Hugs Z, stress and frustration certainly can zap us of our energy and health. I hope your problems resolve soon and you are feeling better. Anything we can do to help?
Hello to everyone else!
DH complains about my Birthday because it's so close to Christmas and Valentines day. He feels obligated to find the "right" gift for each occasion, which again, is why we've really cut back on the gifts and the value we put on these days. It reduces his stress and worry and I really don't care. I have been known to forget my OWN birthday! Christmas and V-day are harder to miss b/c of the public recognition of them. For valentines, we don't do gifts. We go out to eat, or if there is a fundraiser party, we'll go to that mostly to do the fundraiser part than the party part.
As for health and fitness, I'm still having trouble tracking and when I do track, I'm not good at staying under budget. I did get a short run in today and plan to go to TRX tomorrow. Apparently, my desire to be fit is easily overwhelmed by my desire to eat and drink anything that looks interesting or to assuage my boredom or frustrations. Same old same old! :-)
I'm also really distracted by politics. It was one thing when my conservative friends insulted the president, but now they feel they have licence to belittle and insult all liberals, and I'm taking it personally. I can't seem to get off facebook. I want to see what they are saying and I want to see what my like-minded friends are saying and although I rarely post back, I'm spending a lot of time composing responses in my head, only to not post them because I can't come up with an adequate enough response. I wish I could just ignore it and go on with my work, but I also feel that innaction or avoidance of the problem is conceding to the opposition. And so I look, I read, I think, I compose, and I eat. Even on my run today, I couldn't stop thinking about what I really wanted to say. And running used to be my sanctuary. Now what?
Hi all, Hi Ks, nice to read your post. I don't know that there is much help i can ask for at present from afar, but i do appreciate your asking. Your agreement to focus less on gifts seems wise to me if it was stressful. I encourage you to keep tracking if you can. I know that helps me a lot, even if i eat a lot when tracking.
I watched several of the hearings for cabinet members last week, but then skipped the news for a few days around the inauguration as i found it so disheartening. When i got back online yesterday, as usual, i found it worse than i had imagined it would be. It is so sad. I think sad situations like this can call to mind resonance with other sad situations.
I'm being severely hassled by one of my schools. The new, inexperienced in education, director was ill-advised by his bitter and unpopular vice-director (or whatever they are called), and then stuck to his guns for reasons of pride. The context seems to be illegal, but it can take a very long time to be sorted out, and, as i have been informed, judges are human, so there is never 100% certainty of winning, even if the law is on one's side. if he loses, he loses nothing as it's a larger institution that will pay a relatively small fee. Meanwhile he continues to make his career, politically.
There is no real reason for him to be so stuck in his opinion. He should have been open to discussion and finding a common solution. He mixes and matches laws and contexts like a three-card monte, in discussion, a bit like Kellyanne Conway does, when asked a question.
The director is extremely well connected, and i have discovered that the representatives of personnel at the school are representatives in title only. They are afraid to even ask a question to the direction about very irregular things. There are only one or two highly inactive union members in the whole school. The union officials are outside and manage several schools at once, and are always overloaded. Since the director is so well-connected, (went to same very small elitist school where politicians are trained here, as those directly above him) there is no management from above, as there should be, and since the atmosphere is such that most representatives don't even dare to ask a question that might be outside of the direction's wishes, it seems impossible to bring a legal framework back to the context. He also generously promotes, finances the projects and travel of many of the reps and anyone who could have any impact in any way on the situation for me and for his career. he is 100% a politician, with directorial experience, but no experience in a school before coming. he was appointed to the position through professional friendship with government officials, as he is no specialist in any way in the field of the school he is directing. He is not enamored of the job, but it is easy for him. He gives the grunt work to his vice-director, and he is a figurehead and does a lot of trips, and so on.
Some union officials fought with power but not so very well organized in my favor. But regardless, if the direction and his hierarchy are in agreement to not respect the law, it doesn't matter what the union says. Since there is, in practice, no union in the school, it is difficult to act. If i explain to colleges, they tend to doubt, because the director is suave and pleasant. I also couldn't believe he was taking the position he was so firmly and was so closed to discussion. That is not at all the impression he gives in public, when he has a soft voice and has a posture of listening, and unceasingly offers favors to those who can help him.
It seems to mirror the horrible presidential situation. And there are a few other issues to deal with too. This is demoralizing and when there is so much accumulation, it becomes unmanageable, at some point. It's like i'm past a tipping point and i don't think i'll ever be able to manage everything normally.
Hi, ladies, I had a busy weekend. I am sorry to hear of the work-related woes, zeee. KS, I can relate and I try not to tweet about the T administration but so much of it affects my job, what I teach, etc. I did go to the local women's march on Saturday morning, and we had 10,000 people when only 5,000 were expected. The weather was good and all things went well. Oh well, at least that made me feel a little better. I'd seriously consider a job out of the country, but I don't think I'd go to the UK due to Brexit and France does not seem like a fit. Maybe the Scandinavian countries? Australia? Canada?
I actually read in a bill introduced (I think in Iowa) that would do a similar thing in that state. That if someone served 8 years as part of the general assembly, the requirement of a terminal degree could be waived. Of course, they are also trying to dismantle tenure. Let's see which of us is next here.
GS, Thanks for your sympathy. I'm pretty resilient but it's been particularly tough. Good for you for going to the march. I didnt go because i thought i couldn't and then when i was freed up i forgot until i was unsure it was still going on (finally it was-sometimes usa protests here are busts-but not this time). Everyone i've heard from who has been to them was uplifted. France has a threat of strong move to the right with 25% admitting they will vote for the extreme right party, the highest percentage of the many parties at present. Maybe Netherlands, Germany Scandinavia or Canada, would be a better fit? Canada is darn cold, but the PM seems like a good one.
I am not in best of shape. I am understandably demoralized and this doesn't help my overall tendency of late to procrastination. When a little thing occurs i can easily feel upset. I did go to an ok dance class saturday and spoke for ages afterwards with a group of 3 other women who know one and other a bit and spontaneously went out for a soup and guac and mint tea afterwards. i went to 2 pilates classes on the weekend as my year long 10 ticket thing was running out. And went for a mini run (15 min) this morning. It's the 1st time in a while that the 15 min went by fast and i was feeling i could run more.
I have only 2 classes at present, both on Wednesdays Not difficult to teach, requiring some prep, but not masses. I have some time to do long and medium term projects and i am just feeling paralyzed, with discouragement, often enough. I have some ideas and projects (no pay but increase of recognition) which i could easily activate but i am tired of trying.
Weight is ok. i'm glad to be able to get more exercise with the longer days, and less busy schedule.
I hope you guys are all ok. I am sorry to be down in the dumps. This weekend was less so than the previous weekend.
Hi, GS and Zee. There were about 10000 at the local CT march too. Fortunately, I had a friend to meet there, or the introvert in me would have turned around and come straight home. Having trouble getting motivated to attend anything else--it's dark for the evening stuff, it's cold, and avoiding the news because it's so demoralizing. Paralyzed is a good way to put it. And avoiding the scale for the same reason. Needed my interview pants about two weeks ago, and they are approaching indecent. Now I'm mad at myself for getting rid of so many of my nice fat clothes. Should have kept at least dress pants.