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Post by amyj on Jul 27, 2021 11:01:52 GMT
If you have been struggling with your weight and have found this board, you undoubtedly have your own unique, complicated relationship with alcohol and food. Laying out the problem honestly can give you the extra push you need to succeed in getting it under control. A few questions for you to think about...do you wake up at 3 AM wondering what did you do? Do you sometimes have no recall of the evening before or do you try to recover your memory of the evening before you even get out of bed? Is your spouse angry with you? Or do you simply think that A is taking over too much of your life, affecting your weight loss? Did you finish the bag of chips? cookies? or just spend the evening grazing? These are hard questions but know that you will find understanding, love, encouragement and support on this thread. We are each in a different stage of this journey but you will find others have shared your experiences. There is no judgment, just an acknowledgment that we have been there, done that and know we need and get the support from this great group of women and men.
Whether you are choosing to be AF or find you can achieve AIM (maximum of one drink per day for women and maximum of two drinks per day for men), please join us if you feel this challenge meets your needs.
The main focus of this board is to be ALCOHOL FREE. The focus of our new challenge is to commit ourselves to success, one day at a time, one hour at a time....success breeds success! Follow a healthy food plan, exercise and stay AF.
As with all of our challenges, everyone is welcomed. For some making the commitment for the entire challenge is the way to go, but day by day is also a way to go. No one is cut from the challenge, and if you don't want to be part of the challenge, you are still welcome to post.
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Post by amyj on Jul 27, 2021 11:02:43 GMT
New Challenge!
Labor of Love, July 7 - September 4
The word labor implies a specific task or effort, many times painful or arduous. A labor of love is doing something because you really want to, not because of any monetary reward you might get for it even though it involves hard work.
This challenge is all about a labor of love, reminding yourself to love yourself so it becomes your norm.
How often do we do something for someone else because it makes them happy and in turn makes us happy. But as the saying goes âhow can you love someone else if you canât love yourselfâ.
There are many ways we donât show ourselves love. We are harder on ourselves than on anyone else. We go over and over âwhy did I drink too muchâ and the ever popular "if I lost weight I would be so much happierâ. We are not showing ourselves love by overeating and over drinking, we are doing the opposite. To start forgive yourself, or tell yourself yesterday is done, tomorrow isnât here, so letâs deal with the present.
So why is it so hard? The mind set "I messed up today so might as well just finish the bottle or finish the bag of chipsâ has to be changed.
The purpose of this eight week challenge is to discover the reasons behind our drinking and do the hard work it takes to change the behavior. It is a journey of self discovery that you may or may not want to share. This can be painful, this can be bring up old memories, this can be too difficult to tackle. The reasons are so varied. But remember this is a safe place to vent and share and if you are not comfortable sharing here, feel free to use our private FB site (by invitation request).
So does anyone think that alcohol is your friend? Anyone think that the next morning just looks so much better after a night of drinking? Does drinking bring you serenity? So why do we drink?
Some people can have an easy time of giving it up but for most, it just isn't that easy. Many of us start off great and then hit the wall at 10 days. Have you tried to journal your feelings as each day progresses and see what happens when you hit that wall?
"I will let the serene moments wash over me. I will cherish them. They soften me. And the blows of today's tumultuous storm will be lessened."
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Post by amyj on Jul 27, 2021 11:03:13 GMT
How will you love yourself today?
Move More Accountability
Sleep Accountability
Nutrition Accountability
Journal Accountability
Happiness Accountability
Habit Accountability
Check in Daily Accountability
Time Management Accountability
Labor of Loving yourself first!
July 7:
July 14:
July 21:
July 28:
August 4:
August 11:
August 18:
August 25:
September 1:
Final Weigh In/September 4:
CONGRATULATIONS!
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Post by amyj on Jul 27, 2021 11:09:02 GMT
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Post by amyj on Jul 27, 2021 11:24:24 GMT
What will you be accountable for today?
Move More Accountability: 4, walked at the lake, went to Home Depot, laps in the basement, 250 steps 6/8 hours, 12,000+ steps, 12 FP, counter push ups and stretching
Sleep Accountability: 4, slept much better
Nutrition Accountability: 3, 24/23, blue dot
Journal Accountability: 4, continuing online journal
Happiness Accountability: 4, enjoyed the day, watched Olympics, stitched, read before bed
Habit Accountability: 5, drinking more water than Diet Coke
Check in Daily Accountability: 5, I'm here!
Time Management Accountability: 3, played in the dirt, watched Olympics, napped
Number Of Days AF (mostly alcohol free since August 16, 2006): 5450; ANIM: 1 (021221)
Labor of Loving yourself first!
July 7-Sep 4
July 7 start weight: 175.3
July 14: 174.9
July 21: 173.8
July 28:
August 4:
August 11:
August 18:
August 25:
September 1:
Final Weigh In/September 4:
We enjoyed walking at the lake, but it was hot, even before 9am. Stopped at Home Depot on the way home to get fungicide for the yard and I bought some seed packets. I had to pull up our cucumber plants as they appeared to have mosaic virus. Since that left one side of the garden bed bare, I thought I would dry to get some more plants going from seed in the house. There should be enough time here to get them to harvest before the frost. Did some Amazon shopping. Since I didn't sleep well Sunday night, I took a nap in the afternoon which lasted a couple of hours. Fortunately I still slept well last night.
It's starting out mostly sunny this morning, but rain is likely. Need to run the vacuum.
Murphy- Glad you are feeling more like yourself again. Yay for the closing coming up so you will have the money ready for the roof.
GG- Yay for being able to drive without pain. How did the zucchini lasagna turn out?
Cindy- Hope you wake up with vim & vigor today! Sorry about your internet issues & that DS is feeling discouraged. Glad the Mongolian beef was yummy. I am so sorry about your nephew's upcoming surgery.
Jan- Loved your pictures! Looks like fun times, I miss going to our county fair. The snake looked like he was smiling at you.
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Post by amyj on Jul 27, 2021 11:26:46 GMT
Word of the Day
Felicific
[ FEE-LUH-SIF-IK ]
Part of Speech
adjective
Origin + Etymology
Mid 19th century; Latin
from Latin felicificus, from felix, felic- âhappyâ
Synonyms
blissful, glad, happy, joyous
Antonyms
disagreeable, pleasureless, unpalatable, unpleasant
Definition
relating to or promoting increased happiness
Example
Daily exercise has been scientifically linked to general felicific.
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Post by murphy1288 on Jul 27, 2021 11:42:53 GMT
How will you love yourself today? I will remember that my life is about progress not perfection
Move More Accountability - I have lots of chores to do and that should keep me busy.
Sleep Accountability - Much better
Nutrition Accountability - Back to a normal routine!
Journal Accountability
Happiness Accountability - I am very happy!
Habit Accountability - drink more water
Check in Daily Accountability - I'm here!
Time Management Accountability - stick with my list of things to do!
Labor of Loving yourself first!
AF Days: 23
ANIM - 5
July 7: 192.4
July 14: 192.6
July 21:
July 28:
August 4:
August 11:
August 18:
August 25:
September 1:
Final Weigh In/September 4:
Congratulations!
Good morning all! I'm going to get my hair trimmed in a bit but wanted to check in. When I get home, I want to pull up the outdoor rug on the patio because it is getting ratty and I bought another one. It's so hot and humid that I want to try and get the outside work done before the afternoon. Will check back when I get home.
Murphy
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Post by lizmawmn on Jul 27, 2021 12:11:24 GMT
Good morning!
Yesterday was the first day that I have eaten so many carbs in one day since I don't know when, and boy do I feel sluggish! I really need to do a grocery shopping. Between baby sitting almost every day and going to the hospital, I am just wrung out at night that I don't feel like shopping. Today, I am only watching Isabel from 10:30 to 11:30, then driving into Boston to see DH. When I get back, I really need to hit the market and get a few basics to keep me on the straight and narrow. I really need to cut down on the A as well; it's been two to three drinks when I get home and it's really killing my acid reflux. I just feel like I am in a really low point and it has been a physical and emotional drain on my body. I did tell DD that when DH comes home, I will need to stay home until I know he is strong enough to be left alone. I also have to let her know that I can only go a couple of days a week. As much as I want to help out and love Isabel, it has taken its toll on me. Furthermore, it is enabling DSIL not to help out with the baby.
Sorry for the rant, just needed to vent a little. Hope you all have a great day!
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Post by tatermom on Jul 27, 2021 14:44:55 GMT
Good Morning!! Home again. My brother and SIL are here, came yesterday for a few days, DH needed a buffer  They are here to visit some friends and crash at our house. All good but there was A involved last night and now I need to get BOT with my eating and come out of the cabin peace and quiet. DH is at the dentist this morning and probably won't feel much like socializing when he gets home. I'd like to lay low too but see what the day brings. It's rainy and gray out and I need to do some grocery shopping, laundry etc. Looking back over the posts, will get my stats and things thought out today and get back to accountability posts tomorrow. Feel like I could go back to bed in a bit and sleep for awhile. It's always a transition to home. Had fun with my cousins and friends up north. Hope to get back up the first week of August. We are having a new fridge delivered there today, cousins are still there, new floors will be coming in September so still have lots of cleaning and furniture moving to do next month. Eating was pretty good until the last few days, fish fry, big breakfast out, A last night. Have a few days until WI on Saturday to get my act together. Helps that I can track again online and up my water intake. Hope you all are well. The summer is going by too fast. Take care. Jan Amy Sorry your cukes didn't make it. I finally got 3 tomatoes yesterday when I got home and we cut them up with cucumbers and some balsamic dressing. Yum. I'm going to try to enter some things in the fair next year. It's a small fair and even the 4H kids have to come from such a wide area that you no longer have to be a county resident to enter. Going to knit a few things, maybe a santa cross stitch. we'll see, gives me a reason to work on some projects. Murphy yay for your loan getting funded and having the $$ in the bank. Liz Sorry to hear DH is still in the hospital. I think it's good you will be setting some boundries and maybe it will make DSIL step up some to help. Hope you get some quiet time at home and can knit and take care of yourself. Cindy I'm sure it's frustrating for DS with the job scene, especially as the news just keeps harping that there aren't people who want to work, blah blah. Hope Vim and Vigor showed up this morning. I'm looking for some too. It's just getting back into my routine and having company come the first day I'm home has kind of thrown me. Hope your internet issues get resolved. Prayers for your nephew. Cathy Prayers for your continued safety too. Glad you have what you need at home and can stay so positive Glad you can still connect with family. GG Yay for driving! Day by day sounds like things are getting better. want to heat about the lasagna. Hi to all. Will check in later. |
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Post by murphy1288 on Jul 27, 2021 15:56:17 GMT
Back from my hair cut. I worked out on the patio and got the new patio mat put down. It is a 9x12 and it was a bear to wrestle it out straight! Add to that the heat and humidity and as Kim would say, "I'm sweating like a pork"! We may get some thundershowers tonight so I'm going to wait to put out the cushions and stuff. I'm having a cold lunch of cottage cheese and some chopped veggies and it's very refreshing!
Amy - hate that your cucumbers didn't make it. Hope your seedlings take off quickly. Did you get a grow light to help them along?
Lliz - I am so sorry DH is still in the hospital. We know you dearly love your grand baby but you are absolutely correct that you have to set some limits for everyone's sake. Vent anytime girl!
Cindy - I know this has to be a rough time for DS. Was he able to get unemployment benefits? Continued prayers for your nephew.
Jan - you have had a busy summer for sure!! Hope DH doesn't feel too bad after seeing the dentist. I am yearning for a good home grown tomato to slice for a sandwich with lots of mayo and black pepper!
GG - I am so thrilled for you with the progress you are making! That is awesome that you are driving and getting in and out of the car!
No big plans for the rest of today. I do want to vacuum and then mop the floors but right now I'm just going to chill and cool off. Hope everyone has a good rest of your Tuesday.
Murphy
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Post by flower on Jul 27, 2021 21:24:13 GMT
Hi friends! I had today off! Took Bowie for a walk then walked 3 miles myself. Iâm trying to get a trophy for 8 move days from my watch! Dumb, but it gets me moving! Now to stop the moving to the junk food! I donât think I told you, my df whose daughter is having twins, the daughter ended up in the hospital. They thought she was dehydrated but she was having contractions. And dialated to 3, this was on Sunday. Sheâs only 28 weeks. As of today sheâs doing a bit better but they want her in the hospital until the babies come, hopefully 6 weeks.
As you know, I still havenât been vaccinated. This lady at work, I considered her, almost, as a 2nd mom. She once said I shouldnât get a ventilator. I shouldâve said something but I was shocked. Anyway, she came into work the other day (I wasnât there) yelling about how all the non-vaccinated should die, thereâs Pam, Carole that work here that arenât vaccinated. Now Iâm not happy! I may see her tonight as Dad and I are going to dinner for 1/2 off pizza and sheâs usually there. This all makes me so sad.
Sorry for no personals. Have a great day! Stay cool!
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Post by GG on Jul 27, 2021 22:01:25 GMT
Hi girls. I was sore today after having therapy yesterday. Then last night in the middle of the night I needed the bathroom, and ended up sitting down really hard. You know when you think something is higher than it really is? It hurt! Iâm still walking but being careful. I did go get some groceries and probably shouldnât have. Pushing the cart isnât as good as using the cane. I didnât sleep well last night and then ended up napping today!
Cindy: I hate it when our internet goes wonky! Iâm sure DS is discouraged.
Amy: It sounds like I had a day like you did today with the napping!
Jan: So good to have you back! The lasagna was good!
Murphy:You got your hair fixed and then got all sweaty!! Lol
Liz:I remember when I was working 3 days, and watching Rylee on Mondays and the other 2 on Fridays. I was exhausted! Yep, set your limits, especially with DH coming home. Iâm sorry to hear that dsil still isnât helping with the baby.
Carole: People feel really strongly about things and then just canât stop themselves. Not a good thing! Hopefully you can talk to her privately and settle it. Hugs. Enjoy the time with your dad!
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Post by cindy on Jul 28, 2021 3:49:58 GMT
Hi Everyone!
Internet is still wonky...unless it is my computer. Going to run diagnostics and have a software update. A bit of vim showed up but also need the vigor....hope springs eternal.
Will catch up with everyone tomorrow!
Hugs, Cindy
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Post by cathygeha on Jul 28, 2021 6:44:55 GMT
AF for a long time...can't remember the last wine but it was awhile ago. With the economy so crazy it could be a long time more.
Scale still hanging in at 161.6 and waiting for it to drop.
I am doing a quick stop today since the electricity and internet are iffy and often missing. It is hot, I will probably be going to spend the afternoon with the two friends I met with a couple of weeks ago, and life goes on. Nothing exciting to share BUT all is as well as it can be here on my hilltop.
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They are here to visit some friends and crash at our house. All good but there was A involved last night and now I need to get BOT with my eating and come out of the cabin peace and quiet. DH is at the dentist this morning and probably won't feel much like socializing when he gets home. I'd like to lay low too but see what the day brings. It's rainy and gray out and I need to do some grocery shopping, laundry etc. Looking back over the posts, will get my stats and things thought out today and get back to accountability posts tomorrow. Feel like I could go back to bed in a bit and sleep for awhile. It's always a transition to home. Had fun with my cousins and friends up north. Hope to get back up the first week of August. We are having a new fridge delivered there today, cousins are still there, new floors will be coming in September so still have lots of cleaning and furniture moving to do next month. Eating was pretty good until the last few days, fish fry, big breakfast out, A last night. Have a few days until WI on Saturday to get my act together. Helps that I can track again online and up my water intake. Hope you all are well. The summer is going by too fast. Take care. Jan
