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Post by bbbearsmom on Aug 18, 2019 22:58:21 GMT
Monday, 08/19
Thinking mistake #2: Negative Fortune Telling
You predict the future negatively, without considering other possible outcomes.
Since I didn't lose weight this week, I'll never be able to lose weight.
Since I gave into that craving, I'll never be able to tolerate cravings.
How do you deal with negative fortunetelling?
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Post by bbbearsmom on Aug 18, 2019 22:58:52 GMT
I'm a worrier and have anxiety so my mind can do a lot of negative fortune telling about everything. One way I work against it is to stay in the present moment, remind myself that if something goes wrong I can deal with it somehow, preplan and work out in my head what I can do if there is a problem. I think the problem is not so much the negative fortune telling but the subsequent feeling of being helpless to fix/correct the situation. I also start thinking of the positives I do do and what I could do to correct the situation.
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Post by cathygeha on Aug 19, 2019 6:03:52 GMT
Instead of thinking about what went wrong last time Start visualizing from that moment what will happen next time I am in the same situation
Mine usually revolve around social situations and the pattern/habit already in place when in social settings. Thankfully those don't happen often.
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Post by lani on Aug 19, 2019 15:10:20 GMT
bbbearsmom, you and me both. I have come to realize that it is a pattern in my mind that I will never be entirely rid of. I can catch the anxious thought (eventually) and know that it is just the way my mind wants to go, and the bad thing is most likely never going to happen. And if it does, I am capable of handling whatever comes my way.
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Post by surfgirl on Aug 19, 2019 18:05:08 GMT
I dont have this issue so much with eating or weight loss because I now know that if I go off plan, I can get right back OP the very next meal. However, I DO have this issue in my work/career life all the time. Just last night I had a little pity party melt down because in both work lives (my day job life and my side job), I don't have complete control over my work - I depend on other people to do their parts so that I can do mine, and I get frustrated when others don't meet deadlines or meet what I thought were shared expectations. I wish I did something that I could control myself because I can depend on myself to get the job done! So last night was full of 'if this person doesn't do that and so on and so forth, this little business venture will go down the tubes!', and honestly, I have no indication that will actually happen, it's in my head. I think when we let these thoughts take too much power over our minds, we can often end up making the worst come to fruition, so I have to remember what I have, what I CAN control and take care of myself, and focus on moving forward and not getting stuck in the muck and mire of 'what ifs', which is what negative fortune telling is to me.
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