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Post by murphy1288 on Jul 17, 2021 10:22:11 GMT
If you have been struggling with your weight and have found this board, you undoubtedly have your own unique, complicated relationship with alcohol and food. Laying out the problem honestly can give you the extra push you need to succeed in getting it under control. A few questions for you to think about...do you wake up at 3 AM wondering what did you do? Do you sometimes have no recall of the evening before or do you try to recover your memory of the evening before you even get out of bed? Is your spouse angry with you? Or do you simply think that A is taking over too much of your life, affecting your weight loss? Did you finish the bag of chips? cookies? or just spend the evening grazing? These are hard questions but know that you will find understanding, love, encouragement and support on this thread. We are each in a different stage of this journey but you will find others have shared your experiences. There is no judgment, just an acknowledgment that we have been there, done that and know we need and get the support from this great group of women and men.
Whether you are choosing to be AF or find you can achieve AIM (maximum of one drink per day for women and maximum of two drinks per day for men), please join us if you feel this challenge meets your needs.
The main focus of this board is to be ALCOHOL FREE. The focus of our new challenge is to commit ourselves to success, one day at a time, one hour at a time....success breeds success! Follow a healthy food plan, exercise and stay AF.
As with all of our challenges, everyone is welcomed. For some making the commitment for the entire challenge is the way to go, but day by day is also a way to go. No one is cut from the challenge, and if you don't want to be part of the challenge, you are still welcome to post.
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Post by murphy1288 on Jul 17, 2021 10:22:38 GMT
New Challenge!
Labor of Love, July 7 - September 4
The word labor implies a specific task or effort, many times painful or arduous. A labor of love is doing something because you really want to, not because of any monetary reward you might get for it even though it involves hard work.
This challenge is all about a labor of love, reminding yourself to love yourself so it becomes your norm.
How often do we do something for someone else because it makes them happy and in turn makes us happy. But as the saying goes “how can you love someone else if you can’t love yourself”.
There are many ways we don’t show ourselves love. We are harder on ourselves than on anyone else. We go over and over “why did I drink too much” and the ever popular "if I lost weight I would be so much happier”. We are not showing ourselves love by overeating and over drinking, we are doing the opposite. To start forgive yourself, or tell yourself yesterday is done, tomorrow isn’t here, so let’s deal with the present.
So why is it so hard? The mind set "I messed up today so might as well just finish the bottle or finish the bag of chips” has to be changed.
The purpose of this eight week challenge is to discover the reasons behind our drinking and do the hard work it takes to change the behavior. It is a journey of self discovery that you may or may not want to share. This can be painful, this can be bring up old memories, this can be too difficult to tackle. The reasons are so varied. But remember this is a safe place to vent and share and if you are not comfortable sharing here, feel free to use our private FB site (by invitation request).
So does anyone think that alcohol is your friend? Anyone think that the next morning just looks so much better after a night of drinking? Does drinking bring you serenity? So why do we drink?
Some people can have an easy time of giving it up but for most, it just isn't that easy. Many of us start off great and then hit the wall at 10 days. Have you tried to journal your feelings as each day progresses and see what happens when you hit that wall?
"I will let the serene moments wash over me. I will cherish them. They soften me. And the blows of today's tumultuous storm will be lessened."
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Post by murphy1288 on Jul 17, 2021 10:22:59 GMT
How will you lover yourself today?
Move More Accountability
Sleep Accountability
Nutrition Accountability
Journal Accountability
Happiness Accountability
Habit Accountability
Check in Daily Accountability
Time Management Accountability
Labor of Loving yourself first!
July 7:
July 14:
July 21:
July 28:
August 4:
August 11:
August 18:
August 25:
September 1:
Final Weigh In/September 4:
CONGRATULATIONS!
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Post by murphy1288 on Jul 17, 2021 10:29:52 GMT
How will you love yourself today? I will remember that my life is about progress not perfection
Move More Accountability - I have lots of chores to do and that should keep me busy.
Sleep Accountability - Much better
Nutrition Accountability - Back to a normal routine!
Journal Accountability
Happiness Accountability - I am very happy!
Habit Accountability - drink more water
Check in Daily Accountability - I'm here!
Time Management Accountability - stick with my list of things to do!
Labor of Loving yourself first!
AF Days: 20
July 7: 192.4
July 14: 192.6
July 21:
July 28:
August 4:
August 11:
August 18:
August 25:
September 1:
Final Weigh In/September 4:
Congratulations!
Good morning all! Did't sleep very well last night but I don't have anything planned for the day so I can be lazy if I want! I did have a NSV yesterday. When my loan goes through, I will have enough money to buy a new couch and loveseat if I want to. (Callie has peed on my current set so many times!). I wanted to go look at furniture but I had to drive past my favorite A store that has my favorite wine and I was a little scared that I would find it hard not to pull in to buy a bottle. I kept telling myself "You don't HAVE to do that" and I sailed right past the store! I realize that is a very small thing but I was still proud of myself! I probably will not buy any new furniture right now but I just wanted to look. Most likely I will wait to buy anything as long as I have Callie. Little girl is getting old and will probably have more accidents!
Going to have more coffee right now and will be back later.
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Post by lizmawmn on Jul 17, 2021 12:12:51 GMT
Good morning,
DH isn't progressing the way I had hoped. I have been going on to the patient portal and maybe I shouldn't. I plan on going into the hospital today, he has been telling me not to come in because he has been sleeping most of the day. But today, I am going in and want to talk to a doctor. There has been no more talk about discharging him. He is in a lot of pain and still requiring oxygen. Now, I am getting nervous so I have to see for myself.
Will check back in later in the day. I hope it is more positive and maybe I shouldn't be reading the nurses' notes.
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Post by cathygeha on Jul 17, 2021 14:57:35 GMT
How will you lover yourself today?✔️ ❌❔ Move More Accountability ❌too hot and humid-not motivated Sleep Accountability✔️ 7 hours last night Nutrition Accountability✔️ eating healthy Journal Accountability✔️ tracking on ITB and paper Happiness Accountability✔️ in charge of my own happiness Habit Accountability✔️ balanced meals happening Check in Daily Accountability✔️ I'm here Time Management Accountability✔️ might be iffy? Labor of Loving yourself first! July 7: 163.2 July 14: 161.6 July 21: July 28: August 4: August 11: August 18: August 25: September 1: Final Weigh In/September 4: <162.6>
Electricity cuts are going to be more frequent as time goes by. I will be OP and check in but if I disappear it is probably because of electricity or internet not being available. I cut my own hair SHORT using a mirror and going mostly by feel. I need to even up a few spots later but it feels a LOT better than it did! Hope you all have a great weekend!
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Post by GG on Jul 17, 2021 17:08:40 GMT
I got 9/9 hours with 250 steps and hit my 3000 steps yesterday. Yay! DD isn’t coming today. Hopefully tomorrow! Weird thing happened. I sat down to play the piano. After about 15 minutes, my foot fell asleep. I got up and walked up the steps. My foot kept dropping down. It’s ok now, but now when I walk, my leg hurts. It’s almost like I pinched a nerve or something. Something to keep an eye on.
Murphy: Yay for driving past the A store!
Liz: It sounds like you need to talk to the dr or at least the nurses. Hugs!
Cathy: Yay for short hair! I hope the electricity stays on! I can’t even imagine!
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Post by lizmawmn on Jul 17, 2021 21:05:01 GMT
More complications, spoke to the doctor, and will have s better understanding of what is going on after another CT tonight.
Needing lots of prayers. ❤️
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Post by GG on Jul 17, 2021 21:25:41 GMT
Liz: Prayers coming your way! Hugs, friend.
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Post by murphy1288 on Jul 17, 2021 23:34:40 GMT
Liz - keeping you and DH in my prayers. Keep us posted.
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Post by cindy on Jul 18, 2021 1:50:41 GMT
Hi Everyone!
Having DS home is just messing with my schedule, through no fault of his own. He had the three interviews, two said he was overqualified but sending him through to the next step, the third said he was overqualified and therefore not a good match. We shall see.
My nephew texted me today. The surgeon is pretty sure that he will lose his voice box and part of his tongue. It is not definite, the PET scan will tell how far the cancer has spread.
Roof looks good, waiting on the gutters. The adjuster messed up the measurements so waiting on insurance to adjust the difference.
Murphy, you getting up so early...thank you for getting us started. GREAT NSV! Glad you have the funds for the roof and for buying new furniture. I have so many "blankets" on furniture to prevent Ainsley from scratching and so she can snuggle down and shed on the blankets, lol.
Liz, thinking of you. Prayers for DH. Hugs and love.
GG, I learned today that my DB is using a cane when he is on uneven surfaces...which is often. He is 74 and has had both hips done....it is more for security than need. Hope the pinch nerve or whatever caused the problem has been resolved.
Amy, what? where is your post? I hope all is okay and everyone is just doing fine.
Jan, hope you are enjoying cabin time!
Carole, loved the photo on FB and thought your hair looked great!
Cathy, I hope you can maintain the electricity though not in your control. Glad you have food supplies and are self sufficient. Can't be easy, hugs. Braver than me to cut your hair, though I remember doing it one time in a galaxy far, far away....actually when I was in high school.
Just not getting myself together. My doctor put me on a RX allergy med because I haven't lost the cough I've had for months. It seems to be working but wonder if it is affecting my sleep. I have put back up several paintings on the walls but still have not finished it all...was told to take them down while roof was being done. I just need to get some solid sleep...it might help if I didn't watch mysteries before I go to bed but just love them. I binged on Crossing Lines and Corman Strike series. Need to get back to walking.
So hope everyone had a positive day!
Hugs, Cindy
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