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Post by bbbearsmom on Jan 4, 2017 0:48:08 GMT
Wednesday, 01/04
Thinking Mistake #9: Exaggerated Thinking
You make a situation seem greater or worse than it really is.
"I can't stand this craving."
"I have no willpower."
Me: All I ever want to do is eat.
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Post by jamescat1 on Jan 4, 2017 3:49:31 GMT
It's easy to get down on yourself but for those of us who have been doing WW a long time, I think there is less exaggerated thinking. If I think I am too old to lose the weight, I remember the ladies 10 or more years older than me who got to goal at a later age and stayed there. We all have willpower. We just need to redirect our thoughts. All I ever want to do is eat means I am at home all day and bored so I need to find something fun to do and stay out of the kitchen.
Have a great day.
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Post by linda72 on Jan 4, 2017 14:43:20 GMT
I used to do this when I was much younger. I see some of that in my 10 year old DGD. Everything can be a huge drama when you're 10! I agree with Audrey that long time WW members learned to relax a little. I am learning to be better at being kind to myself.
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Post by bbbearsmom on Jan 4, 2017 16:14:23 GMT
I was thinking about my "all I ever want to do is eat" the other night and thought maybe if I stopped telling myself that it would help. Saying it to myself does end up with me thinking "woe is me" and thoughts of this will always be hard and as we know Beck says while this will be hard it is also easy at times. I will say the way the meetings have been going it has got my attention to work more in being positive in my thinking.
I was raised in an "everything is drama" family and I've had to work on breaking the habit. My husband pointed it out to me that to me everything was a big deal.
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Post by doordie50 on Jan 4, 2017 16:30:22 GMT
Just a thought but, this "exaggerated thinking" is likely more of a personality trait - perhaps one that diminishes with age? I guess I'm saying that I don't think its unique to weight management. If I'm super stressed, I tend to be more dramatic about everything making sweeping statements, painting with a broad brush and the like. No doubt, if I worked on managing my stress generally, it would have an impact on how exaggerated my thinking becomes when trying to rationalize more food.
Good posts
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Post by jancanlose2016 on Jan 4, 2017 17:10:34 GMT
All of the above. Another example of exaggerated thinking is "I'm starving" or even "I'm hungry". Sometimes I really am hungry, but I need to turn off the voices in my head that sometimes lie to me. Sometimes I'm just craving and want a salty, sweet or crunchy snack to satisfy that craving.
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Post by Tammy on Jan 4, 2017 17:42:16 GMT
Sigh, when I'm having a bad fencing day, I can be very whiny. I need to do Beck on fencing!
"I'll never get this." It's a thought I've had.
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Post by surfgirl on Jan 4, 2017 19:33:54 GMT
I wonder if as doordie says, it's more a personality thing? That said, I'm more of the mindset of "I want that...I REALLY want that...and I don't have it very often so..." which is more of an "I deserve it" issue, but I digress. I think that what I found when I am completely OP - tracking, exercising, measuring, etc. - AND I'm not giving in to that voice that wants a treat - I found that the weight actually comes off fairly easily. So for me, I have to keep telling myself, "If you stick with this and do your part, good things will happen." So I counter exaggeration with reality, more or less.
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Post by msu91 on Jan 5, 2017 0:36:49 GMT
I like Beck's other reminders about duration of thoughts or feelings. Sometimes I do have feelings that I will not measure up to some expectation I might place on myself. But those thoughts can be fleeting and easily dismissed with a reminder that my thoughts are reactions to situations and I am more often successful in situations than I am not. I am not perfect but each week that I stay at or near goal means that those exaggerations are just that - temporary and fleeting thoughts that are not my truth.
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Post by bbbearsmom on Jan 5, 2017 0:53:47 GMT
Colleen: I like the "not my truth" part.
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Post by ladymajky on Jan 5, 2017 1:16:12 GMT
At my meeting this morning I picked up the new 2017 Simply Filling brochure. I was somewhat disappointed that it was only the list of SF foods--the same list that is on the website. I was hoping for some meal planning ideas. This evening I read through the rest of the new materials. They've jazzed up the presentation, but it's still the same old information. I was down 1.2 today so I think I'll keep on doing SF for a few more weeks. Now it would be really nice to have two down weeks in a row!
Exaggerated thinking: I agree with you all. I think we mellow out as we age. We have enough experience to know that the world does NOT come to an end (like that 10-year-old thought). We know that what goes around comes around. (Remember leggings and tunic sweaters from the mid-1980s? Only then the tunic sweaters had big shoulder pads and we wore big hair.) I'm still being astonished every day that I lost all this weight and that I'm wearing size M instead of size XXL. So I know that I know what to do. It's a matter of just doing it.
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Post by bbbearsmom on Jan 5, 2017 17:15:37 GMT
Carol: Congrats on the weight loss.
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