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Post by karen54171 on May 20, 2021 10:58:50 GMT
Whether you are regular poster or a lurker, we encourage you to talk with us. We do talk about books, but also about our lives, and Weight Watchers. We are women who are spread around the country, and eventually you will learn you we are, and what books we like to read. Don't be intimidated, just pop in and tell us who you are, and what you are reading now.
This is a thread we had on the WW 50 Year old board, so even though most of us have moved beyond our 50's, I am keeping it here. Some prefer to post on Facebook, but for those who may also like to post on something that resembles our old format, I decided to start this. Although we were brought together by our love of books, and we love to share our ideas about books and authors, our friendship has grown, and we know a lot about each others lives. We are spread across the country, and that adds a bit of interest as well, learning about other people's way of life through the "book" they write on the thread.
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Post by karen54171 on May 20, 2021 11:43:52 GMT
Good morning. 66 degrees, and humid this morning, with high expected of 79, according to my Weatherbug.
Gareth, your weather was our weather, once again. But we so need the rain, I am sure we still need more, as there was no heavy rain. How is your DDIL? Can you tell us why she had the surgery? Seems as you sprung that on us, and the colonoscopy, is she of that age? If you can't or don't want to talk about it, just tell us you can not, without her permission, we will understand. I was talking to a guy on IG yesterday, and he asked me my DD's names and ages, and I told him I can not give that out, without their permission. It is easy to brush those questions aside, if you do not want to answer them. Do you have cloudy skies this morning? I wish I could have slept longer, I know I will pay later, with a butt that will be dragging, but that is how it worked out.
Marsha, where were you yesterday, after your short post? Were you called home, for DD? I hope all is ok with her. I know, if that is an ulcer, how painful it is. Robin and Carol had excellent tips for taking care of the flare ups. They all work, plus there are meds for it. I hope your DD gets relief fast.
Anngie, I feel DD1 is starting to dwell on all of this, and maybe the light is slowly turning on in her head!! That is the argument DD2 has been saying, that their father would want both of them there, but with all of his friends there, he too would cringe if he saw them walking in the way they look. I was embarrassed on Mother's day, for them. As far as I know, DD has not asked for invites, but since 5 more days till they get here, there is no sense looking for them. Of course, unless DD2 told her, she would not know when they are coming. About the bakery DD2 wanted me to ask if they could do a mock up of it, which I did, but then I have not heard anything since. Maybe I will call or send an email next week if I have not heard anything from them. You are right on, about Marsha and her sibs. It needs to be a family discussion and decision.
Pinky, I hope I can make it fun for the grands. I worry, what with DH not here, who usually took control of entertaining them, and so on. Plus with DGS soon to be 14 (July 6th), I worry that I have to watch not babying him. Although I just love that he lets me hug and kiss his cheek, still!!! (I have been doing a lot of hugging since I got vaccinated, since during the Pandemic, there was none of that with all those grands). I am glad they decided to go to school today. Then tomorrow they were taken out of school for the day. With it being almost the end of the year, their parents aren't too worried about missing 1 day. Were you able to escape and get some flowers and groceries? I can't believe how grocery stores are really getting into big display's of plants and floral arrangements. So, so glad I am still not working in Floral!! LOL!!!
Robin, yes it is DD2 children coming. They are the ones that have, over their lives, spent so much time with us. Just hoping it all goes ok, and DD2 told me last night that they mentioned how weird it will seem without Grandpa here for the sleep over. He was the best, with them, knew when to goof off with them, but knew when to put his foot down with them, say, if I was telling them to do something, he knew I did not want to gripe or yell at them, as I do not do that to the grandchildren so he could make himself seem kind of gruff, and then they would do whatever needed doing, like picking up all their stuff, or whatever. It will seem like someone or something is missing. You are right about DD1 house. It is a little cracker box, not big enough for 4 adults. DBIL told me a few things the other night when they were here, about DD basement, I had not heard about before. (DBIL helped his son, the guy who redid her bathroom, with some wiring there, which he had to go down in to their basement) Typical hoarding. DD2, who stopped there to get the money that DBIL son who was working on the bathroom had for me, as the last payment on the boat, told me she was glad I had her go get it, instead of me going, as the inside of that house is horrible. There is so much more to tell, I just can not go into describing it. The rest of us in the family are just at a loss, as to why DD let it get to that point, as that is the exact opposite as to how she was raised! If you need some where to go with DH, come on over to Wisconsin!!! Come here, and I will take you guys all over, of course with an outing to our shrine, Lambeau field, lol!!! There is a nice Packer Hall of Fame there also. Really, when it comes down to it, we are not that far from you. But on a serious note, I hope you two can get away to somewhere relaxing.
Carol, wow, your weather sounds like ours! About the masks, it worries me that more and more stores are redoing their policy about it, and people can go maskless. The reason I am worried, is it seems that head woman at the CDC is getting a ton of flack about the decision, so I would not be surprised, if new cases go up, they go back to masks, then more people will rebel. DD1 house is a total mess. According to DD2 you can hardly walk through it. Now I know why, through the last few years, if we had something for them or the kids, and just want to drop it off, she would tell us she would be outside waiting for us, so we would not have to get out of the car. We have never had an issue of having to get out of our car, to drop something off, so I figured back then that she was just embarrassed that maybe her house was untidy or needed house cleaning. I believe now, that when she finally puts it up for sale, she won't get much. And as I said earlier on this post, she was not raised that way, so where is this coming from??? I would say laziness, but come on, there has to be a point where you get off your butt and get to work on that!!!
Of course I woke up too early, so my butt will be dragging later, when I have the kids. Maybe I can take a short nap. But need to run to the grocery store first this morning.
This weekend I am going to take some time and browse the internet for idea's on a nice outfit to wear for the Memorial, but I want something that is summerish, like bright colors. Then of course the fight will be on to get shoes to match. Also have to figure out my hair salon apts, between now and then.
Have a wonderful day everyone.
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Post by mikendanni on May 20, 2021 14:25:21 GMT
Karen - I was here all day yesterday but Boss left for a week today so I was trying to get a project done before he left. Today I am going with dd to the gastro so we will hopefully learn some more. The appointment is 11:15 so I assume I'll be back after lunch but you never know. Perhaps, instead of trying to entertain the grandkids, why not ask them what they want to do or if they want you to take them somewhere in particular. Nude color shoes match everything.
there is only my brother and I, and we do talk. He went to visit my mother the weekend before me and identified an issue which I resolved. She is looking to get more help at home a couple of days/week. Always best when the ideas are hers and this is coming from her.
I picked up the sewing machine I bought for dd on FB Marketplace. I think I got a good deal - i paid $25 and it is a sears kenmore 10 stitch machine that was probably built in the early to mid 70's. It was filty - I think perhaps it had been sitting in an outbuilding or barn for many years, but it came with all the parts and a bunch of bobbins and thimbles and some spools of thread she had tossed in the box. She also gave me a can of sewing machine oil that must have come with the original machine (I tossed that!). I cleaned it up and we oiled it and it runs well, dd is happy with it and it will do the job for her for a long time. She is planning to take it back to school next semester after she moves to her new apartment. She told one of her roommates and she is excited to have a machine, apparently she has been sewing by hand whenever she had to do something.
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Post by gareth on May 20, 2021 15:10:53 GMT
Karen, have fun with the DGC. Don't worry so much about entertaining them. Just enjoy spending time with them. Sorry I didn't say what DDIL's surgery was for. It was no big secret! She had some kind of tear repaired along with a bone spur and cleaning up some arthritis in her shoulder. Last I heard after they got home she was doing ok. She starts PT already tomorrow. Her DB had the same surgery and told her when he started PT it was the worst pain he'd ever had. Makes me mad people when always have to share horror stories with people going through something similar. She has diverticulitis so she has to have regular colonoscopies.
Marsha, hope it's good news for DD at the gastro and an easy fix.
Rained late afternoon yesterday and must've in the night again too. Rain chances again today and about every day for the coming week. Weather map shows rain all around us. I took an umbrella along when I went to HyVee and again when I walked to be on the safe side. It's 68Âş now and humid and will be in the 70's later.
Only about half the customers and employees at HyVee this morning were masked. I still wear my mask even being vaccinated. At least going early like I do it's easy to social distance.
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Post by pinky on May 20, 2021 16:49:12 GMT
Karen---I am sure you will be just fine with the Grands tonight---Maybe you have a plan but could you play a game they like, maybe they can bring some they like or a plain old card game. Watch a movie with them and have some popcorn with it. It will be fine and just remember to have a good time and make memories. Yes I did get some groceries and spent way to much time and money at my favorite gardening store.
Marsha---hope you get an answer to DD's trouble today. I think that is great you found a sewing machine for her and an older one will probably last longer than a new one----the way things are made today----uuggghhhh don't get me started on that. Good to hear she is excited about it and that the roommate is too.
Gareth---yes your DDIL has been put through the mill this week. Hope the colonoscopy was with good results and she has a speedy recovery from the shoulder surgery. I think PT is good to start right away even if painful so you do not develop a frozen shoulder.
I noticed everywhere I went yesterday there were very few wearing masks---clerks and customers both. I was at the furniture store, Wal-mart, Hy-vee and the garden shop and it was the same all over. Very very few!!! We are getting a new mattress----the Stearns and Foster we decided on. And because we got a king size we need all new bedding of course. We actually got sheets at the furniture store. I did not think of the fact that we went with the adjustable power base instead of a box spring that we might need special sheets. DSis clued me in to that before we actually bought. I think if you get sheets with a deep side it works but salesman said he would sell a set to us for 1/2 price and that was still $120.00. I can't imagine spending $240. on a sheet set. Anyway I had to go in and pick out the color of sheets we wanted. Now I am looking for a bedspread/quilt. And then the pillows---OMG---so much to changing the size of your bed.
I am listening to Confessions on the 7:45, it has started out interesting. The Girls With No Names went poof on me and I can't wait to get it back. I think I had 5 chapters left and I was really liking it.
Tonight 2 of our DGS and twin DGD's have a t-ball game and they are all on the same team---should be fun!!!
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Post by RobinS811 on May 20, 2021 17:57:21 GMT
Busy day today, didn't have time to read all the posts, and no one here usually posts very late, so I will just say hi, on my way out to pick up a file at another office, and paperwork from a client.
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Post by mikendanni on May 20, 2021 18:48:28 GMT
Back from the doc with dd and basically they said it might be an ulcer or might just be acid churned up and aggravating but either way the treatment is the same - keep taking the meds they prescribed in the ER. Could take 2-3 weeks to work. We scheduled an endoscopy only because they are scheduling out to July so it is on the books but if she is better we will cancel, and really it doesn't sound like the endoscopy is likely to tell us anything that would have changed the treatment plan anyway. They said stay on bland foods for a few more days then she can eat what she wants just in moderation, like don't dump hot sauce on every food but she won't have to eliminate those things she likes from her diet altogether. So she'll stay home until she is feeling well enough that she can sleep through the night in her bed instead of in the recliner, then she'll go back to Madison.
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Post by Anngie on May 20, 2021 20:33:41 GMT
Hot and a bit humid today. Next week 70’s!
Marsha, glad to hear DD is doing better and the appointment showed there was nothing overly worrisome. Now to catch up on her sleep. Sleeping in a recliner just doesn’t cut it! Good deal on the sewing machine - maybe sewing is something DD and the new roommate will have in common.
Karen, your grands will just love being with YOU! That’s what is important. They might just want to sit and talk - maybe that’s what they need. Are you a dress person or slacks/palazzo pants type? I see a trip to Kohl’s in your future! With DD’s house, how long do you guess the hoarding has been going on - even before the kids?
Gareth, I agree about the horror stories! People just HAVE to tell their story! A pet peeve of mine is whenever you give a doctors name or doctors office someone invariably will say “they’d never go to that doctor” or surgery center, etc. I hope your DDIL is doing well today.
Pinky, I’ve seen the same - about 50% I’d say is no longer wearing masks. You are going to LOVE that king size bed! Sheet sets are expensive - even just one fitted sheet is! I had to order from Amazon for one fitted sheet. I couldn’t fine one in any store I went to or even online stores.
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Post by carol2 on May 20, 2021 21:03:07 GMT
Karen, you are not to blame for your DD. Yes, you raised her, but as an adult she makes her own decisions. I think sometimes people just put something down instead of putting it where it belongs and things pile up that way and they keep putting cleaning up off. I know I talk about my ILs a lot, but she was like this from the beginning of me knowing her. She had so much stuff piled up. I told DH we needed to pick up something, ask her if she wanted to keep it and if she said "yes" ask her why. Of course, she didn't want us doing that. I know the last few years she was in her house, she just didn't feel like tackling it, but it had been going on for years.
I went to Walmart this morning. I think most all of the employees had masks. I guess about half the customers did. I wore mine. You know looking at the ones who don't wear them, I don't think a certain age group or whatever who doesn't wear them.
I came home and put away my groceries and got a cup of coffee and opened to laptop to come to this site and the internet was down. By the time it came back up, it was lunch time, then I had a cut and color appointment. I had just walked in the house when the HVAC guy called. We had put off having it checked because of the rainy weather. Anyway, he said we were good to go, hopefully for another hot season. It has been raining most of the day, but I just got the mail in and the sun is out.
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Post by RobinS811 on May 20, 2021 22:04:08 GMT
I am home, and have a few minutes. Marsha, the only way to really know what is happening is to do an endoscopy. I think it might be helpful because it is one thing to have an ulcer, another to have acid reflux. Especially with your DD, with her anxiety, if she does not have an ulcer I would bet she would feel better about it. As far as food goes, she has to let how she feels be her guide. I don't particularly get bothered by spicy foods, but do get bothered by tomato sauce. I also think that sugar bothers me. Bread is good, but who wants to eat a lot of bread?
Gareth, when my DH had his last shoulder surgery, it sounds like what your DDIL had, and he explained it really well. When the calcium deposits that cause the arthritis build up, they more or less saw through ligaments or even the muscle, causing tears.
Karen, I am sure you did fine with the kids. I am assuming you will read this tomorrow after that have been there, unless they are coming tomorrow and not today. I don't think we will come all the way out to Wisconsin, I am thinking maybe closer to home. West towards Ohio. We could also always go up north past Anngie, but I am thinking that a lot of places up there are probably already booked.
Pinky, I am sure that must be really cute, watching all the little grands. I can't wait until we have that kind of thing to go to.
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