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Post by nancy on Dec 26, 2016 5:14:33 GMT
WELCOME TO REGULAR & NEW POSTERS! This thread is full of encouragement & suggestions. New people, welcome! We encourage you to jump in. One day, one hour, one minute at a time is easier to handle than a week, etc. Lurkers, join in
Our goal is 21 days Binge Free (studies show 21 days to break old habits & start new ones!). Whether we make 21 or one, the point is to learn as we go, replace binges with other things to help us through stressful times. Some days are harder than others & we may slip; that's OK. The Binge Monster is in the shadows waiting to pounce. Hopefully this thread provides inspiration, courage, & support to become a Binge Survivor!
You may see different folks on different "Cycles." A Cycle is a 21 day block of consecutive binge-free days. Stay with us for as many cycles as you'd like.
Everyone's definition of a BINGE is different. The Oxford Dictionary defines a binge as a spree of eating and drinking. To many of us, BINGE is defined as "eating without dignity." The dictionary defines "dignity" as a calm and serious manner or style, showing suitable formality or indicating that one deserves respect. Only you can define what a binge is for you. Going over points, as long as it was done with dignity and journaled (therefore acknowledged and "owned") isn't binging--it is up to you to decide.
SPECIAL THANKS TO LESLIE5609 for starting this challenge on the Out of Control Board, in August '02, and thanks to all who keep it going
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Post by nancy on Dec 26, 2016 5:18:43 GMT
C75D15, no exercise
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Post by Jan on Dec 26, 2016 11:55:05 GMT
Good morning, all.
It definitely wasn't our best Christmas. We're still really struggling with DS16. He never came home for Christmas Eve dinner, but his best friend was here. Yesterday was a down day for me. I did reach out to two of the boys' birth mom. She's been clean for 11 years and has a new life. I sent her pictures, and I may talk on the phone with her this week.
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Post by thebber on Dec 26, 2016 12:35:26 GMT
{{Jan}}
nice quiet day for us yesterday. leisurely breakfast of steel cut oats, fruit & nuts and the sunday paper. Opened a couple of small gifts. Got the turkey in the oven. Had a leisurely lunch of leftovers & watched the end of Love Actually (again! we watched the whole thing christmas eve...we love it). Then took the dog for a 3.5 mile walk. Prepped the spuds, squash & green beans and DH made himself gravy and we had a nice turkey dinner with a treat for dessert from DH's home-baked collection.
Nice having another day off today! I just got back from taking the dog for her morning constitutional and am now headed out to pickleball. Supposed to get icy here later but i should beat that home. If it holds off long enough we'll take the pup for another long walk this afternoon.
have a nice day everybody...
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Post by edesia on Dec 26, 2016 14:42:11 GMT
Morning, BFF's! I'm glad we spent last evening with my sister, DBIL, and a friend of my sister. Lots of good food and a fun time. We all needed a break, if only a brief one. By the time we got home, we had to deal with a problem with DS. I am feeling battered by other people's dysfunction on both sides of the family and just want to hide in my house with DH. That's pretty much my plan for today. TTYL
(((Jan)))
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Post by nancy on Dec 26, 2016 19:44:02 GMT
{{{{{Jan}}}}} Do the boys know their birth Mom? Did you even know where he was Christmas Eve? I can only imagine the stress you are under. It seems the fitness must be a life saver for you so that you can work off some of the tension. Wish I lived nearer so that I could give you a real hug. BTW I really like the Fairlife milk. Thanks for bringing it to my attention.
Beth – We’re having the same sort of day. In fact the whole weekend was like that for us. Feels like a vacation. But then when I retired my DDIL gave us a cushion that says “How beautiful it is to do nothing and rest afterwards” <g>
Edesia – You sound like the poster child for the sandwich generation. Not an easy place to be. Enjoy your brief respite as you hide away with DH. Sounds like a plan. I finished the book and am really glad to have read it. I’m debating whether to even continue weighing in at WW. Seems counter intuitive in a way. What do you think?
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Post by Jan on Dec 27, 2016 1:40:14 GMT
Nancy, the 2 boys who are half brothers do not know their mom, and they really have no interest. Our middle son has always known his mom and sister, and that was intentional on our part. I always felt such a hole in my life from not knowing my birth family, and I didn't want him to experience that. We tried a visit with the other mom when they were babies, and she was a no-show. I wasn't going to keep setting them up for disappointment as they got older, so that was the one and only chance I was giving her.
I'm not entirely sure where DS was on Christmas Eve. He came home briefly last night and was gone again when I got up this morning. It's very scary for us.
Running has been very therapeutic for me. Teaching my classes forces me to come out of myself and put on a happy face for an hour at a time. It's a life saver right now.
Despite not wanting to, I tracked calories and protein today, and met both goals. It helps my mind immensely to control what I can.
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Post by nancy on Dec 27, 2016 4:20:48 GMT
Jan - One of these days the kids, including DS-16, will appreciate all you've done for them. In the meantime it certainly must be scary as hell. As for the fitness, I'm sure you're a gift to your class members. Win, win. Our line dancing instructor is coming to our holiday luncheon. It will be so nice to see her.
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