news is, after work (5:00 PM) it is still DAYLIGHT out there... so I can even go out and do some early clean up, before more comes in overnight!! Eden will love the chance to get out there after work today - so I will put my snow pants on and get out there with her!!
Meanwhile - Looking forward to a quiet but full day of work - anxious to get it done actually!
Tomorrow I have Diversity, Equality, Inclusion Training from 8:30 - 12:30! UGH! LONG 4 hours of a MS Team Meeting - with no camera or mic to actually "participate"... doesn't sound fun to me! LOL But will figure it out as I go!
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Post by carole58 on Feb 18, 2021 12:46:59 GMT
Shelly: Glad you came here to "unload"... I get the not wanting to be on medication - but I have been there... and the meds helped! Nothing to be ashamed of... sometimes we all need "something" to help us manage the emotions! The depression is REAL... and this weather/time of year certainly doesn't help! UGH I know for me, if the darned SUN would SHINE for a few days in a row it would help a GREAT DEAL!
Hang in there Hun... but for sure, come back here when you can! NEVER worry about "unloading" on us... isn't that what a lot of us DO? I know I DUMP on you all pretty much every day!
I have considered giving up the thread, because I feel like all I do is come her to gripe - complain - vent... and subject you all to my moods each and every day! I KNOW my sadness and depression come across as "bitter" and "angry" and "selfish"... but truth be told, If I didn't have you all, I am not sure what I would do!
As for the weight... well... there again, here we are! I actually just this morning saw my old journal... pulled it out and saw I am the exact same weight today, that I was back in February 2011! That's right... 10+ years of this same weight loss roller coaster, that I feel I will still be on - the rest of my life! The bad news? I am still the same damned weight I was 10 years ago... The good news? I am the same weight/size I was 10 years ago!! I think about how much worse it could be if I wasn't here every day - or trying every new program that comes down the line!
Anyway... sorry - I ramble... I am certainly NOT diminishing your thoughts/feelings at all... and just because I share most of them, doesn't mean they are not "yours"... We all have issues at some point that we struggle!
Please come back as you can... or as you want... we're hear... GOOD.BAD.UGLY. - That's what friends are for ♥
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Post by carole58 on Feb 18, 2021 12:50:06 GMT
Shelly: I hope that doesn't come across as I made it all about me... sometimes I think I do that too - take everyone's situation and turn it to ne "all about me"... not my intention - Love YOU and hate to see you think you are all alone in your struggles.
OK Ladies, time to get to work... must take the long way today, as I need my 7-8 AM 250 steps! Need to fill my water bottle, and go check the laundry in the dryer.
Might try to pop in during lunch I have a couple questions for you all - that I would like your opinions about.
♥hugs♥
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Post by gymma60 on Feb 18, 2021 13:06:52 GMT
Quick hi from work...snow started here about 4:00am so the drive in wasn't too bad this morning. Will say AquaPhoenix maintenance guys are doing a great job keep the parking lot, walks, etc clear for us!! It's to snow until 9-10:00am tomorrow morning but the worst will end mid afternoon today with just light bands of flurries until it finally get past us. They had dropped out snow total to 3-5" but when I got up this morning they are now saying 8-12"....guess we'll find out!
Hope to see you after work. Fingers crossed the road crews do as well as the maintenance guys here....
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Post by sschroeder509 on Feb 18, 2021 16:30:00 GMT
Good morning. Sneaking in for just a second. Thank you guys for listening to me. I know I am not the only one with these darn emotions thoughts and feeling like a failure!!! No Carole I did not take anything you said as harsh or all about you either. Yes I am grateful I have you guys to unload on and I wish I was more consistent in coming like I used to. I do not want to give you up and I do not want anyone here to leave either. When I do get here I look forward to seeing anything and everything that is going on. Carole I have been on medication and I’m sure it did make a difference. I am not ashamed of being on it and I know depression is a real thing!!! I just did not like the feeling of no emotions what so ever. When my beat friend dies a few years ago I just could not cry and I wanted to cry!!! Does that make since? I just felt like I was a bad person for not crying or showing emotion when she passed. I was there at the hospital when they shut the machines off. I think part of me was angry with her because she did it to herself. She started drinking heavily when she moved and when she came back here she just never could give it up. She would tell me she was going to but she would never go without a drink. I don’t think it mattered the time of day. And if I was being honest with myself I am pretty sure she even drank at work. Never seemed drunk or couldn’t do her job!!! It always seemed to be done (or so I thought). Anyway she died from liver failure along with some other complications I believe. Am I still mad at her?? YES!!!!! I’m mad at her for choosing alcohol over her kids which are my kids ages, she chose alcohol over her grand babies and o we her husband, her mom, her siblings and her friends that lived her deeply!!!! Am I sad??? Yes I am very sad she is gone. I want to be able to call her and unload on her or her on me and I can’t do that anymore. Anyway that is when I stopped taking my antidepressants. I should’ve talked to the dr before I stopped but I stopped cold Turkey. Yes that is definitely the wrong thing to do.
As far as my weight loss journey I want this stupid weight OFF!!!! You would think as much as I complain about being fat I wouldn’t have any issues with sticking to a plan but I most definitely do. I am weak and I hate that!!! I give in to what everyone around me is eating wether at work or home. I try to shop smart but that’s tough lol. I know my weight has not fluctuated much over the past. The most I have ever lost is 15 and although I am heavier I am only like 5 pounds heavier than when I started back in 2009. No in my early 30’s I was like 50#’s thinner but that was 20 years ago. Oh how I would love to be as fat as I thought I was then. So onward I will try to get focused and back on track with will power like I’ve never had before fingers crossed 🤞🏻.
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Post by sschroeder509 on Feb 18, 2021 16:36:55 GMT
Well we survived the deep freeze of 2021. We did have temps in the negative but no ice. Only dry snow that ended up going more south and east of us thank goodness!!!! With the cold we had I don’t think I could’ve handled what they predicted. Thank goodness the winds stayed down somewhat too. We had freezing fog for several days of below freezing temps so power lines were getting heavy. We will still be below freezing today but next week 50’s and maybe even 60’s woohoo 🙌.
Well I guess I should sign off for now and if I can come back tonight I will try and do personals. I miss you all dearly and hope to feel more at ease about things soon.
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Post by Karen White on Feb 18, 2021 16:52:42 GMT
Oh, ladies... you are all so precious to me!
Shelly - I hear you. Â I don't have answers. Â If we could get together and cry together... it would help. Â You are good. Â You are kind. Â You are worth taking care of!
Sue - you work so very hard every day. Â You are steady and solid. Â I SO appreciate your friendship! Â
Carole - I so appreciate your honesty and openness. Â Let's face it... many of us have been around for 10 or more years... and still not at whatever that goal weight is... You are a wonderful friend. Â I love your heart. Â You do NOT make it about you. Â I appreciate and love you bunches!
Gabrielle - you are amazing. Â I appreciate all that you have to offer. Â Your positivity... your drive. Â One day I will get to hug your neck to show my appreciation for you! Â
Christine - you are an amazing mom. Â It is so hard to watch our adult children struggle. Â Keep on being the support that you are so good at. Â I admire you!
As for me... I will not be returning to work this week. Â Today we're home for ice...but it is really more like thick rain. Â I think that there are pockets as you get closer to the mountains that will be icy. Â I had planned for a sub for tomorrow, but it would surprise me if they make it another remote learning day. Â Caldwell County is where I teach and we have the greatest change in elevation of all of the 100 counties in NC. Â We often have weather in the higher altitudes in the northern end of the county but not in the southern end, which is where I teach. Â
So, yes, Carole - the FSIL blocked me and apparently my other SIL. Â Don't have any idea why. Â My DD looked me square in the eye as I walked by yesterday and didn't nod a greeting. Â It makes me sad... but I really feel like what we're dealing with is a "Cult of One" and she is lost for now. Â My counselor has told me to let her go for now but remain kind. Â This is a bit of a challenge because things at work have escalated.... and I am in the process of contacting NCAE (think teachers union)... which is not something I want to do at all.
Last Friday in the last 40 minutes of the school day, my principal came charging down the hall to get me to come to a "meeting with DD and DFSIL and both principals." Â I told him (loudly I think) in the hallway that I needed time to prepare emotionally and that it was not a safe situation for me. Â He was VERY frustrated with me since the others were already in the office. Â I protested, but he took me to the school counselors office, and (to be honest) I don't know exactly what he said to me. Â Except that the breakdown in the relationship was spreading throughout the school. Â I keep to myself as much as possible... so it is really them and not me... but nonetheless. Â I did go to the office with him to be in compliance, but it was not at all productive. Â He basically told us that if anything is said we're to respond, "We're working on it." Â Which is such a lie... but whatever. Â
My sweet teammate contacted my younger daughter when she heard me protesting in the hallway and DD tried to call and be put through to me saying it was an emergency. Â The principals wouldn't let me talk to her. Â After the "happy couple" left the meeting I had quite a breakdown (sobbing) and they told me to call Emily ... and I was so anxious I couldn't remember her number... they got my phone... I talked to her and she called Tony who was on his way. Â Tony parked (didn't shut his door) and came to the office... we were there until 4 pm that day. Â DH was quite intense... by then my sweet teammate was also with me. Â It was made abundantly clear that I require a safe work environment... and that I am not perpetuating this problem. Â They are. Â
So... when I received emails being concerned about what all went down... I replied... "Mr. Ackerman says we're working on it." Â I heard from assistants. Â Lunch ladies. Â Teachers. Â They all watched him humiliate me. Â
So... we went away for the weekend and my brain tried to reconstruct the events of the afternoon. Â I still don't have them all together. Â But... I went back to work on Monday. Â Mr. Ackerman asked how I was... I told him that he humiliated me on Friday, but I was there to do my job. Â He said he didn't... I reassured him that he had. Â I went back into my room and did my job. Â
Yesterday, the principal was in major "suck up" mode... and was exceedingly complimentary.  When he asked how I was, I said I was getting by. I will continue to be professional, but for now, I will keep that man at a distance. Once we get past the wedding and the next big thing (like moving to the new building) takes over, I'm hoping things will die down. Â
So, that's my story... and it makes me tired. Â
Tomorrow morning we will pack up and head to Charleston and we will visit Fort Sumter and Fort Moultrie (on Sullivan's Island) and eat at Poe's Tavern - he wrote The Annabel Lee while he was there. We will walk the beach and visit other Civil War sites. I am thinking about a Ghost Tour... but WE will take care of OUR family and let Anna do what she needs to do. (Does that sound selfish? I hope not!)
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Post by gymma60 on Feb 18, 2021 18:30:53 GMT
Snow is already winding down and the storm "fizzled" anyway...drive home shouldn't be too bad! YAY!!
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Post by gymma60 on Feb 18, 2021 23:18:28 GMT
Evening all...nice guy from the maintenance crew plowing the parking lot at work helped me clear off my car after work. Drive home not too bad, main roads fine, just wet but could be slick in the morning as the temps are dropping so could be a lot of black ice!! Will need to be careful heading in for one last day of OT this week....yes, the $$ will be nice but by Day #5 of early mornings I'm ready for the weekend!! Jason was clearing the end of the driveway when I got home so I had no trouble getting into the driveway!! We might get a dusting to an inch before the storm pulls out but nothing big....we at one point were to get 8-12"....we got 4"!!
Carole...glad the snow/storm Monday into Tuesday was a fizzle for you this time!! Nice that you had milder temps to keep it rain!! All week I have gotten all my dots except for 1 day when we had a bunch of rush orders that had to get finished before 3:00pm so the guys could get them pulled and over to the shippers so I missed my 2:00pm dot...I was bummed...almost had a perfect week going! Still have tomorrow but so far I'm only missing 1 dot for the week!
Gabrielle...we had a really foggy morning one day early this week...I hate driving in the fog....high beams make it worse and with no lines indicated the edges of the roads out here in the country you really have to be careful when visibility is low! Sounds like fun to have some company on your run on Tuesday! Hopefully you didn't get any added meetings/ZOOM calls added to your day Tuesday!
Oh...speaking of ZOOM meetings...today was a "virtual" day for most all of the districts around here today because of the weather. Lacey posted about the comment from the teacher that broke her heart. The kindergarten teacher said "boys & girls smile at me....I never get to see your beautiful smiles so please share them with me now"! It truly is a sad note that teachers and students really don't see each other smile right now.....you only see eyes!
Carole...I like my air fryer...mine is Cosori brand, 5.8 quarts. I googled them and went for anything 4 stars or higher, then read a bunch of the reviews. I got a good price on "Prime Day" on Amazon....would have the loved to get the Ninja but not in the budget for me but I'm pleased with the one I got! YAY for the little break if family birthdays/gatherings for a bit...Gabrielle is right, you seem to have them one after another for several weeks then a break, then repeat!! We have a couple coming up this week! Colton will be 12 on the 21st and Jason will be 67 on the 25th....not doing anything special though!! Since Colton spends 1/2 the day with Amanda and 1/2 the day with Josh, his birthday, while on a Sunday will not be a celebration day....the timing is just off! We will give him his gift on Saturday when we go to his basketball game!
Well Carole...even though the "books" didn't get done, you sure had a productive Monday!! I love to be in a hot tub when it is snowing...every now and then it happens when we are at David & Katie's. WOW, you are the "purging Queen" in your kitchen right now! LOL, nope, don't need 4 gravy shakers. Funny, I only have 1 but I haven't used it in years....now I make gravy with a roux and add the broth/stock to that, instead of the flour/water slurry added to the broth! Funny how things change over the years and I will say, I make much better gravy now! Two spiralizers too? Hey, maybe Tracy would want one if and when she moves out into her own place??? Hope we can get decent squash soon...it is terrible here right now!
Karen...no worries about FSIL blocking you....no loss there and will keep some of the drama out of your life! It truly is childish and not something you would expect someone to do to their future MIL but hey, he is NOT a normal sort of person as we have all figured out! Yes, as I said before and as your counselor is reassuring you...it will take time and you WILL be fine!
Thankfully, ever since Tuesday morning when my home PC was being stupid, all has been fine....it was like everything froze up and I just had to close everything down and reboot but that was not speedy so ran out of time to get us started!
Karen...we love White Chicken Chili...perfect use of leftover chicken....just put the chicken, dump in cans of beans, corn, green chilis, etc and put on the crockpot on low! Add some provolone or mozzarella cheese to make it creamy....YUMMY! Actually pretty easy on the tracker too because it's filling and the beans really hold me so it's a perfect lunch! WTG on vowing to "walk it off"...yes, it is often very hard to do but in the long run, it is best for our mental health!
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Post by gymma60 on Feb 18, 2021 23:58:46 GMT
WTG Christine on the great loss this week! Yes, while a surprise and you are like most of us, due to weather, work and other circumstance find it hard to move and stay motivated you MUST be doing something right!! LOL, seems many forecasts these days are "off"....as I said, our 8-12" was only 4"....sorry it meant heading to work when you had your heart set on virtual! Glad the EL testing is winding down for you....hope the new Dept of Ed does take all the circumstances into consideration....the virtual/hybrid scenarios are tough! When will you hear something more on that??
Poor Linds...her last year has been one of NOT normal situations. Glad you had a chance to talk and encourage her to make the list and the offer of tea kept her going! You are good momma!! ♥♥♥ Sorry it didn't last. Unfortunately no, you can't do it for her! Hopefully she figures things out...I would hate to see her drop out of Grad School and lose the one thing, the internship, that she enjoys. Hope you can keep her going to get to Spring and hopefully less restrictions as more are vaccinated and numbers continue to decline!! Hugs to all of you!
Christine...sorry Monday didn't work out as you had planned but it sounds like you made the best of it! I have to admit, I'm with Gary...not a fan of stuffed peppers. I'm OK if you use yellow/orange or red but green peppers do NOT like me! LOL, I almost called the thread "Walk Away" but opted for "Walk it Off"! WOW, the Prince continues to amaze me with the "battles" he chooses to pick! You are right, the parents were being honest and told you they were traveling, they could have just gone, remoted in from where ever they were and no one would be the wiser! BUT...who is traveling now? CRAZY!! Sorry the knee and feet are causing issues....yes, do your best and look, you are down 1.8 this week....every little bit will result in bigger results in the end....you've got this!!
Carole...yes, while not fun, making laps on the patio clearing it off is "good for you"!! I was thinking out begging off OT but then heard of another MEAP coming so want to try to stay ahead so we don't get super bogged down when they do drop! Yes, I will enjoy the $$ but this old girl is tired by week's end! I know I will have at least Monday of OT for next week, especially if 2 MEAPs drop together tomorrow! UGH!
We have actually found out that we have FOUR coming in the next week....we had drop a day early last Friday so I did that one on Monday.....we then found out that we had another dropping on Thursday, then one that was to drop on Wednesday.....needless to say, neither have dropped yet and I figure they will both drop tomorrow! I hope they at least drop in different batches but who knows. We found out yesterday that one more is coming drop date TBD, and today we got word of #4 with drop date TBD so hey, job security, right???
Jo...sorry the funk lead to ice cream and jellybeans! Yes, today is a new day! Unfortunately our stomachs often remind us of our poor choices! Hopefully that didn't last too long!
Gabrielle...not sure it's creativity but for me, I wake up and if I'm the one starting off the day I try to think of what "I" need to do for me....right now, being alone with Tonya, I have found I need to "walk it off" or walk away as Christine says....she whines and complains that she is so behind and so busy but on Wednesday I left at 9:50am to head to the main plant for a safety inspection...she was talking to Eric, he had just arrived to pick up stuff for the shippers....anyway, I got back to the Remote WH and she was STILL talking to Eric 40 minutes later! So for the 40 minutes it took me to drive over and back, do the inspection she did NOTHING!!! Then I listened to her b!tch all day that she was so behind! So today, when we were planning on 6:00am, she came in at 5:00am to try and catch up but she was "flapping her jaw" off and on all day long, then talked to her DH for 20+ minutes this afternoon on "company time"! It's so irritating! Gloria had warned me but I guess Gloria and I "kept her in check" but now that it's just me, I'm seeing what Gloria meant. Sometimes she it talking to me and I am actually ignoring her and working, she just keeps talking, turned around in her chair and not working. At least if I respond, I'm still working...UGH!! So, not creative, just a reminder to me! LOL!
Gabrielle...sorry for the racing mind in the middle of the night...that happened to me the other night...was awake from just before 3:00am until 4:30am...finally dozed off a 1/2 hour before the alarm went off! Frustrating! I love Black Bean Soup....I'm trying rotate through our soup favorites...I made Black Bean a couple batches ago...it's soon coming back in the rotation!
OK...time to call it a night! Almost 7:00pm, want to put my feet up and relax a bit and hopefully be asleep a bit earlier and maybe get another night of "good sleep"....will have to wait for 7 hours for the weekend!
Waves to all I missed.....
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