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Good morning. Chilly here, at 32, high going to 57. Clouding up later this afternoon.
Marsha, wow, you had a busy day yesterday. Hope you have a nice weekend.
Gareth, it will be a few days, Wednesday to be exact, before we are back in the 60's. We even had a frost warning last night. Yesterday was very weird, as it was chilly and there were pop up rain/sleet showers all over different parts of town. Just a strange day. Us mother's in this area must have really ticked Mother Nature off, as she is not being nice to us this weekend. Chilly again tomorrow, but hopefully no rain. I remember you telling me your DS has the same birthday as my DH. My sister in law, (DH's DB wife), is the 15th. Yes, I found a venue, thank goodness. It will be a dinner buffet, so sit down meal. Typical funeral luncheon or dinner function for this area. In usual times, you would have the funeral or service, in DH case, then everyone would go over to the venue, have a drink while socializing, waiting for the food to be put out. Then eat, and go home. With the virus getting to it's worse around that time last year, of course the possibility of having such an event after the service was not a good idea, I feel comfortable doing it in July. What I have noticed is at all the venues we visited, (3), only 1 had the employees wearing masks. All of them had their warnings of mask wearing taken off their doors. Since the mandates in the cities around here let them expire last week, it seems the restrictions are being eased up. I am doing some running today, going to a clothing boutique and a run to WM, so I am excited to compare these type of places, compared to the restaurants we have been in this week, to see how the mask wearing is there.
Robin, I remember you mentioning the July birthdays in your family. You have in July what we have in December. Of course I hate December, what with all the birthdays, then Christmas fitted in there. One of those reasons for celebrations is no longer, with that being our wedding anniversary. I have been thinking over what all I want to do to honor DH, and one part of me would like to give a short speech, but am worried I will break down, as yesterday I was fine all day, with going to the venue, doing all that was involved in booking it, and after coming home and looking through pictures I want to display, totally lost it. So I do not think I will be giving a speech. I think my DD's and a couple of DGC will also be in that frame of mind, but who knows, maybe by July it might be better. I am going to ask his DB, and his best friend if they have any funny stories of DH to tell. I am scheduling it to start at 4pm, with the buffet starting at 5. There will be an open bar for the full time of the memorial. After dinner the venue will slice the birthday cake we are allowed to bring in. Not sure if we will sing Happy Birthday or not, am kind of re thinking that. DD and I had lunch at the venue when we were done, and my Black Bean burger was off the charts excellent. DD ordered some kind of spinach wrap, and it was huge, and the actual wrap was spinach also, so she was impressed with that. So I don't think we have to worry about the food at the memorial.
Carol, I think I remember you mentioning your birthday being the same the day as my DH. I think that is a perfect time of year to have your birthday. With mine, and both of my DD's in December, that is a hard time, as up here anyway, you are mostly confined to having an indoor party, if you have a party, which of course with DD's, when they were growing up always wanted a party. But with DH, with the joke in our immediate family that he thought his birthday was a national holiday, we would try to have a party for him, we could have a big party with using the garage, and front and back yards at the house, so having his in July was great. I am curious as to the surprise for your DD tomorrow! You will have to let us know, maybe Monday, what that was.
About DD DMIL, I have been told, by DD yesterday that DMIL seems to be a self indulgent woman, and uses tears as a way to get her way. DD mentioned late yesterday afternoon that her DH was on the phone again to his DM, and she was balling. DSIL had told her the other day, that he was not going to come and see her (today), as she put a time frame of between 1-3pm for the visiting. He was willing to bring food out and cook for her, but did not like that kind of demand. I am curious as to how this will all play out today. I guess when they were fighting over the phone the other day, she kept throwing up the fact that DS does everything with Karen. Whatever Karen wants, Karen gets. Of course she was going way over the top, as a lot of the times that I see them, it is them calling me saying, hey mom, if you are not busy, Jeff wants to make a casserole and bring it out; then we can go through the garage a bit. Things like that. And DSIL had gotten very close to DH over the years, as DH taught him so many things, like bow and gun hunting. His real father died when DSIL was little and his mom remarried when DSIL was around 20. So things just worked out all these years that DSIL feels very close to me and my dearly departed, and most likely she resents that. That is too bad, as it puts her in a different light, to me. Sorry this got so long, but I figured this thread will most likely be quiet this weekend, so what the heck, I guess I can fill it up with needless gossiping, lol.
Am running this morning; there is a clothing boutique out here I want to check out, as I am in the mood for a new light jacket; the one I have is just a drab green color and as I know I will need a jacket tomorrow, I would like a nice brighter one. Then I have to run the deposit to the the venue, then run to WM, as of course my ink in my printer is very low and I promised DS a copy of my zucchini bread, which I will get to her tomorrow. Yes, I know I might as well kill myself now, than go to WM on a Saturday, especially before Mother's day...but that is how it worked out. Oh that reminds me to pick up some wine....am out and I KNOW I will need it when I get home, hahaha!!!
Karen, we never mind reading that kind of thing. Your explanation of DSIL does explain a lot, but honestly, I can understand certain things about what his mother is feeling. Obviously she was his only parent for most of his growing up years, and as a single mother, probably does feel neglected. Being the mother of sons, I know how this can feel. Today is my younger DDIL's parents' anniversary, so I texted them a Happy Anniversary, with a happy mother's day too. Of course they texted back happy mother's day, and I held myself back from saying obviously not. I can definitely understand how you would not want to say anything at the memorial, and that was why me and my siblings chose not to speak at DM's funeral.
It is a rainy day here, and chilly. Somehow DH has the system set that it seems like there is a fan on, although no AC, and it is annoying as I can't figure out how to get it off. My new vacuum cleaner was delivered yesterday, and I have yet to take it out of the box, which I will do, and see how I like it. I got it from Kohl's, so if I don't like it, I know I can return it. Right now I don't have the energy or desire to do the cleaning that I have to in the house. I now have $30 to spend in Kohl's Cash, and they have the Land's End pants I already bought 2 of that I like, so will find a few tops to order from them too, so I can get free shipping. They don't have the slacks locally. They are even better than the ones I got in winter that are a corduroy. They are great and comfortable for work. I wish they had a bigger pocket for my phone. I am also doing some meal planning for the week, if you can believe that. I think if I plan even 3 or 4 meals, it will be good.
Karen, same weather here too. Shouldn't have to still have heat in May! Windy again too. We'll wait until late morning when it's a little warmer to walk.
Yesterday going into the hair salon a sign on the door now says a mask required until you're seated. I kept mine on even after being seated. I'm glad I'm vaccinated. My hairdresser, myself and one other were the only ones wearing a mask the entire time I was there. I wonder if my hairdresser only wore hers because she knows my feelings about it.
Gareth, I don't think ours has an air cleaner, so don't think that's why. I have not had a cleaning woman in over a year. When Covid first started, or just before the shut down, she called me that she couldn't come because her and her grand children were all sick. Then I wouldn't let her back, who knew what she had. When I was finally ready to have her back, she told me that something happened to her eyes and she couldn't see well enough to clean. I didn't want to have someone else in the house to have to work with to train, so I never started anyone else up.
75 and windy today. Monday we are supposed to have a cool front and the highs will only be in the 60s for a few days after.
At my parent's funerals only the minister spoke. My sister's and I wouldn't have been able to keep it together so we didn't try. At FIL's I think DH may have said something brief and then the minister talked. At MIL's DH, both of his sisters and our DS spoke, all very briefly. The pallbearers were her 2 SILs, 2 grandsons and our DD and DDIL. One grandson couldn't come and the other granddaughter didn't want to do it which was fine.
Robin, I may have misread this, but does Kohl's have Land End clothing? I really like them. I have a sweater and a knitted throw from them which are great.
For her birthday, DSIL gave DD a day out. He arranged an appointment for a pedicure and gave her a gift certificate to an independent bookstore she likes. When she got home DGS liked her "red toes" and wanted them, too, so they gave him a pedicure, too. He was so excited he showed their neighbor and the kids at daycare. This last time he got blue toes. I'm curious what DSIL has come with for Mother's Day.
Carol, I don't like talking about these memories, but it does make me remember. My DMIL had 7 grandsons. When she passed away in 2007, the 2 oldest were 22, and the youngest was maybe 15, not sure. They were the pall bearers. Don't forget also that she was a Holocaust survivor. I just can't wait though until we get the next generation together, there are 6 right now, 4 girls and 2 boys, and we will add another boy in October. Your DSIL gave DD a very thoughtful gift. I think my favorite gift I have gotten from DH was a day of beauty at a spa that was wonderful and I actually used. He gave me one for Elizabeth Arden's Red Door Spa that I did not use a few years ago, and they have since gone out of business. Very annoying. Oh, and yes, Kohl's does carry Land's End, but what I want of theirs I have to order online, but I do have the Kohl's Cash, plus I can get free shipping from them by ordering non-Land's End items.
For some reason my back has really been hurting today, but I did try out the vacuum cleaner, which worked great, but of course my dog chewed up a tissue while we were eating lunch, which he always does on the corner of the living room rug. What was the best with this, although I did not use the liftaway feature, so it was a little cumbersome to do, was use the mini-vacuum and crevice too on the stairs, which worked great. Those are the things that really annoy me, when I can see the dirt in them and can't get it out.
Robin, did you end up buying the Shark vac? What did DH think about it since he'd bought the previous one? I've never seen Lands End at our Kohl's. I know Sears had Lands End but our Sears here is long gone.
Carol, sounds like your DSIL is a keeper!
What I thought was so nice at DDIL's DF's funeral was that he had six DGS so they were the pallbearers. Each wore one of their g-pa's neckties. DGD was an honorary pallbearer and followed behind the casket.
Gareth, yes I got the Shark. Not the power lift away, because that one apparently does not allow you to turn off the rollers for hardwood floors. My DH never vacuums, so not really the one who should be making this decision. Maybe the way my furniture is there is no vacuum that will make it easy to maneuver around, but at least this one is a lighter to lift and move if I have to.
Good morning. HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!!!! Same weather as yesterday, and it will continue till around Wednesday before warming up.
Robin, I agree that Mother's of sons are pushed aside, when sons have a girlfriend, and get married. DSIL's DM is a whole different person in regards to that. She is actually lazy and selfish. When she is at DS's house, she plops down and the rest of the time, does not get up, (now that she FINALLY quit smoking), and everything is: "Jeffie get me more ice cubes, or Jeffie get me some water, or whatever she is drinking, or Jeffie make me a plate". She drives him nuts. The way she runs her life drives him crazy. She is totally different than me, so I can understand him wanting to be around DH and I more than her. Of course DH is gone, but he still feels closer to me than his own mother. Believe me, though when they were younger and dating, we didn't take any crap from him. Him and I were just talking about those days, the other day, and of course now we can laugh about it. So I think with my DH and I, he got a different kind of love and respect, all those years, that he did not get with her. He will do anything for me, but of course I do not pull that card. And there have been many, many times when I told them they should go see his mom, not me. There is so much you do not know, that I really do not think you can compare her to you. That is not fair to you. I have a Shark steam cleaner, for the tile/vinyl floors, and love it. The Shark robot vacuum I do not love. Sorry your day yesterday was a rainy one for you. We had some rain for a few days last week, but they are saying there is still a fire danger, so it must not have been very much to help. I have to check, but I think I have $20 in Kohl's cash. Thanks for mentioning that, as I forgot. I went looking for a pretty spring jacket yesterday and could not find one, but forgot to go to Kohl's. I am sorry your back hurts, but hopefully it feels better today.
Gareth, I hate to admit, but I love the chilly nights we have been having, it is nice for sleeping. But I know that is not good to get the growing season started. I read an article last night about the Cicadas, and how trillions of them will be coming up from the ground, as soon as the ground reaches 60 degrees. They won't stay long, but just an irritation to us, with their noisy mating, and then dropping off of trees, where they go to right away, to mate without getting eaten by some other thing in nature. The cycle of this is every 17 years, and I know from the pictures they posted, I remember seeing them in the past, just ugly bugs. So we can look forward to that!!! LOL!!! As I was out and about yesterday, (now remember, in GB area there is no longer any mask mandate), everywhere I went, people were wearing masks. I was happy to see that, but then I started wondering who will tell us when we can go maskless? How do we know when that is? I felt comfortable the other day, eating at the venue we booked for the memorial, as from the time we walked in there, to the time we left, we never had a mask on. I asked DD2 if she is going to get a shot, (which I think I mentioned here, that I believed she and her DH would not get one), she told me she is just putting it off, waiting till most people are vaccinated. I could tell by the way she was talking, she was being honest, so I let it go. I will wait a couple months then ask her again. Yes, your DDIL's father pall bearer's, especially with the ties on, sounds very special. I have not seen pall bearer's in many many years. Especially with cremation being more common, there is just no need for them.
Carol, I would have loved to talk at my DH service, last year, but I know what would have happened, and it wouldn't have been nice. Yesterday after booking the event room, and coming home, every little thing made me blubber. DD asked me last night if she could say a few words at the memorial, then play a song that she found is relevant to the day; I listened to part of the song, then quit, as I did not want to start crying in the evening too, but told her she could, if she felt up to it. But I like that the services/funerals around here give that option for someone to talk during the funeral service. I like that personal touch. I could probably do it, if it was a friend, or someone like that. I agree with Robin, your DD has a keeper!!! I will be curious to hear what she got for her special day, today. You can let us know tomorrow.
I forgot, when I left yesterday to go running around that our suburb was having their community rumage sale. OMG, why, why, why do people drive so stupid around those areas? A MAJOR pet peeve I have!!!
It is official, I put the deposit down on the room. I looked into the room before I left, as it was all set up for some else's memorial, and I really liked how it looked. Whereas in the past they would do tables of 8 (round tables), now they do tables of 6. I know from previous luncheons there, I have seen at some tables, just a couple people sitting at them, so I think that will work, for people that might be nervous thinking some strangers might sit with them. There should be enough tables to do the social distancing that some people might want. Other than that, the room really looked nice. And I am happy that it is part of the contract that they will cut the birthday cake. She had asked me if we wanted to do that, and I thought to myself: why would we? They can do that.
Anyway, I better get going, I have to be at the Supper Club at 10 for the family brunch Have a wonderful Mother's day everyone,
Karen, sorry you don't like your robo vac after I recommended it. I love mine. Like my stepmom always said if everyone liked the same things it'd be a boring world! I'm always amazed at how much it picks up. I wonder though if you got a different model than I did. When I went to get the second one for downstairs I got the more expensive model that mapped the area. I didn't like it and returned it for the random.
DS and family surprised me yesterday afternoon and stopped by with flowers for Mother's Day. DGD gave me one of the rose encased in resin pyramids she makes that's so cool. We had a nice visit. While they were here it started raining. A much needed, nice steady rain that lasted into the evening.
Starting out to be another cool day only in the 50's. Sun is shining so at least it looks nice looking out. Going to be windy again so it'll be a breezy walk.
Happy Mother’s Day! Like many here, I so wish my mom was here. She would be 96 this year.
Karen, I know around here, especially at weddings, that many places charge per slice to cut a cake. Maybe that’s why she asked - hopefully that’s not the case! I’m so glad you’ve got your place all set and can now attend to the guest list, decorating, etc. Is DD1 involved at all? You haven’t mentioned her. I love chilly nights too - even hate to have the heat turned way up.
Gareth, your flowers are beautiful and I really liked the resin pyramid! Talented girl! That saying was one of my DM’s too!
Robin, how is your back today? Do you take anything for it? Heat or ice?
Well we played our cards right. Knowing that DS2’s DGF’s family usually will have a brunch for holidays, we made reservations for 5:15 today hoping they’d be back and she could come. Looks like she is! I’m really glad as we both like her a lot. I wonder if this will be the year for an engagement! I’m about ready to bring him to the jewelry store myself.
Happy Mother's Day everyone! This would have been my parent's 79th wedding anniversary. My mom would be 99 and my dad 101.
Karen, glad you found your venue. I can't believe places charge to cut a cake. That sounds crazy to me.
Lots of people at church today. There was a mix of mask-wearers and non-wearers. I don't know either how we will know when we can go maskless all the time. Maybe Dr. Fauci will tell us. I would trust him.
Gareth, that is so neat about the DGS wearing one of their grandfather's ties.
DH is off getting my salad from Panera. We decided not to do eat in. We thought there might be more people eating in restaurants because of Mother's Day.
Anngie, and Karen, amazingly after laying on my heating pad yesterday afternoon, my back felt very good. When I first get out of bed in the morning it hurts, but now it is fine too.
Anngie, glad you were able to work that out with your DS and his future. We would have done some kind of brunch if both of them were here, but for just 1 to come out from NJ, when they don't want to eat indoors, and I couldn't get a reservation, it made no sense. We will make plans in the next few weeks.
Karen, glad you got that settled with the memorial. I agree that they often charge you to serve the cake you bring in, but maybe they already included that in the price they gave you.
We had the dinner ordered in with the dish I love, and this morning DH made me french toast, which I love. He likes waffles so tends to make those. After I finished cleaning the kitchen, I tried to explain that the reason I wanted to go out is that I am the one cleaning up everything, but he really doesn't get it. DS's and DDIL's sent me the most beautiful flower arrangement. It is really something special. Usually I put flowers on a table in my front hall, but I decided to put this on the coffee table which is in front of where I sit to read all the time, so I can look at it. I love flowers, and am happier to get that than anything else. DH bought me a kindle Oasis. Not sure why he thought I really needed that over my kindle Paperwhite that is not very old at all, but it is fine, and he got me some kind of case that you can prop up the kindle with. Apparently he thinks that having a button to change the page is a big plus. I said I can use it to read in the bathtub. Of course I can't remember the last time I took a bath.
Karen, I have the Bissell steamer mop, which I think is great. I am very happy with the vacuum. I took it upstairs before and vacuumed the hallway, and a little of our bedroom, and it really works very well and is easy to manipulate. I think the area I had trouble with yesterday, which is around the furniture in one part of my living room, just was not an area that you can maneuver in very well.
Gareth, so nice to get that Mother's Day surprise yesterday. I guess they know you like flowers too. That rose sounds lovely.
Carol, hope you enjoyed your salad today. Not surprised at all about the masked and maskless people at church. I think that's going to keep happening. Apparently there was another fight in the Miami airport. The article said that there have been a lot of fights lately in airports, and it all has to do with masked people vs. mask-less.