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Post by murphy1288 on Aug 19, 2024 12:10:19 GMT
Welcome to Alcohol Free is What We Want To Be!We are glad you are here with us! If you have been struggling with your weight and have found this board you undoubtedly have your own unique, complicated relationship with alcohol and food. Laying out the problem honestly can give you the extra push you need to succeed in getting it under control. A few questions for you to think about...do you wake up at 3 AM wondering what did you do? Do you sometimes have no recall of the evening before or do you try to recover your memory of the evening before you even get out of bed? Is your spouse angry with you...or do you simply think that A is taking over too much of your life, affecting your weight loss? These are hard questions but know that you will find understanding, love, encouragement and support on this thread. We are each in a different stage of this journey but you will find others have shared your experiences. There is no judgment, just an acknowledgement that we have been there, done that. This board of great people will support you in your journey.
Some of us have been here for several years, others are new, but all are welcome and if you have visited before but didn't stay, there is still and always a place for you. Don't get overwhelmed, take your time, if something strikes you, respond. We are great at giving advice, whether you want it or not....you will get tough love, if necessary, but you will also find help. We practice positive self-talk and support, we encourage and gently hold each other accountable. We each have stories to tell, share and suggestions to help. We post different challenges during the year. Please join us if you think this is the group for you. You will be glad you did.
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Post by murphy1288 on Aug 19, 2024 12:10:40 GMT
Labor of Love
NEW CHALLENGE
July 5 through September 2
The word labor implies a specific task or effort, many times painful or arduous. A labor of love is doing something because you really want to, not because of any monetary reward you might get for it even though it involves hard work.
This challenge is all about a labor of love, reminding yourself to love yourself so it becomes your norm.
How often do we do something for someone else because it makes them happy and in turn makes us happy. But as the saying goes “how can you love someone else if you can’t love yourself”.
There are many ways we don’t show ourselves love. We are harder on ourselves than on anyone else. We go over and over “why did I drink too much” and the ever popular "if I lost weight I would be so much happier”. We are not showing ourselves love by overeating and over drinking, we are doing the opposite. To start, give yourself grace and tell yourself yesterday is done, tomorrow isn’t here, so let’s deal with the present.
We worry about so many things, things we have no control over. Resilience, happiness and freedom comes from knowing what to care about and what to not let us get bogged down. Let go of things that do not work for you, help you, or encourage you. It is hard! You want to be a good person but be good to yourself first. Send out positivity but give yourself positivity.
We all have bad days, nothing goes right, nasty people out and about, stress levels are over the top and you have no control. This can be true in many ways but your control is to step away, love yourself.
Journal it, put it down on paper, and then let it go.
So each morning give yourself an affirmation. Here are some suggestions:
#1. I am worthy.
#2. I am enough.
#3. I am beautiful inside and out.
#4. Even my “flaws” have good and helpful aspects.
#5. I love and approve of myself.
#6. I am delighted with who I am.
#7. I fully approve of who I am, even as I better myself.
#8. I approve of myself and love myself completely.
#9. I am happy in my own skin and in my own circumstances.
#10. I am surrounded by love.
#11. I am treasured for who I really am.
#12. I am worthy of happiness and love.
#13. I enjoy my own company as I get in touch with my true self.
#14. I am at peace and happy when I’m alone.
It may sound like Stuart Smiley but go with it!
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Post by murphy1288 on Aug 19, 2024 12:11:06 GMT
THE EIGHT GOOD HEALTH GUIDELINES
1. Eat at least five servings of vegetables and fruits each day.
2. Choose whole-grain foods, such as brown rice and oats, whenever possible.
3. Include two servings of milk products – low fat (1%) or fat-free – each day.
4. Have some healthy oil (olive oil, canola, sunflower, safflower or flaxseed each day.
5. Ensure that you are getting enough protein by choosing at least a serving or two of meat, poultry, fish, eggs or dried beans each day. Many dairy products are also good sources of protein.
6. Limit added sugar and alcohol.
7. Drink at least 6 8-ounce glasses of water a day.
8. Take a multiple vitamin-mineral supplement each day.
NUTRITION ACCOUNTABILITY
Drink more water:
One or more fruit daily:
One or more vegetable daily:
Dairy:
Healthy Oils:
AF:
AIM:
ANIM:
Exercise goal:
HABIT ACCOUNTABILITY
Journal:
Move Accountability:
Sleep Accountability:
Nutrition Accountability:
Happiness Accountability:
Habit Accountability:
Check in Daily Accountability:
Time Management Accountability:
What did you do for yourself today?
Please post a NSV (non-scale victory), LSP (little sign of progress), PA (positive affirmation) or motivational quote
Start weight July 5:
July 12:
July 19:
July 26:
August 2:
August 9:
August 16:
August 23:
August 30:
Yay we have done great! September 2
Celebrate! Final weigh in:
Great success!
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Post by murphy1288 on Aug 19, 2024 12:13:36 GMT
THE EIGHT GOOD HEALTH GUIDELINES
1. Eat at least five servings of vegetables and fruits each day.
2. Choose whole-grain foods, such as brown rice and oats, whenever possible.
3. Include two servings of milk products – low fat (1%) or fat-free – each day.
4. Have some healthy oil (olive oil, canola, sunflower, safflower or flaxseed each day.
5. Ensure that you are getting enough protein by choosing at least a serving or two of meat, poultry, fish, eggs or dried beans each day. Many dairy products are also good sources of protein.
6. Limit added sugar and alcohol.
7. Drink at least 6 8-ounce glasses of water a day.
8. Take a multiple vitamin-mineral supplement each day.
NUTRITION ACCOUNTABILITY
Drink more water: Improving!
One or more fruit daily: Yep!
One or more vegetable daily: Yep!
Dairy: Yep!
Healthy Oils:
AF: 23
AIM:
ANIM:
Exercise goal:
HABIT ACCOUNTABILITY
Journal: Yes!
Move Accountability:
Sleep Accountability: Finally sleeping well again
Nutrition Accountability:
Happiness Accountability: Happy and grateful to be here
Habit Accountability:
Check in Daily Accountability: I'm here
Time Management Accountability: Very good
What did you do for yourself today?
Please post a NSV (non-scale victory), LSP (little sign of progress), PA (positive affirmation) or motivational quote
Start weight July 5:
July 12:
July 19:
July 26:
August 5: 159.6
August 9: 160.2
August 16: 163 Yikes!
August 23:
August 30:
Yay we have done great! September 2
Celebrate! Final weigh in:
Great success!
Good Monday morning all! Headed to my brother's for the day but I'm taking my computer so I'll check in later.
Murphy
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Post by amyj on Aug 19, 2024 12:50:08 GMT
THE EIGHT GOOD HEALTH GUIDELINES
1. Eat at least five servings of vegetables and fruits each day.
2. Choose whole-grain foods, such as brown rice and oats, whenever possible.
3. Include two servings of milk products – low fat (1%) or fat-free – each day.
4. Have some healthy oil (olive oil, canola, sunflower, safflower or flaxseed each day.
5. Ensure that you are getting enough protein by choosing at least a serving or two of meat, poultry, fish, eggs or dried beans each day. Many dairy products are also good sources of protein.
6. Limit added sugar and alcohol.
7. Drink at least 6 8-ounce glasses of water a day.
8. Take a multiple vitamin-mineral supplement each day.
NUTRITION ACCOUNTABILITY
Drink more water: 76/75 oz goal
One or more fruit daily: Y
One or more vegetable daily: Y
Dairy: Y
Healthy Oils: Y
AF: (mostly alcohol free since August 16, 2006): 6577
AIM: 0
ANIM: 1 (021221)
Fitbit Goal/burned: 2170/2083
HABIT ACCOUNTABILITY
Journal: Y
Move Accountability: 4, 13,600+ steps, 250 steps 7/8 hours, walked the neighborhood, yard work, PU, wall stretches
Sleep Accountability: 4, slept well, went to bed early, 8+ hours, Fitbit score 88, stress management 76
Nutrition Accountability: 3, protein shake, protein bar, chicken enchilada, steak, baked potato, cake
MacrosFirst: Protein: 108/137 (31%), Carbs: 128/100 (37%), Fiber: 17gm, Net Carbs: 111, Fat: 49/45 (32%), Calories: 1359/1353, 6 over, gold star, much better day
Happiness Accountability: 3, enjoyed the day, watched Sunday news shows, Hallmark movies, Big Brother, stitched, read before bed
Habit Accountability: 3, more water than Diet Coke
Check in Daily Accountability: 3, I'm here!
Time Management Accountability: 3, walked, yard work, stitched, couch time
What did you do for yourself today? reading, time outside, stitching
Please post a NSV (non-scale victory), LSP (little sign of progress), PA (positive affirmation) or motivational quote: “You must do the thing you think you cannot do.” ―Eleanor Roosevelt
Start weight July 5: 160.4? Mom's scale
July 12: 158.6
July 19: 158
July 26: 157.6
August 2: 156.4
August 9: 155.8
August 16: 155.2
August 23:
August 30:
Yay we have done great! September 2
Celebrate! Final weigh in:
Great success!
2024 Goals:
11,000 steps each day: 216/237
At least 7 hours sleep: 110/237
Lift weights twice/week: Wk 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13:only once, 14, 15, 16, 17:only once, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32
Starting weight: 179.8
Get to the 160's: March 10, 2024
150s: June 24, 2024
140s:
DH & I took the golf cart to the top of the hill to walk yesterday morning. It started out cloudy but the sun came out by the time we were done. When we got back we got busy on the yard, even though the grass was still fairly wet. I edged, trimmed, weeded, picked green beans and 7 cucumbers, managed to fall off one of the retaining walls. I wasn't hurt, if anyone saw, I'm sure it was amusing. I went to 3 neighbors to unload the cucumbers. Then I came in, showered, had lunch, and some couch time. DH grilled a steak for dinner which we had with baked potatoes, green beans, and cucumber salad. I finished off the last of the cake, good to have it gone. The A/C unit for upstairs was making weird noises so we turned it off. It stayed reasonably cool up there with the window open, but got really noisy this morning with all the going to work, school bus, garbage truck activity.
It's a sunny day and will be busy with water aerobics and taking to DD for a doctor appointment. DH is calling the HVAC company now.
Jan- WTG steps, PU, stretches, blue dot, AF, finishing projects. I don't pay any attention to the UHC points, I guess I should. It was just DH & I at the Juicy Crab, nothing on the menu that DD would have liked.
Murphy- Thanks for getting us started. Glad it was a good church service and you got a nap. Have a good visit with your brother today.
Cindy- Sorry about the lost post, air fryer liner event, DS's issue with drill, hose splitting. Sounds like a Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day. Love your quote about your summer. They did have butcher paper on the tables at the Juicy Crab, but we did get stainless steel pans to dump our bags into and a bucket for the shell and other debris.
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Post by amyj on Aug 19, 2024 12:53:20 GMT
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Post by amyj on Aug 19, 2024 12:53:57 GMT
M-W Word of the Day
impugn
verb | im-PYOON
What It Means
To impugn something, such as a person's integrity, judgment, etc., is to attack or oppose it as false or lacking integrity.
// The defense attorneys did their best to impugn the motives of the prosecution’s key witnesses.
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Post by tatermom on Aug 19, 2024 13:14:55 GMT
I look to 2024 with a renewed commitment to Progress” “Out the Door in 2024” NUTRITION ACCOUNTABILITY Drink more water: daily goal 70: 80 oz One or more fruit daily: 2 One or more vegetable daily: 2 Sober Spring AF: 212 AIM: 18 ANIM: 1 Fitbit Goal/burned: 2,000/2,194 JUST JOURNAL! HABIT ACCOUNTABILITY Move Accountability: Step goal 8,500: 8,152 steps, 10/11 hours, 110 PU, 7 floors, stretched, walked store, marched around Sleep Accountability: 6 hours, 67 sleep, 73 stress, resting, HR 76 lots of crazy dreams Nutrition Accountability: 40!/23 -8 weekly egg bacon sand, watermelon, salad, tuna, salt and vinegar chips, 1/2 protein drink, trail mix, banana bread, cheeseburger, tater tots Munchy!! Fitbit Macros: calorie goal @1500/1,777 cal 26% carbs, 138g, 45% fat, 92g, 29% protein 137g, fiber 33g, 333 over Happiness Accountability: 4 feeling happy Habit Accountability: Exercise bar 0/4. Morning routine, Check in Daily Accountability: 5 I'm here!! Time Management Accountability: 4 Ran errands, made banana bread, knit, TV time, read What did you do for yourself today? 4.journal, got my steps, knit, read in bed Please post a NSV (non-scale victory), LSP (little sign of progress), PA (positive affirmation) or quote: "Massive goals don't require massive action. They require consistent action. " Start weight July 5: 194.6 cabin July 12: 194 July 19: 194.8 193.8 at cabin today July 23: 192.4 Now to hold on  August 2: 194 WW August 9: 193 cabin August 16: 194.8 arggh August 23: August 30: Yay we have done great! September 2 Good morning all. Happy Monday. So glad its almost my new point week and WW meeting day. I will go face the scale tomorrow and get the wake up call. Beautiful out this morning, have things to do in the yard and then take a walk. Need some time OFF the couch  Got my deals at B&B, the sale soaps, my free gift and then they even had a %20 off coupon. The meds etc I ordered from the Advantage site already showed up at the door this morning! We are set on tooth paste, Tylenol and Advil for quite a while ha ha. I'm sure all the big news today will focus around the DNC in Chicago. Will watch some at some point but try to tune out all the extra hype. I need to see if I can get a hair appt in the next couple weeks. Want a trim up and refresh the highlights a bit, have to look "good" for the reunion next month Not that worried, most folks I've seen in pictures have either gone all gray or are bald No other big plans for the day. Hope everyone is ready for a new week. Will check in later. Jan Murphy Hope your DB has a good day. Thanks for getting us going. Cindy Love the quote. That's crazy about the air fryer, good thing you were right there to check on it. Yikes. Hope you can work out a good way to drive into town this week and DS can do the driving. Amy Have fun in the pool. Hope the HVAC fix isn't too $$. We each get $40 a quarter to spend on healthcare items, I use the online catalogue but think you can also do it at Walmart. Sometimes I can't even find enough things we would need but figure Q tips, chapstick etc will last. I've even bought multiple toothbrushes to donate to the shelter, even tho that's probably not "allowed". Also I have my fitbit linked up and get $10 a month for just anything. I've bought plants at Walmart, and food. I just scan my card. Got to love free $$. Yay for giving the neighbors veggies. Better get some steps in. Also, Scout has had a busy morning pushing all the papers and items by DH chair off onto the floor and I need to pick up. He is currently done "working" I guess and napping on the coffee table. |
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Post by murphy1288 on Aug 19, 2024 19:49:08 GMT
Back home now. Had a good visit with DB. He is actually doing better than I expected. DSIL got out to spend the day with friends and DB and I took a drive. Went through Taco Bell drive through for lunch. He's not having as much trouble with the anxiety and he walks some without the walker. But he is very unsteady and says that sometimes his legs just feel like lead. Breaks my heart for sure. I'm tired though. Sorry for the lack of personals.
Murphy
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Post by tatermom on Aug 19, 2024 21:38:34 GMT
Hi all. Checking in again. Good thing for Facebook memories or would have forgotten our 40th anniversary ha ha Maybe would have remembered at some point, the days just go together and I never think of the date. I was happy I knew it was Monday! Anyway, DH went and got a nice steak to grill, and a nice bottle of wine. I will enjoy it, consider it "special" as it's not coming out of a box and start my new week tomorrow. I'm hoping at some point this year we can still take a nice trip somewhere, even if just out east again and spend some more time with DS. I did get a walk around the park, sorted out a big tangle of yarn mess the cats had made long ago and I shoved in a bag. Finished my book and told DH his anniversary present was I ran the vacuum! He said mine was he mowed the lawn. We're such an exciting couple. Tonight we'll watch some of the DNC, hoping for at least some positive messaging. Hope you all have a great evening. Jan |
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Post by WWVicki on Aug 19, 2024 22:45:04 GMT
Hi girls. We had a good time at Jackson’s birthday dinner. It was just so good to see everybody! Today I had Rylee. The only problem was I reached for something and my back went into spasms again. DD got here around 1 so it wasn’t too bad. I don’t have her again until Thursday. Hopefully by then it’ll feel better. Tomorrow DH starts prep for his colonoscopy on Wednesday. I’m just glad it’s him and not me!
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Post by flower on Aug 20, 2024 0:32:04 GMT
Hi friends! Not the best day at work, tomorrow is a new day. I helped my df (with a bunch of others) throw garbage, dry wall into the dumpster from her new gym. I’m now exhausted! The place is much bigger than I thought since they took a wall out. I’m excited to see it all done! Our internet and/or cable has not been working for a week or so. So frustrating. Anyway, I’m sorry for lack of personals. Have a great night!
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Post by cindy on Aug 20, 2024 3:37:15 GMT
Hi Everyone!
Got sucked into watching the DNC convention...still watching since I paused it for awhile.
Murphy, thanks for getting us going. Glad you had a good time with your DB and he was willing to go for lunch. His walking without a walker is great, even if for short times. I'm sure your DSIL appreciated the break you provided her.
Amy, I hope the A/C is an easy fix. Wish I lived near you to get cukes. DS likes to hollow them out and fill them with ranch dressing or tuna or whatever strikes him and just munches on it. Hope water aerobics was fun and that DD's appointment went well. I laughed about yesterday being a terrible, horrible, no good, very bad day. Really such minor inconveniences but sometimes argh! and with the heat have to take advantage when the mood strikes. A new hose has been purchased today!
Jan, I hope you get positive news at your meeting but as you say it is a starting point and you move on. Yay for the sales and the meds and OTC stuff showing up so quickly. Glad Scout had a busy morning! I made an appointment for Ainsley for her geriatric wellness visit and now she is back on her diet. Not happy. It makes me feel like me when I go to the doctor's. Happy Anniversary!! Perfect gifts!
Vicki, I'm sorry about your back...do you take anything for it? I take OTC Backaid and find it helps. I hope you are feeling better!
I hope DH handles the prep with "grace". Never fun!
Carole, I wish you had a better day at work. Do you think you will be able to work at your friend's gym? Sounds you did a complete work out with throwing the garbage and drywall into the dumpster. Never fun when the internet/cable isn't working...I get really frustrated and I think is going to get worse since we are having so many houses built in the area....someone is sure to cut a cable somewhere or trip a transformer. Hope you get a good night rest.
Cathy, hope you were able to talk with family and that you have electricity and water! Keep reading reports and continual prayers for you and DH.
Best news of the day is I realize my appointment in Dallas isn't till next week!! Hopefully it will be cooler. We only hit 103 today...almost balmy. Birds are fed, the bird bath filled, and can see lots of cardboard going into the barrel tomorrow.
Hugs to all, Cindy
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Post by cathygeha on Aug 20, 2024 9:10:22 GMT
Start weight July 5: 167.6 July 12: 171.6 July 19: 171 July 26:172 August 2: 171.2 August 9: 170.8 August 16: 167.8 August 23: August 30: Yay we have done great! September 2 Starting weight: 167.6 and today's weight <166>
Seems I have not posted for a few days...not sure why. We did run errands yesterday and any day I don't do morning posts is a day that I tend to forget to post later in the day. We were able to talk to our children and granddaughters and had electricity cuts from time to time. The Blue Moon was pretty last night when the clouds weren't covering it. Might drive my husband to a government office in Jounieh tomorrow and if I do, won't be able to go play cards in Tripoli...hope he knows SOON so I can let the women know!
No personals...already after noon and I need to make lunch!
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Got my deals at B&B, the sale soaps, my free gift and then they even had a %20 off coupon. The meds etc I ordered from the Advantage site already showed up at the door this morning! We are set on tooth paste, Tylenol and Advil for quite a while ha ha. I'm sure all the big news today will focus around the DNC in Chicago. Will watch some at some point but try to tune out all the extra hype. I need to see if I can get a hair appt in the next couple weeks. Want a trim up and refresh the highlights a bit, have to look "good" for the reunion next month 
