Post by bbbearsmom on Jul 28, 2021 22:47:33 GMT
Day 29
Resist Food Pushers
When we are out and about and around people and food sometimes it seems that people will push us to eat and drink when we might not want to do that. These people are called “food pushers.” (Note: Sometimes I am the food pusher to myself.) Today is about socializing and food. Beck makes two good comments about speaking up in food pushing situations:
“You’re entitled to work toward your goal of losing weight as long as you’re not maliciously trying to make someone feel bad.”
“It’s okay to disappoint others. Disappointment is a normal part of life. Their disappointment most likely will be mild and fleeting.”
She goes on to say that if you are assuming others will be disappointed if you turn down food, ask yourself:
“Won’t I be disappointed if I accept the food and stray from my food plan?”
“Why is it more important for me to please them than it is to do what is best for me?”
In the section “How to Say No” Beck wants you to:
Create a sense of entitlement about turning down requests to eat by listing the costs to yourself of eating/drinking when you don’t want to. If you are still worried about how someone would feel if you refuse ask yourself how you would feel if someone refused your offer of food/drink.
Prepare your initial response. Suggestions:
“No, thanks”
“No, thank you, it looks delicious but I’m fine”
“Thank you, it looks really good. Could I take a little piece home for later?”
Visualize you successfully turning down food/drink.
Do you have food pushers in your life? How do you handle them?
Do you have an internal food pusher that can say you have to eat/drink this or that in social situations?
Resist Food Pushers
When we are out and about and around people and food sometimes it seems that people will push us to eat and drink when we might not want to do that. These people are called “food pushers.” (Note: Sometimes I am the food pusher to myself.) Today is about socializing and food. Beck makes two good comments about speaking up in food pushing situations:
“You’re entitled to work toward your goal of losing weight as long as you’re not maliciously trying to make someone feel bad.”
“It’s okay to disappoint others. Disappointment is a normal part of life. Their disappointment most likely will be mild and fleeting.”
She goes on to say that if you are assuming others will be disappointed if you turn down food, ask yourself:
“Won’t I be disappointed if I accept the food and stray from my food plan?”
“Why is it more important for me to please them than it is to do what is best for me?”
In the section “How to Say No” Beck wants you to:
Create a sense of entitlement about turning down requests to eat by listing the costs to yourself of eating/drinking when you don’t want to. If you are still worried about how someone would feel if you refuse ask yourself how you would feel if someone refused your offer of food/drink.
Prepare your initial response. Suggestions:
“No, thanks”
“No, thank you, it looks delicious but I’m fine”
“Thank you, it looks really good. Could I take a little piece home for later?”
Visualize you successfully turning down food/drink.
Do you have food pushers in your life? How do you handle them?
Do you have an internal food pusher that can say you have to eat/drink this or that in social situations?
