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Post by bbbearsmom on Dec 19, 2016 0:25:33 GMT
Monday, 12/19
Thinking mistake #2: Negative Fortune Telling
You predict the future negatively, without considering other possible outcomes.
Since I didn't lose weight this week, I'll never be able to lose weight.
Since I gave into that craving, I'll never be able to tolerate cravings.
How do you deal with negative fortunetelling?
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Post by Gail in SC on Dec 19, 2016 3:06:21 GMT
This is something I often struggle with. I am a lifetimer who had been at goal 4 times before in my life. Each time I thought I had it "down pat" and stopped going to meetings. Then I slowly proceeded to put back everything I had gained and then some.
I got back to goal in May of 2012 and had maintained until two weeks ago. I was facing some difficult times and for the first time since 2012 found myself more than 2 pounds above goal. I started thinking I always do this, I can never keep those extra pounds off.
But then I started talking positively with myself. "You CAN do this. You have done this. You WILL get back to goal. Think about how you have been successful and do it again."
Last week I got back to goal. This week I got below goal.
Talking to myself and remembering what I have accomplished and can do again does it for me.
Gail in MA
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Post by jamescat1 on Dec 19, 2016 3:54:05 GMT
Gail, congratulations on getting back to goal. Like you I have been saying I can never get the extra pounds off but this past week I lost 2.6 pounds of trip gain. It wasn't all sodium  and even though I haven't tracked every day, having been a WW for so many years, I know I stayed within my points because I relied on what I know are healthy meals, used my measuring cups, spoons and scale and was basically too busy to get into the bad stuff. So, yes, we can lose weight and can get back to goal and stress, age, physical issues etc. may be impairments at times, but we can all rise above them. |
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Post by msu91 on Dec 19, 2016 10:51:53 GMT
So much of what I predict to myself about myself becomes self fulfilling. I've learned that the words I use with regard to my weight influence the way I work through the highs and lows of maintaining. Knowing this helps to identify those natural thoughts of wondering if a gain will ever be reversed and talking back to them is like positive coaching. I am convinced that to replace the goal of losing weight, I have to be aware of this type of thinking to remain motivated and focused.
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Post by lani on Dec 19, 2016 14:29:48 GMT
This has tripped me up in the past. After three or four Beck reviews, I invariably gained back more weight than I wanted, so that narrative became stuck in my head. This time I am striving mightily to not negative fortune tell about my maintenance. We shall see.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 19, 2016 16:27:36 GMT
In the past after each diet I would invariably gain back the weight I had lost and more.I have been doing WW Online for 4 years now and although I know there is portion creep which can lead to weight gain and I'm not so naive that I think I won't gain a couple of lbs from time to time esp when my IBS is acting up I am determined to think positively that I will maintain this time and not gain it all back.I have many past years of negative thinking and I have had some success in getting rid of those thoughts.I know I need support in keeping these thoughts away and my DH is really supportive and he's the one who told me what comes out of my mouth will sometimes affect the outcome(not so much with dieting)but in life in general and I have brought that into my dieting talking and thinking.I cannot gain this weight back and I won't.
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Post by bbbearsmom on Dec 19, 2016 16:33:21 GMT
This is something I often struggle with. I am a lifetimer who had been at goal 4 times before in my life. Each time I thought I had it "down pat" and stopped going to meetings. Then I slowly proceeded to put back everything I had gained and then some. Gail in MA This is my third time at goal and when I was analyzing what went wrong before I realized I had stopped going to the meetings when the going got rough. This time I vowed to keep going to meetings and even gone a little out of my way to build a good relationship with the leader and the members because I think this aspect is so important. |
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Post by bbbearsmom on Dec 19, 2016 16:36:23 GMT
When I start to think negatively I remind myself of what does work. Things like preplanning, weighing and measuring, practicing eating slowly and mindfully, and remind myself what I have done. It is hard sometimes to see the positives. I also look to the future and what I can do now.
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Post by doordie50 on Dec 19, 2016 16:49:46 GMT
The biggest struggle for me will always be between my ears because during times of immense stress, I've both gained and maintained. It therefore has to be what I'm telling myself. I'm still learning the real key is to be consistent in my message.
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Post by decolady on Dec 19, 2016 17:21:13 GMT
I do not have an issue with this one. I know the program works if I follow it.
Back to tracking now. First step to back in control. 😀😀
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Post by linda72 on Dec 19, 2016 19:08:56 GMT
I think we have all learned that actually doing the program works. Planning, measuring, weighing, tracking, drinking water, and exercising is what works. Most of us do gain when we don't do these things consistently. In the past, negative talk would follow me, "well, you've done it now. You're going to gain all the weight back." But, I've learned here, and from Beck and from my meetings that positive talk works too. I've gotten much better with this and it's allowed me to not panic when I gain. Instead, I look at my tracking and can usually find something off.
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Post by bbbearsmom on Dec 19, 2016 20:10:23 GMT
As they say you just need to get back on the wagon/horse and keep on going.
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and even though I haven't tracked every day, having been a WW for so many years, I know I stayed within my points because I relied on what I know are healthy meals, used my measuring cups, spoons and scale and was basically too busy to get into the bad stuff. So, yes, we can lose weight and can get back to goal and stress, age, physical issues etc. may be impairments at times, but we can all rise above them.
