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Good morning. 51 to start the day, cloudy, rain in the forecast, with a high of just 63, with the rain chilling us.
Robin, the news I was watching showed the whole East coast, all the way down to Texas having the gas issues, that is why I asked you, and figuring if the NY city area was included in that, it might get worse. Glad to hear your area really is not in it. Your DS!!! That is hilarious, about his potty training, what a smart little boy!!! When I think of potty training with my DD's, nothing stands out in my mind, I think it was just a normal training. I think the hardest thing I had to deal with was DD2 sucking her thumb, and having to drag her "blankie" everywhere, and it took a few years to get her to let go of that darned thing!!! I am still not focusing on reading yet. There was a little while where I was able to read a very light series of books, then with the 3rd book of that series, it went off in a different direction, and then and there, my interest was lost. I guess you could say I do read, but it is all the stuff on FB, and their video's, so that really does not count. Do you have anything planned for the weekend?
Pinky, oh my goodness!!!! I am so sorry for what you and your family are going through!!!! Of course you have my prayers. And good luck that it was just that one time fluke of the blood count!!! My DM had issues with bruising, as she got older, she could just look at her arm and then a bruise would pop up. Again, you have my prayers. Also loosing your horse! Oh my. Bittersweet about that. 65 for a temperature is good too, especially when we get up to 90, with that dreaded high humidity, lol. You have such an interesting background! From going to prepared to be a dental assistant, to working in a bank, to running such a diverse business with your DH!!! How fun! Dental assistant is one job I really would not want to do, what with having to look inside people's mouths, like mine, with some missing teeth. Yech!!!
Carol, were you as shocked as I, when you first heard the news about the masks? I certainly did not see THAT coming!!!! But of course there are places we need to still wear the mask. And that is smart. The bakeries we went to yesterday already had their signage on their door gone. It was weird standing in there, talking business with the owners, with none of us masked. Congratulations on your DGS progressing to underwear!!!! Will it be undies like super heroes?
Gareth, this weather has been so so nice!!! I see the upcoming work week will be even warmer, with it working into the upper 70's, possibly 80 by the end of the week, and the weather guy said that nasty word: HUMIDITY!!! Lol, up here in WI. we all hate that in the summer. I am happy about the mask mandate being gone, except for certain places, as I am confident that the vaccine is working, so I can go without a mask. And, I am not worried about spreading the virus, if I have it to spread, as the only ones I would be giving it to that have a chance of catching it, should be masked, as they do not have the vaccine. So I feel confident this decision by the CDC was a good one, and one that the whole country needed. I hope other countries are at the same point and can follow the US with this. Have confidence in the CDC and Dr Fauci.
Anngie, exactly....we need to have confidence in the CDC and Dr Fauci, with their announcement. At least they are saying there are still places where masks need to be worn, for all the people that are still hesitant to take them off. Hospitals make sense, since admissions from Covid is still a thing, along with deaths. I am really looking forward to the Memorial now, to be more relaxed now, with this latest news. We too have been watching the gas rise for the last couple months, but they usually do, because of the blend of gas they switch to for the summer. Last year was just so ridiculous, with how low they got. Our average price for gas right now, is $2.85, that is average, you can find it a bit cheaper, and a bit higher. I am sure it will get to maybe $3.25 by summer driving time. Oh YAY!!!! A trip to the DGK'S!!!! I am so happy for you to be going!!!! How long are you going to stay? I hope you have excellent weather. I had your sleeping issues, last night, with waking up at 1 am. I did dig out a book on my kindle and read for a little while.
I really really do not want to say anything, as I am sure you all are getting as tired as I am, hearing the latest drama surrounding DD. Last night was a surprise that I guess I should have expected. First a little pre story: (sorry, this will get long), DD2 and I went bakery shopping yesterday, found one, so when back to her house to fix a couple things on the invitation, on my laptop, before saying that now we have the invites taken care of. DD did an excellent job, I can see how good she is working on things like that, for her job. Anyway, last night she told me she was going to send the invitation to DD1 so she could see how they turned out. DD1 was complintary to DD2 about them but then told her (this was all done on PM) that most likely her and the girls will go out of town that weekend, so won't be there! And of course she blamed me. DD2 then tried to call DD1 so she could talk to her, and DD1 would not take her call. DD2 called me then flipping out. I had to talk DD2 down, as she was telling me everything, she was just getting more and more upset. She feels DD1 is slapping DH in the face, as it is a Memorial to their father, and obviously DD1 does not care about her father. I told DD2 that it is all about DD1 and my ultimatum that the girls are not allowed if they can not clean themselves up and dress nicely, so that is really sad that it has come to that. But I do not feel bad at all, that most likely they won't be there, that is their choice. DD1 could do as I asked, for that 1 day, out of respect for her father, but is blaming me, and taking the weak way out by not being in town. Fine with me then I do not have to worry about any drama that day!! So now.....I have been thinking a bit about this, and if this continues, I think I need to get DD1 name off of all my financial paperwork. Isn't this fun to read? Married to DH all those years, there were so many times one of the members of that family were involved in some sort of drama, so it looks like DD has that in her genes.
I think I need to do the apartment cleaning today, lol, it has been awhile. Otherwise I have a quiet weekend planned.
Karen, I am sorry to hear that about DD1, because that would be drama in itself. I think every family has drama of some kind, some just deal with it differently. If I told you stories about things that went on in my family, both sides actually, growing up and into more recent years, you would be surprised. Maybe you could ask DD1 if the girls can come to you for a special day, or you could take them out alone, then talk to them about it, and see what they say, but in a non-confrontational manner. Maybe offer to take them shopping. Just throwing that out there. Do you think DD1 is overwhelmed with everything going on, including handling the girls on her own and no longer having her DH to blow off steam at?
I heard last night on the news that so far Target, Home Depot and CVS are still going to require masks. I do think it is a good thing to keep up. We are finally having what we can an unveiling for my DM. It should have been within a year, but my sister didn't want to do it yet, she finally got to it. It will be June 6th, and her idea was that those without children could go to the cemetery, then we could get together at her apartment with everyone afterwards. However, one of my nephew's has a 6 year old who goes to school, obviously not vaccinated, and I don't want to take a chance having DDIL exposed to him, even though she is getting her 2nd vaccine today, she actually just texted that she got it, because she is pregnant. And they would bring Maddie, who gets exposed to no one. Even my 3 1/2 year old great nephew, he tested positive for COVID in December, but he sees other children at pre-school. Although over 50% of all adults in NY are fully vaccinated, there are plenty around who are not, and what are you going to do, check vaccine cards when you enter somewhere? I know they will do it at even venues. Speaking of that, I emailed my Congressman about me not having a real vaccine card. They responded right away, and they are contacting the CDC about it and getting back to me.
Pinky, so sorry to hear about that with your DGS. I wouldn't have been besides myself as well. We always worry. I think as a parent, and now I see as a grandparent, we never stop worrying. Glad it seems like it was only a blip.
Carol, hope that shower works out well. It does feel good to go back to normal. I know DH wanted to go to eat indoors at a restaurant, but my kids won't, so we will not be indoors today.
Karen, sorry about all that's going on with DD. Sounds like she's taking out all the unhappiness in her life on you. Maybe you just need to give her some space for awhile and she'll come around otherwise she'll just keep doing things to spite you.
Robin, you're right about every family has had some sort of drama at one time or another. I know our family on both sides has had their fair share through the years.
Pinky, oh my what a scare with your DGS. So sorry about your horse.
My usual Sat morning routine with Zoom followed by a walk with DH. Must've rained a little in the night as there were some puddles here and there. Temp was the same as when I walked yesterday but it wasn't as nice without the sun. 70's predicted later. 20% chance of rain all day which is badly needed.
I started Lisa Jewell's Roommates Wanted when I walked my indoor track before Zoom. Not far enough into it to decide on how I'll like it. I've liked all of her books so I'm sure I'll like this one too. Robin, I know you've read several of hers too. Have you read this one?
Did not read that one Gareth, but let me know. I read her latest, Invisible Girl, which I liked.
I had to go to my car dealer to get wiper blades, I guess the Toyota brand are the only ones that fit. We ordered from Amazon, and they don't stay clipped in, and the tire store ordered a few different ones and none fit. I don't think they cost me any more at the dealer, and I will put them on myself. I then went to Bloomingdale's to exchange what I bought for DDIL for Mother's Day that came crushed. They were a set of candles by a new fragrance company that I know she will love. Jo Malone. I couldn't believe that they don't open the store until 11 am on all days of the week. I was there about 10:40, no wonder I got such good parking. I then browsed around the men's department and bought Father's Day gifts for DH & DS. 2 fancy t-shirts for DS, that's basically all he wears, and 2 golf style shirts for DH. One less thing to think about. Next year I will have to worry about 2 more Mother's Day/Father's Day gifts.
The book I am reading now is The House of Mirth by Edith Wharton. It takes place in 1905, and it is reminding me of the stories in Bridgerton about the higher class of people. This was what someone suggested for our book club. Believe it or not, we are all meeting again, first time since the pandemic, on June 10th.
It is 79 and cloudy today. Rain is predicted for tomorrow. I hope no tornadoes.
A quiet day. I usually don't go out on Saturdays unless there is an estate sale which we did go to today. We didn't get anything. I'm amazed at how many casserole dishes some people have. Also, it looked like the person bought things on sale or didn't remember if she already had something. There were probably 8 bottles of facial cleanser and body wash. Not very many books which always surprises me. I think everyone should have books though I know people use the library.
We stopped by the Neigborhood Walmart on our way home. They had a sign that said if you were vaccinated you weren't required to wear a mask. I guess its on the honor system because there are people who never wore masks anyway. So I'm not going to the shower tomorrow because it will in a smaller room with a lot of people sitting together. I know we have been going to church, but DH and I get in the section with every other pew roped off.
Karen, I wish I had some words of wisdom for you. Since the event is 2 months away, maybe she will change her mind. I know you are hurt by her words.
Yes, DGS wears Spiderman underwear. That is how his daycare got him to go to the potty. They would say you don't want Spiderman to get wet, do you? I think he has some Toy Story undies, too. Wednesday when we facetimed he showed us he had Spiderman pullups to put on at bedtime.
Thank you everyone----DGS did come home in the evening last night and at this point the cause for the low platelets looks to be like the Dr. said and a viral infection was the cause. They were to expect that he could be nauseated and run a low grade temp from the platelet infusion, which he did. He is feeling better this evening and seeming more like himself. I hope this continues and we have no more scares.
Someone asked yesterday how old our horse was-----and he was around 32 years old. That is very old for a horse. We got Doc when he was about 7 or 8 years old so we have a lot of history------he was the kindest most gentle horse but it was time.
Karen---I am so sorry things are a mess with your DD1. I agree with Gareth that she may need some space and she will come around. I am sure this is making you sick with worry----I know I would be.
Robin---they say "once a mom, always a mom". Yes you just have more to worry about with each new addition to the family.
Gareth---I will look into Roommate's Wanted----I really like the Lisa Jewell books.
Good morning. Does the month of May seem to be flying by? Weather is nothing to write home about, although the weather guy showed that we will be in the mid 80's by this coming Friday. Back to the a/c.
Robin, I am not going to reach out to DD1 at all. She has been spending her money like crazy, SHE can take her DD's to a nice department store and spend some of that money on them, to get them all spiffy for their Grandfather's Memorial. Oh, and go to a nice hair salon, to get their messy hair fixed. As I said, I have washed my hands of them. I do not have olive branches in my apartment. About the chance of DD1 not having anyone to vent to, remember, she has that "man friend", who she seems to be with all the time. I can not even go into that, as I promised myself when I got up this morning, I would have a nice, drama free day today. What is an unveiling? Does that have something to do with the headstone? I need to get flowers out to DH father's headstone. I hope you can get your card asap. I wouldn't be surprised if they decide that we have to show it, although I would not mind. I had the wiper blades replaced at the dealership we go to for all the maintenance on the jeep, when I had the oil change done, there is no way I am going to deal with that. Yes, I probably get ripped off doing it that way, but that is my choice. I can not imagine me changing those 3 blades, lol, I probably could not reach up to the 2 on the windshield, being a jeep, it is a bit high up. I truly love those new blades, as I finally got to use them recently. I have seen some stores that don't open till 11 now, and have thought that is odd.
Gareth, thank you. As my DD2 said yesterday; DD1 is just not DD1 anymore; she is a totally different person. I will take the blame, to an extent, for them not showing up for the Memorial, as I finally confronted her about her DD's appearance, but the rest is on her. Oh well. I know I have time yet, before the venue needs a head count, but I am at a cross road, as I want to get the cake ordered, but now do not know what to tell them for how big it should be. IF DD does conform to my demand, she has people she was invited, if she does not, then of course none of those people will be invited. I am put off a bit, that she has me in that position. How is the Zoom meeting going? Do you have a lot of people on it? Is that something that WW is going to keep, or do you think that eventually they will get rid of the Zoom meeting's?
Carol, good luck, I too hope you do not get a tornado today! You sure have been getting dumped on with the rain!! That estate sale sounds like my mother. We saw stuff like that, when we were getting their house ready to put up for sale. We thought that yes, she just forgot what she had in the linen closet inside her bathroom. Towards the end of her life she kept all her toiletries in the cupboard under the bathroom sink, even though she had that linen closet. I hope I do not get that way! Yes, I guess it is going to get interesting, with the way they have the mask rules now. I think we might see if it does not work if the virus count goes up. How old is your DGS? I am sorry, I just can not remember. I love hearing stories of him, and all the other grand kids the women on this board have, what with mine being a bit older. I have 2 grands turning 14 this summer. That thought makes me sad, knowing all of a sudden they will be graduating high school. Those years flew by! Check out what I wrote to Gareth, concerning DD1 and the Memorial. Guess I am stuck between a rock and a hard place right now, and that yes, that ticks me off.
Pinky, thank goodness, for your DGS getting somewhat better, at least good enough to go home! How scary for all of you. That poor horse, but I am sure it had a very comfy life, living at your place. That is a very long life, I wish my dogs could have lived some what as long as your horse. Of course then we wouldn't have had more dogs, during those years. Thank you, about my DD1. I am intending on leaving her alone. See what I wrote to Gareth though, about the issue she created by being all offended by me insisting she takes those girls in hand and have them presentable at the Memorial. That is what I am so ticked off at her about. I could care less that she is blaming me for this, as I know better. Are you and your DH planning any trips soon, now that things are easing up? I can't believe I have no clue as to the NASCAR schedule week to week, this year, I am just so out of it, so I don't know if and when they will be racing at Vegas, as that is when you all seem to go, right? I hope you can get away somewhere, this year. You can come visit me....lol, I have a guest bedroom!!!
If my memory is right, Marsha will be flying home tonight, on what she called the red eye. I do not think I could do that, fly home in the middle of the night.
Karen, keep venting, sorry our suggestions, or mine anyway, don't seem to help. What did she say when you remarked about your DGD's appearance. Does she fight with them over it? I guess you are right if she spends a lot of time with that guy. I guess I am glad she unfriended me on Facebook so I don't have to see all that. It made me feel terrible for you.
Carol, I think the truth is that a lot of people don't have books because they just don't read. I agree with you about not going to that baby shower. I remember my boys having that underwear, luckily we sold Fruit of the Loom in our store. There are so many of them, and the girls wear them too. I am thinking that Maddie will not have that hard a time toilet training, they say that muscle control is the key, and she had very good fine motor coordination. DDIL said other people were remarking about it at the birthday party they had yesterday, she is not walking, but she uses both hands together very well, to do all kinds of things, and she is only 13 months. Not that they need any more toys, but I was thinking of getting her some wood puzzles.
Pinky, now you are really making me imagine your DH as a cowboy, with the horse and all. I know how I always felt when my dogs died, so I know it is the same for you. So glad to hear that DGS just had something viral.
Karen, an unveiling is when the headstone, or in this case the footstone, gets put in. My parents are buried in our temple's section of the cemetery. In NY, there are Jewish and Non-Jewish cemeteries, not like in many other states where there might just be a section. But, a lot of the temples or organizations have sections. The rule is that you put up 1 headstone for the family, then separate footstones. The newer of the 2 cemeteries our temple has requires everyone to buy a a plot of 4, so DH and I will actually end up there too. It turns out my younger DS and his wife will be away that weekend. She is just starting her 5th month, I can't believe she didn't realize that, she thought she was only in her 4th. I don't know what we will end up doing afterwards, that will be another discussion.
Karen, as I said before, I’m so, so sorry for all the drama you’re dealing with. There’s enough time between now and mid-July that anything could change. I really don’t think you are at all to blame, though. You’re only guilty of wanting them to be presentable at their father’s/grandfather’s memorial - that’s it. That’s not too much to ask. If the invites aren’t going out right away you could wait that out a bit to get a better feel of how it’s going. If nothing changes then I wouldn’t worry about inviting those DD would have wanted invited. How many did she have in mind? And of course, if necessary, they could still go out last minute. So what! Usually the venue doesn’t need a count until just a few days ahead. It’ll work out!
Pinky, I’m so happy to read DGS is OK and that it was a viral infection. They’re so scary! My youngest DGS woke up with a rash on his knee the other day and it quickly spread to other areas of his body - you’re right - a viral infection! Anyway, prayers answered!
Carol, my DGS’s wear Spider-Man and Toy Story underwear also! SO cute! I say, whatever works!
Robin, I guess I don’t understand why you didn’t get a vaccine card? Do you mean those small white cards where they entered the date and place of where you were vaccinated? The malls around here don’t open until 11:00 as well. That just might change soon. I’ve never read anything by Edith Wharton but she is on my “to read” list. I like the idea of having an unveiling. Is the question about going to a restaurant or not afterwards?
Gareth, you’re right, family drama is inevitable! No getting away from it!
Anngie, I didn't get a real vaccine card because I was in a trial. At this point, I don't know if AstraZeneca will go for US approval because there may not be a need for their vaccines. DH read that the order that the US put in with AstaZeneca will be given to Canada and Mexico. If they don't go for US approval, I will not get the same kind of vaccine card. They sent me a "card" on 8 1/2 x 11 paper. I am going to try to reduce it on our office copier, then see if DH can figure out where his laminating machine is, and do that.
Anngie, as far as drama goes, remember your friend and not getting invited to the wedding? Think about how far away and meaningless that is now. Or maybe not.
Karen, are the invites going to be mailed or emailed? If they are mailed, perhaps you can give some invites to DD1 and tell her she should mail them out herself to her list. I am sure she won't mail them if she is not going.
Just as a side-note, when I was talking to my cousin in March, who lives in Brockville, Ontario (her mother & my father were brother and sister) she said then that the US was sending up Astra-Seneca vaccines and how grateful they were because Canada just didn’t have enough vaccines to go around. She will be waiting 16 weeks to get the second shot. Keep this in mind when someone mentions socialized medicine. I can’t believe what my cousins deal with when making appointments, prescriptions and even surgical procedures.
I know what you mean re that “wedding issue” I talked about! Sadly, it’s still hurtful to those who were not invited, believe it or not. Of course it’s rarely brought up but if it is, you can certainly “feel” it. Luckily, they are friendly to the mother of the bride. Talk about drama!
Anngie, was your DF from Canada? My DM grew up in Winnipeg. Only one of her DB's stayed there. She also had uncles in Montreal, Toronto, and other family in Edmonton. Her DB who stayed there moved to Toronto after he got divorced, and his kids were grown. His daughter still lives in Winnipeg, his son in Toronto. I am in touch with 2 other of my mother's cousins, one in Montreal, one in Toronto, so I certainly know the problems with socialized medicine, and always talk about that when people think that's the way to go here. Of course more or less that's what Medicare is. Of course the supplemental plans are private. They used to go to the Mayo Clinic if they had anything wrong with them, and in the end, my uncle used to come to Sloan Kettering in Manhattan. He died of cancer about 5 years before my mother.