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Post by keshet51 on Aug 19, 2019 11:50:22 GMT
This thread is for anyone that has been away from healthy eating, had a gain and is recommitting. We accept all forms of healthy eating here, whatever that means to you. We touch base daily for accountability and to encourage one another. This is a judgment free zone.
We all struggle to get the weight off and keep it off. Sometimes this is a challenge, but we never give up and that is the key. Regardless of our situation or where we are in reaching our goal, we count on talking to each other every day and are blessed to have one another as friends.
Our motto is persistence, not perfection.
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Post by keshet51 on Aug 19, 2019 12:05:52 GMT
Good morning ROs. I've been up, mostly, since 3 AM here which is of course 5 back home, more normal waking time for me. I've also had a low grade headache the whole time I've been here, combination of fatigue and altitude. I will concentrate on drinking more water today because that always helps. Last day here, leaving super early tomorrow morning and hopefully one of those boring and uneventful travel days. Keep your fingers crossed for me, please.
Hot here, but dry, mid 90's today, but low 60's right now so I have my window open and it's pleasant. I'll have some time with DD today which I'm looking forward to, after we drop ODGD at day care and take YDGD to the pediatrician and then to day care. I hope I can get a nap at some point once we're back home. May do a little shopping for a few things and I also have to call the airline and see if I can get reimbursed for the stuff from my flights out here.
Getting a little anxious about work. Big merger meeting Wednesday evening plus the usual things going on and a lot of it is not in my control. I've been getting regular updates on my PR person who had the brain bleed. There's been some improvement but in some ways it just points out how far he still has to go. He's still in the ICU but is able to laugh and string a few words together but is still critical, so the watching and waiting continues. I'm trying to get my head around needing to hire a consultant to fill in on some of his responsibilities.
RobinMD, I'm so sorry your DD felt the need to blame you for the problems in her life. Unfortunately this seems to be pretty common until young people can see their parents as human who did the best they could and made some mistakes along the way but who loved them immeasurably. Some only learn this when they have their own kids. I know how much this hurts - unspeakably painful, really. I've been there. Glad you had your nephew over and had some distraction. This is really not about you - it's about DD and her unhappiness with aspects of her life and looking for some place to lay the blame and you're a safe target. Ouch, though.
Have a great day all. I probably won't get here tomorrow, at least not in the morning since I'll be in transit, will try to check in in the evening.
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Post by LR63402 on Aug 19, 2019 12:45:10 GMT
Well shoot. I thought I'd posted yesterday, but I suppose I just checked in at some point and read, but never posted a reply.
We ended up just hanging around the house yesterday and doing some things around here. I don't have anything special planned for today, just a few more household chores that need to be handled and maybe I'll finally get around to using that hair color I bought over a week ago. Haha.
RobinMD - Oh girl! Sorry about the situation with DD. How old is she? Mine is about to turn 32 in Oct. and I promise you the last 4 years has been a magical transformation in our relationship as far as her attitude and temperament with me. I'm not sure whether to chalk it up to just normal maturation or maybe the positive influence of DSIL. He is honestly the absolutely most even tempered, level headed and most emotionally stable person I think I've ever met. Lol. I can't help but think he's been a very positive influence on my foot stomping, door slamming, quick tempered and sharp tongued kid. I mean absolutely everything that went wrong in her life was my fault in the past. Even when it was something I had absolutely nothing to do with, I was still the target of her anger. I think this is not an uncommon event for this generation, although it is certainly unfortunate and miserable for us. Like Andi said, you're just a safe way for her to unload, deep down she knows you'll love her no matter what she says or does. Hang in there sister!
Andi - how was the birthday celebration? I hope it was fun for all. I'm also keeping my fingers crossed for a calm and uneventful travel day home. And an easy transition back into the work week grind.
Waving to everyone I'm missing! I'll do my best to check back in later. Have a great Monday everyone!
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Post by janjasmine on Aug 19, 2019 13:19:52 GMT
Hi Everyone,
I didnt get here yesterday either. I went with my group to the swimming pool and then out for chinese. Didnt get home until about 9 and was tired probably I am guessing from the heat so went to bed not too much after putting things away.
The floors were waxed on Friday and they plan to do it at least once or twice more which means I cant put the things back on the floor yet. Not doing much at the moment. I dont know if we will have a staff meeting today or not. My former teaching partner returned to work today since sometime in March or April when she rehurt a previous injury.
Robin, sorry that your daughter was so hurtful yesterday with her words towards you.
On Saturday my sisters and I are going car shopping. So hopefully we will find something. I will be glad to not be having to take the bus all the time. That's about it for now.
Andi, hope that your travel home will be much smoother than going there.
Have a good day!
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Post by robinmd on Aug 19, 2019 14:26:39 GMT
Good morning everyone,
Well, last night around 9:00, my boss texted me to say that I didn't have to come in, because of us being down 2 docs. She knew that I have a lot of stuff that I need to get done, so she offered. Well, heck yes! So I'm home today. I have a guy coming tomorrow to haul away a bunch of junk that I have been piling up in the old barn - broken umbrellas, a broken car-top carrier, torn tarps, broken ceiling fans, etc - so I can use today to gather up more stuff for him to take. I also need to pick up my vacuum that got repaired. And of course, there is always yard work! Tomorrow is my regular day off, so this is working out well!
Lora, YDD just turned 30 in June....she sounds just like your DD, and I recall things very differently than she does. I have felt like she was a hateful, ungrateful, mouthy, bitchy girl who had no problem asking for whatever she wanted since she was in high school, despite (as she told me yesterday) that I "have been complaining about my financial concerns since she was little". Really? I remember as a child, she was SO funny and spunky, and fearless...I remember lots of music, dancing, cooking, shopping (buying anything they wanted), etc.... I always wondered what happened to make her so angry. When her dad and I divorced, there was no question it had to happen...he had become emotionally and verbally abusive (at one point, he literally lifted and threw a twin bed at her, then pelted her with her Beanie Baby collection while she cowered in a corner). The mood in this house was lifted and we were happy again after he left. And I got along well with him after he moved out, until his 2nd wife started problems, and he turned on us to appease her. Her blaming me for everything was a surprise. I own that I have had my moments and things got difficult for me around 2013 when I lost my job, and went 3 months basically unemployed, working just occasional shifts at my PRN medic job. Thank you for reminding me that it probably isn't really about me...
Andi, thanks for your kind words as well.... it is amazing how painful it can be to hear those things. I started writing things down the way I remember them, and I am toying with the idea of asking her to read them, to try and have some perspective. I may just keep it to myself, but I don't want her going through life, being angry about memories that are not quite accurate, and maybe she should own her part in blaming me for things that just didn't happen as she recalls. I don't know. What do you think? I hope your trip home is easy and uneventful! I'm glad to hear that your friend is improving. Just remember that the brain is a slow healer, but it miraculously finds ways to make up for damage and injury, and things can continue to get better for a long time. I have seen recently, just how long it really takes to recover from even "simple" concussions....symptoms can linger for weeks to months.
Janet, sounds like a fun day at the pool and dinner! I'm glad you had a nice weekend and were able to enjoy yourself. Good luck this week with continuing to get things together and ready for all the work ahead....
Guess I'll start getting some stuff done. I want to be as productive as possible with this surprise day off, but I also see some pool time in my future! HA! I am waving to all to follow, and I'll bbl. Have a great day, everyone,
RobinMD
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Post by success4susie on Aug 19, 2019 16:27:53 GMT
Hello All....back on more of my normal schedule today...got to my gym class, then hopped up to my clubhouse gym to do more weight work, then home and iced my knee...later today I will do the PT knee exercises I learned last year...so far, so good... sure hope this works. I have a headache right now, not too bad so far though...waiting for DD to call and let me know where she and the girls are going for lunch - DH REALLY wants to meet them for lunch - he hasn't seen them since they got back from their 2 week trip out west.
Andi - yep, I agree with robinmd - don't worry too much about the food - enjoy the birthday AND the dry heat...it is really humid here...still not too bad in the early morning or late evening though. Hope all goes well with your big merger meeting tomorrow...glad for the continued improvement of your friend... positive reports are always good.
Janet - I remember what is was like waiting for them to wax the floors at school before we could move things back in...ugh. YIPPEE about shopping for the car soon!
Robinmd - oh my golly...so sorry about DD ranting at you....glad your DN came over and brightened up the day a little. So far my kids have been pretty good with me...knock on wood. Yeah for getting today off and all of that "stuff" hauled away! Just that alone will improve your mood. I agree that DD is probably just unhappy with a lot of things in her life and she just needs to blame someone...too bad she chose you...hang in there and feel free to vent here whenever you need to, there is always someone who can definitely identify with whatever is going on...
Waving to everyone else...heading out to lunch with DD and DGDs now.
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Post by vtfishstick on Aug 19, 2019 21:29:44 GMT
Hey everyone -
Swinging by to say hi. This week is the insane one - students start arriving in mass to move in on Wednesday. I'm not ready! I don't think anyone is ready! We'll do the best we can.
happy monday!
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Post by keshet51 on Aug 19, 2019 21:37:54 GMT
Hi again. Waiting for DD and we're going to pick the kids up from day care. Didn't get a lot done today but did have some quality time with her which is what I wanted. Her DH isn't coming home from his camping trip tonight after all so I'm on my own from 4 until 8. Wish me luck. I made a Skinnytaste enormous turkey meatball for dinner which I think the kids will like, plus some spaghetti. I'll also make a zucchini from the garden which I doubt they'll eat. Hey, did any of you see all the controversy about the new WW app for kids? Apparently 78,000 people have signed an online petition for WW to remove it and any number of dietitians and eating disorder experts have weighed in (sorry for the pun) on how damaging this will be to kids and will foster eating disorders and body issues. I can relate; if my parents hadn't hassled me about my weight when I was in late middle school, I swear I wouldn't have eating issues today, but once you set that ball in motion, there's no way to stop it.
Anyway, sounds like everyone here is doing well today, which is good. And oh Robin, you saved DD's life, perhaps physically and certainly emotionally, when you and your ex split up! Maybe she'll see it some day. I have found with my DD that no amount of telling her that her perspective on her childhood might be warped or inaccurate, has done any good. As Lora said, she just finally outgrew it all one day, has never apologized for all the awful things that were said and for her behavior, but I can see in the way she parents and in the way she relates to me that she respects and loves me, even when I still irritate her. And that just has to be good enough. The change happened in her early 30's, so hopefully for you too.
DD is driving me to a hotel tonight near the airport so I don't have the stress of the early morning trip from where she lives, especially because I will need to be at the airport early - the Denver airport has been undergoing a major renovation and nothing is working very well right now. AT least I have TSA pre-check so I get through security quickly. It's just checking in with my bag that is endless. Oh, and I got my refund already for the second baggage charge, but I have to get the taxi reimbursement online, have to upload my receipt into some portal. I'll do it at work so my assistant can help me.
Have a good evening...
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