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Post by amyj on Jul 22, 2021 11:02:09 GMT
If you have been struggling with your weight and have found this board, you undoubtedly have your own unique, complicated relationship with alcohol and food. Laying out the problem honestly can give you the extra push you need to succeed in getting it under control. A few questions for you to think about...do you wake up at 3 AM wondering what did you do? Do you sometimes have no recall of the evening before or do you try to recover your memory of the evening before you even get out of bed? Is your spouse angry with you? Or do you simply think that A is taking over too much of your life, affecting your weight loss? Did you finish the bag of chips? cookies? or just spend the evening grazing? These are hard questions but know that you will find understanding, love, encouragement and support on this thread. We are each in a different stage of this journey but you will find others have shared your experiences. There is no judgment, just an acknowledgment that we have been there, done that and know we need and get the support from this great group of women and men.
Whether you are choosing to be AF or find you can achieve AIM (maximum of one drink per day for women and maximum of two drinks per day for men), please join us if you feel this challenge meets your needs.
The main focus of this board is to be ALCOHOL FREE. The focus of our new challenge is to commit ourselves to success, one day at a time, one hour at a time....success breeds success! Follow a healthy food plan, exercise and stay AF.
As with all of our challenges, everyone is welcomed. For some making the commitment for the entire challenge is the way to go, but day by day is also a way to go. No one is cut from the challenge, and if you don't want to be part of the challenge, you are still welcome to post.
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Post by amyj on Jul 22, 2021 11:03:01 GMT
New Challenge!
Labor of Love, July 7 - September 4
The word labor implies a specific task or effort, many times painful or arduous. A labor of love is doing something because you really want to, not because of any monetary reward you might get for it even though it involves hard work.
This challenge is all about a labor of love, reminding yourself to love yourself so it becomes your norm.
How often do we do something for someone else because it makes them happy and in turn makes us happy. But as the saying goes “how can you love someone else if you can’t love yourself”.
There are many ways we don’t show ourselves love. We are harder on ourselves than on anyone else. We go over and over “why did I drink too much” and the ever popular "if I lost weight I would be so much happier”. We are not showing ourselves love by overeating and over drinking, we are doing the opposite. To start forgive yourself, or tell yourself yesterday is done, tomorrow isn’t here, so let’s deal with the present.
So why is it so hard? The mind set "I messed up today so might as well just finish the bottle or finish the bag of chips” has to be changed.
The purpose of this eight week challenge is to discover the reasons behind our drinking and do the hard work it takes to change the behavior. It is a journey of self discovery that you may or may not want to share. This can be painful, this can be bring up old memories, this can be too difficult to tackle. The reasons are so varied. But remember this is a safe place to vent and share and if you are not comfortable sharing here, feel free to use our private FB site (by invitation request).
So does anyone think that alcohol is your friend? Anyone think that the next morning just looks so much better after a night of drinking? Does drinking bring you serenity? So why do we drink?
Some people can have an easy time of giving it up but for most, it just isn't that easy. Many of us start off great and then hit the wall at 10 days. Have you tried to journal your feelings as each day progresses and see what happens when you hit that wall?
"I will let the serene moments wash over me. I will cherish them. They soften me. And the blows of today's tumultuous storm will be lessened."
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Post by amyj on Jul 22, 2021 11:03:20 GMT
How will you love yourself today?
Move More Accountability
Sleep Accountability
Nutrition Accountability
Journal Accountability
Happiness Accountability
Habit Accountability
Check in Daily Accountability
Time Management Accountability
Labor of Loving yourself first!
July 7:
July 14:
July 21:
July 28:
August 4:
August 11:
August 18:
August 25:
September 1:
Final Weigh In/September 4:
CONGRATULATIONS!
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Post by amyj on Jul 22, 2021 11:10:29 GMT
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Post by amyj on Jul 22, 2021 11:21:12 GMT
What will you be accountable for today?
Move More Accountability: 4, walked at the lake, 250 steps 6/8 hours, 11,000+ steps, 14 FP, counter push ups and stretching
Sleep Accountability: 4, slept well, didn't want to get up
Nutrition Accountability: 4, 22/23, blue dot, rollover
Journal Accountability: 4, continuing online journal
Happiness Accountability: 4, enjoyed the day, watched Hallmark Christmas movie, stitched, read before bed
Habit Accountability: 5, drinking more water than Diet Coke
Check in Daily Accountability: 5, I'm here!
Time Management Accountability: 4, stuff for work, tidied in the craft room, wrapped DH's birthday presents
Number Of Days AF (mostly alcohol free since August 16, 2006): 5445; ANIM: 1 (021221)
Labor of Loving yourself first!
July 7-Sep 4
July 7 start weight: 175.3
July 14: 174.9
July 21: 173.8
July 28:
August 4:
August 11:
August 18:
August 25:
September 1:
Final Weigh In/September 4:
After we walked yesterday, I did about an hour and a half on stuff for work, was lazy on the couch/ napped, then worked in the craft room. I have dumped a bunch of stuff in there over the last couple of months, got most of it put away.
Today is DH's birthday. I think we are going out to breakfast, then walking. I think we're going out for Mexican food tonight & DS is going to join us.
We didn't get much rain yesterday and today is actually starting out sunny.
GG- Sorry DH is feeding you too well, LOL. GL with the new plan. How does DD feel about going back to the office? I'm sure Rylee would enjoy preschool.
Carole- Hope golf was fun. Glad you & DH are getting along better.
Cindy- Yay for sleeping better. Hope the shoulder exercises help.
Cathy- Glad you have a backup for when the electricity is out.
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Post by amyj on Jul 22, 2021 11:21:23 GMT
Word of the Day
Bel esprit
[ BEL-ES-PREE ]
Part of Speech
noun
Origin + Etymology
French
in french, literal translation is “beautiful mind, fine mind, wit,” and by extension “person of wit and intelligence.”
Synonyms
intellect, capable
Antonyms
ignorant, inept
Definition
a person of great wit or intellect
Example
As a bel espirit, she despised petty gossip.
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Post by lizmawmn on Jul 22, 2021 11:39:38 GMT
Hi everyone!
Well, they finally found the leak after the third in hospital CT. Apparently it is right at the point of connection after they removed the tumor, it did not heal properly. The leak was not visible when they went back in on the 13th. Tuesday, they had to insert two more drains, and last night they went in and placed a clip on the leak. Now we are praying for that to stay in place until he heals. It looks like he will be there for quite a while, and it just seems that it is one thing after another. I know they are giving him the best care possible.
By the way, It was not just fish, it was frigg'n french toast the morning after the initial surgery! They claim that studies have shown that patients heal better with food after a procedure such as his. It is one of the best hospitals in Boston and I had faith in their decisions, but solid food was not one of them. I have already expressed that when he is ready to have food introduced, I want it to be liquids first.
I need to get ready to go to DD's, her meetings are starting at 9AM and I have to be there by 8:45 until 5PM today.
Have a great Thursday!
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Post by GG on Jul 22, 2021 20:34:14 GMT
Hi girls! Day 1 completed. I can’t believe I only ate 3 meals and nothing else and wasn’t hungry! It has to partly be from the supplement. So far so good! DH is having a harder time of it. He drove me to therapy last night and had 3 beers. Then after dinner he finished off the zucchini pie with ice cream. Today I heard him eating after lunch and he was finishing off the zucchini cake he made. Lol He’ll probably be the one to lose! Yesterday I used my 16 dailies and 5 weeklies. Interesting!
My friend that I used to work with came over this afternoon. We had a nice visit. Tonight I’m planning on driving in for our Bible school program. I’m not ready to sit in church for an hour, but this will be a good start!
Cindy: I’m glad your meds helped you sleep. I got a message from ds from some training he was doing. It said one of the most susceptible people who will overdose on oxy is a patient that has never had it before. No wonder he was so upset and told me to get off of it! 2 pills at a time was definitely too much! All I did was sleep! Rylee has been going to daycare/preschool 4 days a week. DD kept her out 1 day so I could watch her.Then I offered to split the time with her other grandma.I told her I didn’t care if she put her in school all week as long as I get her overnight at least once a month! I have been watching grands 1 day a week for 11 years! Hard to believe!
Amy: Happy Birthday to DH! I think it’s great that you walk together every day! I have some drawers that need cleaned out too!
Liz: Yay!! I’m glad they finally found the leak! I’m sure you will make sure they start him on liquids this time! Have fun with The baby!
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Post by cindy on Jul 23, 2021 2:11:44 GMT
Hi All,
Been another lazy day. Made lists of stuff that need to be done and also took photos of the gutters. We have several gutters that go into the ground (not a good explanation) but I don't want them to change that. I'm not sure how deep they go but at least those areas don't get standing water. Cleaned out the junk drawer so now it is organized junk! Put some stuff away and packed up the car with stuff for the thrift shop. Hopefully I will get it dropped off tomorrow.
The extra sleep/rest seems to have "restored" my right shoulder. Not sure what I did to it but the pain has gone.
Amy, Happy Birthday to DH! Enjoy the Mexican dinner! Glad you could get your craft room organized. At some point I need to make decisions about sewing stuff instead of moving it from one corner to another.
Liz, so glad the leak was found and prayers that DH is on the road to recovery. Enjoy your day1
GG, glad the first day on plan went well! Hope it gets easier for DH. I'm not a fan of Oxy. I hadn't realized or forgot that Rylee has been going to preschool. It is wonderful that you have been able to watch the grandkids!
Cathy, thanks for the explanation about backup for electricity. Did DS and family go on their trip?
Hi Carole, Jan, and Murphy!
Hope everyone had a wonderful day!
Hugs, Cindy
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Post by cathygeha on Jul 23, 2021 11:10:48 GMT
How will you lover yourself today?✔️ ❌❔ Move More Accountability ❌too hot and humid-not motivated Sleep Accountability✔️ 7 hours last night Nutrition Accountability✔️ eating healthy Journal Accountability✔️ tracking on ITB and paper Happiness Accountability✔️ in charge of my own happiness Habit Accountability✔️ balanced meals happening Check in Daily Accountability✔️ I'm here Time Management Accountability✔️ might be iffy? Labor of Loving yourself first! July 7: 163.2 July 14: 161.6 July 21: 161.4 July 28: August 4: August 11: August 18: August 25: September 1: Final Weigh In/September 4: <162.2> this morning
More rationing of electricity as they try to give more fuel to hospitals. It is a mess and only going to get messier. My husband worries while I focus on the positive. We will work to prepare as much as possible for things getting worse BUT I will still focus on today and what I can do to make it better. We will see if we can buy a UPS and two big car batteries and also get some mosquito nets. I will grind coffee beans the night before and make French press instead of electric drip coffee from now on as the cut will be 5-8am and pm plus 11-1 middle of the day. There are things to do to make it work but I need to remember to have the laptop and phone charged and things like that. Probably should also buy some more candles.
AMY: Happy Birthday to your husband. I hope you had a good day celebrating with family and meals out.
LIZ: I am glad that they found the leak and hope it is fixed and will heal quickly. I hate that he and you have had this to deal with! How often are you able to spend time with your granddaughter?
GG: Here's hoping that day two went as well with the eating as day one did!
CINDY: Glad you were able to get a good night of sleep and your shoulder is feeling better. My son and his family went on vacation a few weeks ago and went this past weekend for a swim meet their daughters qualified for.
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