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Post by karen54171 on Jun 3, 2021 11:45:10 GMT
Whether you are regular poster or a lurker, we encourage you to talk with us. We do talk about books, but also about our lives, and Weight Watchers. We are women who are spread around the country, and eventually you will learn you we are, and what books we like to read. Don't be intimidated, just pop in and tell us who you are, and what you are reading now.
This is a thread we had on the WW 50 Year old board, so even though most of us have moved beyond our 50's, I am keeping it here. Some prefer to post on Facebook, but for those who may also like to post on something that resembles our old format, I decided to start this. Although we were brought together by our love of books, and we love to share our ideas about books and authors, our friendship has grown, and we know a lot about each others lives. We are spread across the country, and that adds a bit of interest as well, learning about other people's way of life through the "book" they write on the thread.
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Post by karen54171 on Jun 3, 2021 12:28:19 GMT
Good morning. 62 now, going to 85. Then starting tomorrow, a few days in the 90's.
Pinky, how are you doing? Do you feel like you are back to normal, or are there tell tale signs left over? I still remember how shocked, and upset I was to read you had a stroke, as I think you are the youngest of all of us, and you really had a hard time coming back. When did it happen...I am thinking around this time? Thanks, for the confidence on the post office. I too hope it is the end of issues. So far, so good! Did you get the statements sent out?
Marsha, with dieting, with me anyway, I have to do some kind of physical activity with the focusing on eating, or I barely loose. And of course the drinking lots of water routine helps more than most people would think. The 3 bite thing is something I will have to check out. I had never heard of that. Oh boy, on the issue with DS, good luck getting Father's day straightened out. Reading your story of how you will have to do it a different weekend, sounds so familiar, as we had mostly the same thing, with DD2. DSIL's father had passed away years ago, but on Father's day, they would go to Two Rivers, where he is buried, and stay there most of the day, cleaning his headstone and all the stuff involved with decorating it. My DH never saw them on Father's day, which is kind of weird, what with his Father passed. And yes, we would have to have the Father's day celebration a different weekend. Aren't families weird? Sorry to hear about your toe! That is exactly something I would do! Hope it heals fast.
Carol, yay for your DD! It sure helps with going through WW, then we know how to get back to the healthy eating, and physical activity. Buffets are my down fall. I am (thank goodness!!!) not as bad as your FIL, but I tend to over eat at those. DH knew that for the last many years, I do not do buffets, as I think once you have been a WW customer, you know how those are so bad for us. When we went out for Mother's day, I was so impressed with their dessert table, with being good with eating the main meal, I turned my dessert into a taste testing, which the grand kids helped me with. (They got all the desserts I did not finish, as I just wanted a couple bites of each) How old were your neighbors? Not once did I feel like taking my own life, after DH passed on. I know I had a bit of depression, for a little while, but with also getting over the virus when DH passed, the depression could have been from that too. We were married 2 months short of 48 years, so to me that was a long time, but as I said, I never once thought to end it. I have now gotten to the point of trying to figure out what path my life should go, as there must be a reason why I am still here. Or, maybe the good Lord just doesn't want me, hahahaha!!!
Anngie, hello and welcome back!!! I am happy you are here! You really do have to fill us in on DMIL, when you can. I need someone to take my place with all the family drama!! Just tell that woman to stay in her lane!!! JBS meat packing plant is way over on the other side of town. Marsha is much closer to it, but it is not in her neighborhood. When that plant was built, they were actually outside of town, and of course over the years, the city has been built around it. I would never want to work there, as the locals over there call it Little Mexico, but at least we have those mexicans to work there, for the most part they are a good bunch of people, it is the gangs that give a bad impression. Sorry, that book title does not sound familiar.
Robin, I definitely eat because it tastes good. I do not eat thing's I do not like, as I do not like the taste of it. Simple as that. The clue is, to know which of those foods are bad for me, or how much of it to eat. Also, as I mentioned earlier, water is what helps me so much! If I make an effort to drink a lot of it, my hunger level goes down. About the mother in law discussion, I was invited to come to the BBQ the other day, and DD had told me that the inlaws would be there, so I told her I would pass. Supposedly DD told me that DSIL wanted me there, and would make sure nothing about the memorial was talked about. So I went. Then, as I was leaving, the 4 of them (DD, DSIL and his parents) tried to include me in planning a night where they play Mexican Train ( I might have the name of the game wrong). I told them I do not know how to play, what with wanting them to just count me out, and they can have their game night with just them. They all tried to tell me I would catch on quick. So the long and short of this is I try to give DD's inlaws space to have visits with them without me around, but nine times out of 10, I am overruled. So I think it is up to the DD's and DS's of ours to put their foot down as to which parents are going to be visiting and when. Not the inlaws.
Another bad night sleeping, but I have to shake it off, as I did not get the rest of the house work done yesterday, left it for today. And it is sheet washing day too. I want to get it all done before the dreaded 90's come. I am invited to DS house (condo) Saturday, which I am bringing a veggie pizza to, and wish now, that I did not have to go out into that heat.
Have a nice day everyone.
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Post by gareth on Jun 3, 2021 14:04:39 GMT
It's 72Âş already this morning. Beautiful morning for my walk. 80's today and then the 90's start tomorrow.
Yesterday was a long day in the car. Neither of us enjoy traveling anymore. The interstate scares me anymore with all the speeding big trucks. I hate when there's a truck ahead and behind along with one on the side of us. Our friend had stopped talking in the night from what little he was talking at that point and was semi comatose when we got there. He'd sigh and moan with each breath. I really do believe he knew we were there. He opened his eyes a little. He tried raising his hand a little too and looked like he was trying to speak. We spent a couple of hours talking to him and visiting with his DW and their DD. Their DDIL also stopped by on her lunch hour so it was good to see her too. Shortly after we left he passed away. So glad we made it in time even though it was so hard seeing him like that. He'd lost so much weight. He didn't even look like himself.
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Post by pinky on Jun 3, 2021 14:21:43 GMT
Look like it is going to get close to 90 for us today. At least it is a dry heat so shouldn't feel too bad as if it was humid. We are going to be hurting for rain if this heat continues and no rain in sight.
Carol---so sad about your neighbor. Did they not have any children?
Marsha----oh I bet that was and is painful, I hate stubbing my toes. Hope it feels better soon. My DS#1 is finally better from breaking the pinky toe and the next one to it after a cow stepped on it. It hurt pretty bad for a couple of weeks.
Anngie---Glad you had a safe trip and you all could be together----well except for the mother-in-law that is. Yes tell us what happened.
Robin----guess I am out of the loop about the latest beef processing? DH probably knows but he isn't here. We usually sell our beef feeders late August or early Sept.
Gareth---how was your friend when you got there? Hopefully you had a nice visit.
Karen---Yes it was 1 year ago this week that I had the stroke. I think I have made a 99% recovery. Sometimes I feel like I am a little slower to think before I answer someone---but that isn't always bad, comsidering I sometimes speak before thinking--LO!!! A little slower to think and also I forget easier if I have a lot on my mind-----but that could be old age or the stroke. I know I feel very thankful as it could have been so much worse. No I did not get any statements done---today's project now.
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Post by mikendanni on Jun 3, 2021 14:23:59 GMT
That JBS plant was involved in a big COVID outbreak among it's workers and their community back when the virus was starting to spread.
Karen - I tried to call ds again last night, didn't get through. Hmmm. I may have to text him about Father's Day.
Gareth - I'm so glad you got to see your friend before he passed- I know he knew you were there. I'm so glad you made the trip. I have travel anxiety just like what you described. I hate highways and I won't drive on them, I don't even like to be a passenger in the car. I'm working on it but some trips are really hard.
I learned yesterday that with the digital subscription as a WW Life member I can go weigh in at the center without an additional fee so I may try to do that this weekend. Then I will know how my home scale compares to theirs and I'll have a better idea of how much I have to lose to get to free. And maybe it will motivate me, although I don't really think I'm doing anything wrong, just can't make any progress.
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Post by pinky on Jun 3, 2021 16:36:37 GMT
Gareth----I see you snuck in on me as I was taking to long to post. I am so sorry about your friends passing but glad you got there in time. I am sure his wife and family appreciated it.
Marsha---interesting about WW life members.
Have a great day ladies!!!
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Post by carol2 on Jun 3, 2021 16:56:41 GMT
Gareth, good you got to see your friend before he passed away.
No, our neighbors didn't have kids. They don't have much family left. His siblings have died and she only had one sister who they were estranged from for a while. I think they were friendly again before she died. They left everything to their church. We don't know what motivated him to take his own life. He may have been worn out from caregiving or had health problems of his own. We will miss them. We would get their mail in and feed their cat if they were out of town and they did the same for us. They also kept an eye on what was going on in the neighborhood. We and the neighbor around the corner are watching the house just to make sure no one tries to break in or anything.
I don't like to travel much either. My mom was the same way. DH wants to visit national parks after he retires. I don't even drive in Dallas even though it is close. The traffic is terrible and there are crazy drivers.
Pinky, hard to believe it's been a year. So glad you are doing well.
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Post by mikendanni on Jun 3, 2021 17:03:58 GMT
My bff plans to get a small RV when she retires, give up her house (it's a rental so nothing to sell), and travel wherever the winds take them. She thinks that's a dream retirement. I think it's a nightmare for so many reasons. She was supposed to have done that last May but kept working because of the pandemic, now I think her retirement is imminent.
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Post by RobinS811 on Jun 3, 2021 18:17:18 GMT
Gareth, sorry to hear about your friend's passing. I know what you mean about traveling on the interstate. I haven't been in a while, but we try to stick to routes where the big trucks are not as much of a problem, but when I used to drive with my DS down to Atlanta, I hated it. He had an Equinox, and it even rattled that car. My Prius would have no chance.
Pinky, surprisingly I knew about this cyber attack on the meat packing plant. Interesting it was the same one that had the COVID outbreak. I figured you would have mentioned if your cows were going to market. Are you planning any upcoming trips, now that things are coming back? I just read that the big auto show in NYC is on for this year. They are now encouraging tourists to come to NY, so you might want to look into that, if you think you could stand NYC.
Marsha, sorry you are not getting DS to call you back. I can't stand the idea of having to shuffle those holidays. My younger DS wants us to celebrate Father's Day Saturday night. He really just doesn't get it, and I think that I am almost ready to take to DDIL's DM about it.
Karen, I am with you about not wanting to eat things I don't like. Certain types of cakes and pastries I don't really like, but if I do, I don't believe in this 3 bite thing, I enjoy every bite. I think you are more than generous to your DD's about the other family, but that could be because you have DD's. I know it is hard to understand the difference in the relationship unless you have one of each. I know my older DDIL's DM is seeing the difference now as she is the Mother of the Groom this time around.
It is rainy here in NY today. DH & I are meeting our friend for dinner tonight. This is the one I had to cancel with 2 weeks ago. Or she had to cancel with me. She messaged DH about an article he put on LinkedIN, and then figured she had to include him in dinner. My DH tends to monopolize the conversation.
I finished Sooley last night, and really enjoyed the book. I couldn't put it on my Pinterest board, nothing showed up, but maybe I will try to do it again. I started a Susan Mallery book last night, Stepsisters. I think it is a new one. I find those very easy and enjoyable reads. This one is a stand alone, she has various series too.
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Post by RobinS811 on Jun 3, 2021 18:20:36 GMT
Carol and Marsha both snuck in before I finished. Carol, I am a driver, except I also get car sick, so really don't love longer trips. You should see me driving in Manhattan, I say I drive like a taxi driver, it's just that the NYC taxi drivers don't drive like the men of old any more. These days they are mostly immigrants.
Marsha, I have mixed feelings about the RV thing, sometimes I think it would be great, when I see a really beautiful one, but not sure that would be my idea of a good time.
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Post by mikendanni on Jun 3, 2021 18:45:09 GMT
Robin - the RV my bff is talking about is like a conversion van, not a full RV. I honestly can't imagine being alone with dh in something that size for more than a few days. She says they will camp so they will be outdoors a lot. Sounds like a nightmare. Maybe she gets along with her dh better than I get along with mine but being cooped up with him and no place to go for days on end would be the end of me. Or him!
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Post by Anngie on Jun 3, 2021 19:26:50 GMT
Gareth, I’m so glad you and DH were able to see your friend one last time. And yes, I truly believe he was aware of your presence! A gift! I just saw a WW add on Facebook - three months free. Does that apply to lifetime members who need to get down to their goal weight?
Karen, I also had a bad night sleeping. I woke up at 4:00 and that was pretty much it. Finally got up at 5:30 and now I’m dragging. lol. Boy, I really don’t understand the rationale of not visiting a living father to spend a day with one that has passed. That must have been very, very hard for you and DH. Buffets are my downfall too, and I haven’t been to one in years.
Pinky, I can’t believe it’s been a year already! And you’re 99%! I’ve never had a stroke and I’m not 99%! You’re tough!
Marsha, sorry to hear you can’t get in touch with DS. Hopefully there will be a compromise and both dad’s will get a visit. They’re about three hours away, right? I will sound like a terrible person, but sometimes I find it best to finally speak up. In the best way possible, tell them BOTH (not just DS) that you’re their parents too and want time with them as well. This is going nowhere fast, Marsha, and in time there’s going to be a blowup.
Carol, your neighbors sounded like such good people who loved their church. They’re together and at peace.
Robin, my idea of “glamping” would HAVE to be in one of those fully equipped buses that get 2 miles to the gallon. Even then, I’m not sure I’d do it! lol
OK - here’s how it went: my son’s in-laws were not there yet the day we arrived. It was wonderful - DS, DDIL the DGS’s and us. The next day my DS’s ILs arrived. She pretty much takes over and completely occupies their time - she’s either carrying one around or holding one on her lap. If they’re being scolded for something they go to her and she holds them. I’m helping DDIL start dinner, she’s not there helping, she’s holding/playing with the kids. By now, she’s become their favorite and I don’t have a chance. They’re great when it’s just us, though. It just went on and on. If I think of something else, I’ll mention it.
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Post by karen54171 on Jun 3, 2021 19:29:46 GMT
Gareth, so sorry about your DF. I agree with Marsha, he knew you two were there. It is obvious, as he held out till after you left. I bet you are glad you decided to go, aren't you? Will you be going to his funeral?
Pinky, oh boy, I too hope you get rain, what with these hot temps that are predicted. We are still short on rainfall here, when we get rain, it doesn't add up to hardly anything. And with the next 4 days of 90 or above, those fields are going to look like the 30's, with the Dust Bowl. I am so happy with how far you have come, from when you first came on here, to tell us what happened!!! I bet your family mentions that they are happy for you, every once and awhile.
Marsha, I am sure this did not happen to your DS, but I remember right around the time DH passed away, my DS stepson was going through his phone, deleting calls and messages, and by accident he deleted my DS. So weird things can happen with our smart phones. They weren't going on a trip, were they? With my WW online subscription, I too can go to a store and get weighed. I was surprised to hear that, since I only pay for online. DH and I had a big motor home, and loved it, but all of a sudden I decided I had enough of it, as it can get expensive, and at that time we were looking at cutting costs, and I was happy to give that up. But while we were in that frame of mind, we loved it. We had a tire blow out on us, going down HWY 29, out by Wausau, otherwise we never had an issue with it. I would never do what your friend is going to do, with such a small RV, or van, in her case. But there are those small RV's out there, called a tear drop that may be even smaller, and they are quite popular. Where does your friend live, around here?
Carol, that is so sad about your neighbor. So they were elderly? If you said, I am sorry, but I must have missed that. You have a good point about maybe he was ill too. I think about that, every so often, how now I am alone, and really have to watch it, as I do not want to get sick and be all alone here. It does put the surviving spouse in a pickle, so to say. How fun to go visit the national parks! I have only been to a few, and that was way back when I was a teen. Of course now I will never go. I have heard that driving around Dallas is horrible.
Robin, I am glad you said that, lol!!! I didn't want to say that everything I eat, I enjoy!!! That cyber attack against JBS just closed them down for a day, I think, from what I heard on TV. And they were probably closed on Monday for the holiday. That company has only a few holidays they close for, and I am pretty sure Memorial day is one of them. And I had not heard if they paid a ransom, like the pipeline did. I guess these cyber attacks are getting pretty sophisticated. I read an article about them, which they said the only thing a business could do to totally avoid one is to get rid of all computer systems. And that is not going to happen. Enjoy your dinner......EVERY SINGLE BITE!!! Lol.
I guess I am the odd duck here, as I love driving. Not so much at certain times of day, around here on our main highway. Green Bay is very well noted for awful drivers. I spent so many years being a route driver for reference labs, that I was able to learn defensive driving. That really helps. I would love to hop in the jeep and take a drive around the country, but that is probably when something would happen to me.
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Post by karen54171 on Jun 3, 2021 19:38:04 GMT
Anngie, you popped up while I was still typing. About DSIL and DD not being around on the actual day of Father's day, I never said anything to anyone, because I didn't want DH to feel any worse than he probably felt. He put up a good front. We did Mother's day many times on the Saturday of the weekend, and I was fine with that. I am doing a buffet for the Memorial, but I know I won't be eating hardly anything, with talking with everyone. So I should be ok with that for dinner. You are right about Marsha having to confront both DS and his wife. They have many years of coming in second, if nothing is said. Oh for Pete's sake!!!! You sure do have every right to be ticked off about your visit to your grand babies!! What would have happened if you went up to one of them and picked them up, and left DDIL to get things ready by herself? I know, it is little of you to do, but something needs to be done, to change that selfish woman!
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Post by mikendanni on Jun 3, 2021 19:38:31 GMT
Anngie - thanks for the advice re ds, but if you'll recall when I spoke up about the wedding it backfired on me big time and ds didn't speak to me after that. I tiptoe around him and try to be supportive and nice but I'm not perfect and I make mistakes and he holds on to grudges and I honestly I feel that there is no winning with him period. I completely understand (although don't accept) where this is coming from. ddil's family is a party in a box. They are loads of fun, she has 5 sisters all adults married some have kids so there are fun nieces and nephews and the whole thing comes to him with no baggage. We are not such fun people and we come with history and baggage of perceived wrongs and injustices which young men think there parents have imposed on them, mistakes made in child raising when trying to do the very best you can. And since the wife is the one who makes the social plans I can absolutely see why we are not prioritized. I don't like it, and I hope someday (not too late...) he'll see that he needs to prioritize us. Truthfully I've been giving some thought to starting therapy over this and the fact that I realized recently that it's been a very long time since I actually felt happy. Between ds' distance and dd's intense need for support dealing with her anxiety and depression sometimes I am overwhelmed with this idea of being a mom and carrying the weight of your family's emotions.
TMI?
As for the inlaws, so sorry for that but I think the adults appreciate you and that will come back to you in spades. My cousin is spending much of the summer with her ddil. She said that when she is there she helps - she cooks and cleans and helps with the kids. her ddil's mother doesn't do anything. Consequently since my cousin's son will be out of the country for much of the summer her ddil appreciates that cousin will be there to help her out and prefers her to her own mom. Not that she doesn't love her mom, but what she really wants and needs is the help with a 2 (or 3?) year old and a newborn.
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