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Post by Jarmstrong on Oct 8, 2019 12:08:13 GMT
Good morning.
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Post by Jarmstrong on Oct 8, 2019 12:17:40 GMT
Good morning everyone. Another restless night here. I swear she has gotten her days and nights mixed up. She is resting peacefully now, but I really have no idea how long it will last.
Susie, I live in Matoaca. I am in Chesterfield County but I am closer to Petersburg than Chester. My DPs live in Prince George. Today we are supposed to move home with hospice care. Someone will need to stay with my mother 24/7. I am going to need to try and figure that out. My DF is incapable of caring for himself so he will not be any help in caring for my DM.
DF is a complete wreck. He is drinking more than ever. Not eating and not sleeping. He is denial about my DM condition. When he is at the hospital and my DM makes the slightest movement or sound he freaks out. When he isn't at the hospital I receive multiple drunk phone calls about how miserable he is. Bottom line he is miserable regardless. My kids spend as much time as they can with him - but he is a difficult person to be around. You can only tolerate so much negative attitude. I realize he is depressed and is losing his whole world but we can't help him if he can't help himself.
Today marks 2 weeks since this started - I am tired. I am starting to get concerned about my job. I am working at the hospital as much as I can but there are things I just can't do from here.
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Post by LR63402 on Oct 8, 2019 14:00:20 GMT
Oh Jana I'm so sorry that this is happening. So sad to watch your mom decline and then to have your dad coming more undone as well. I'm sure the job concerns are not helping. Did they not get the FMLA through? At my company, anyone on any type of leave what-so-ever was not allowed to perform any job functions at all. In fact we would completely block all systems and log-in access until people returned from leave.
Anyway, I just wanted to say that you're on my mind and heart.
DHs parents are coming up this afternoon (he is WFH today) and we're going to dinner with them at a nearby seafood place that they love. I'm not a big fish fan (which is the specialty at this place), but they do have a decent ribeye, so I suppose I'll get that & maybe a small side of crawfish tails. Anyway, that will be something fun and different to do mid-week.
I'll try to check back in later. Right now I'm trying to straighten up a little and I might need to Swiffer or vacuum (ick to both...Lol).
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Post by robinmd on Oct 8, 2019 15:32:15 GMT
Hi everyone, Jana, it is so good to hear from you. I am sorry that your DF is so very lost, and coming undone...it is understandable but difficult to see happen, I am sure. I am really glad that you have so many friends and family who have been so helpful and supportive. Getting you DM home with hospice care will be a blessing in many ways. They can send people to bath her, help you with her, they can send a pastor/preacher, etc. They provide a LOT of comfort support for you, as well. Take advantage of all they have to offer. They are amazing, no matter how long your DM needs the hospice care, they will be there for you... Like Lora said, you are all in my heart and thoughts.. Susie, what a great trip. So sorry about the migraines though! What in the heck? Lora, have a great dinner. I don't like all fish, but I love Rockfish and Salmon. The steak sounds great though! We are getting rain here today, and have been since yesterday evening. Then we will have milder temps. I am enjoying the baseball now, too. Love this time of year with playoffs, when you see some of the best ballplaying of the year. I'm rooting for the Nats! I am enjoying a day at home today. Just making appointments, catching up on paperwork, and working on my resume. I took Forrest to get his staples out, and he hung his head out the window and howled/barked all the way there! His ears and lips were flapping in the wind...I wish I could get a picture of it! HA! And of course, he has to wear his little diaper, because he piddles himself the whole time he is at the vet  I will be back later, most likely. I'm going to go grab some lunch, and I MIGHT make a trip to the grocery store later. Not really inclined to want to go anywhere, though, so I'll see. Hope everyone is having a good day. RobinMD |
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Post by keshet51 on Oct 8, 2019 15:38:36 GMT
Good morning all. Jana, so so sorry about what you're going through. And trying to balance work with it all must be unbelievably stressful. Lora, with FMLA people can do intermittent leave. I think that's a federal regulation, and time has to be managed by the supervisor or outside company that handles these things. Hopefully Jana can make some arrangement where she works when she can and the rest is charged to her leave. It's going to be challenging no matter what.
Lora, sounds like a fun dinner. Is the nearby seafood place the one we ate at our first night with you? I swear I work so I don't have to clean my house, so you have my sympathies there.
Am still a little stiff today from the hike. Wow, I didn't do anything more on this one than I did last summer in the Adirondacks but am definitely feeling it more. Did Advil again last night and at least I'm not in pain today. Yep, Susie, we do what we can to slow down the inevitable aging process. It just is so frustrating at times when I see myself losing ground. I better get used to it...
Our employee relations investigation thing is over. Only found poor judgment and boundaries, not a violation of our sexual harassment policy. He's getting a final warning so if anything like this happens in the future, he's out of here. Hope he can turn things around - smart, capable guy with great potential if he doesn't screw it up.
We've got rain going on here for the foreseeable future, or gray skies with no rain. We did need the soaking we got yesterday but I have to say it was super dark when I got up at 6 this morning. I have the day off tomorrow for Yom Kippur although I'm not fasting or going to synagogue. I'll just hang out close to home.
Have a great day, all.
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Post by robinmd on Oct 8, 2019 21:36:59 GMT
Hi again,
Andi, we are having a sexual harassment "thing" at work right now. It really came to a head yesterday, and I don't know what is going to happen. I hate seeing people lose their jobs, and I'm not sure if this guy will be fired, but my office manager has blown this whole thing. She basically called the harassed people liars, and didn't do anything. Yesterday, she got a call from HR, and left for home immediately afterward. I'm glad your soreness is a little better! I feel like I get MORE sore when I do less, and sit too much. So I just keep doing what I have to do, but I need to do more stretching morning and evening (now that the cat is gone, I have my floor space back!), and do more lower body workout.
Well, I did not go to the grocery store, and will not be any worse off for it. I vacuumed and did some laundry. I was going to fill in some gaps in my fireplace with this special compound that I bought, but couldn't find my caulk gun. I loaned it to YDD, and she used it for her camper and never gave it back. I'm just going to let her keep it, and get me a new one. She will need it for her windows and hatches, and a new one is cheap. When I bought my paint for the pool shed and my inside trim, there was a rebate going on, so I sent that in. I got it today, and they sent me a gift card for $45! That will be really helpful when I go back for more paint/supplies. I also tweaked my resume today, and have it ready to send for more job applications. I am not thrilled about some changes coming in the future with this office, and I am beyond frustrated by 6 years of increasing workload with 45 cents in "raises" over that time. The cost of living keeps going up, so I need to find a job that pays me more, and doesn't kill me. The last week of October is my paramedic recert, and it is going to be my last. I have to do it every 2 years, and I will be 66 when the next one comes around. That will be 22 years of being an active career Paramedic (most of that time, it was my full time job), and I can leave feeling pretty good about it. It has been a career I never dreamed of having, and it turns out, I didn't suck at it!
Well, I am going to feed the dogs, feed myself, and get things ready for work tomorrow. I will probably head to bed early. I actually slept all night last night, and was shocked when I woke up the first time at 5:45. I usually get up at 6, so it was great. Of course, since I was off, I rolled over and napped until 8-ish! HA! I will be back tomorrow. I hope everyone has a good evening. I am waving to all,
RobinMD
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Post by keshet51 on Oct 8, 2019 23:20:54 GMT
RobinMD so sorry about the mishandling of sexual harassment in your office. It's inexcusable that someone should say the harassed people are liars! The laws are really clear on how to handle this kind of thing, both federal and in NY State, state laws. Morale must be dreadful in your office. I hope you get some great offers - I'm assuming the last position you applied for didn't come through? They would be so lucky to have you, as we are here in the ROs.
Sounds like you had a good day. Just the sleeping late sounds heavenly. I also enjoyed your description of your dog with his head out the window. So cute. Oh and you're right about the soreness. I sat way too much today and when I finally got up to do something it was super painful. I have my trainer tomorrow morning and hopefully will feel better by then.
Have a good evening all.
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Post by success4susie on Oct 9, 2019 1:04:23 GMT
Hi Ladies...so busy today, started at the gym this morning, then off to get DGS on the bus, back home and off to the clubhouse for my sewing group ( I was crocheting), then back to the gym to see DGD's swim lesson, then to the grocery store, then off for lunch with DD and DGD, then to Walmart, and finally home. I made a quick stop at my DNeighbor's house and then had to get ready for Bridge this evening ....WHEW! Just got home and I am heading to bed as soon as I finish this post.
Jana - so glad to see you post...we are all so concerned about you. I hope DM will be able to rest comfortably and that DF is cooperative with the hospice people. All you can do is take one day at a time (and take all the help that is offered).
Lora - nice break going out to dinner with you in-laws... I think you get along very well with them...right? The seafood as well as the rib-eye sounds yummy to me.
RobinMD - enjoy the baseball...DH and I met at Timonium Fair Grounds at a bank function during the playoffs 36 years ago when the Orioles were playing. Wow, that was a long time ago. I would love to have seen Forrest on the car ride - ha ha ha. I hope you get some good prospects from all the job applications. I am so glad you are back here posting with us...you always have good medical advice.
Andi - at least the investigation turmoil is over...hope you don't have to deal with anything else like this. Enjoy your day off for Yom Kippur. Close to home sounds like a good place to be with rainy and chilly weather. I got home from Boston just to find cool and rainy weather here.
Waving good night to everyone.....
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I will be back later, most likely. I'm going to go grab some lunch, and I MIGHT make a trip to the grocery store later. Not really inclined to want to go anywhere, though, so I'll see. Hope everyone is having a good day.
