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Post by success4susie on Dec 7, 2019 11:40:38 GMT
Good morning!
This thread is for anyone that has been away from healthy eating, had a gain and is recommitting. We accept all forms of healthy eating here, whatever that means to you. We touch base daily for accountability and to encourage one another. This is a judgment free zone.
We all struggle to get the weight off and keep it off. Sometimes this is a challenge, but we never give up and that is the key. Regardless of our situation or where we are in reaching our goal, we count on talking to each other every day and are blessed to have one another as friends.
Feel free to jump in and join us. All are welcome here.
Our motto is persistence, not perfection.
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Post by success4susie on Dec 7, 2019 11:57:31 GMT
December 7, 1941...As a former history teacher, I always remember this as the "date that will live in infamy."
I thought I got here yesterday, but looks like I did not. The party was delightful...but after staying to help clean up, I was beat. It is a great community where so many "pitch in" to help. The decorations were lovely, and the food was delicious. This party was only for community members, but at the New Year's Eve party, a limited number of guests will be allowed (I have already asked our former DNeighbors to come with us).
Jana - I think women in particular feel the need to make everybody else's life better. Remember that you can only do so much. My sister and I talk often about how guilty we feel about everything. I loved the answer you gave DS -- It made me smile too! I agree with what Lora said about your DF. Girl, you are just one person - take it easy on yourself ( I know,,,easier said than done). We are always here for you!
Lora - This must be a totally different world for you...gone is the rush, rush (and especially all those responsibilities at work - seems like you did your job and part of others jobs also). I am so happy that you can take it a little easier (although, knowing you...you don't take it too easy - ha).
So, for today... I am going to a craft fair, making a stop at the library, maybe helping to clean up a little more at the clubhouse, and watching DGS for awhile so DS and DDIL can go Christmas shopping for him. This evening we will go to church and anytime in between, I hope to read, chill, relax and maybe put lights on the tree out front. Hope you all have a wonderful day...
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Post by janjasmine on Dec 7, 2019 12:35:56 GMT
Hi Everyone,
I have been reading the posts but fall asleep on the sofa before responding to them.
Jana,ditto on what everyone already said. I am glad that you will be able to meet in person with someone for grief counseling.
I am glad that this week is over. Our aide in our classroom may not be returning. She has been a big help so we will miss her help. It has nothing to do with us.
Today I have plans with some club members to go downtown to visit two exhibits and then a late lunch/ early dinner at a near by restaurant. On my way home I may stop to do a quick errand or two. I'd like to get to the library too to pick up this book but it doesnt open now until 11 and that is cutting it too close because I need time to get to the event. I doubt I will get back before it closes tho so will have to wait until during the week.
Tommorow my usual shopping. I dont know if I mentioned it or not but my friend's husband came home last week right before Thanksgiving. He now has a lot of assistance with taking care of himself. I am glad because she cant do it. I am not sure how long tho he will have it. Usually it is limited.
Susie, glad that you had a nice time at your party. We are supposed to be having a bowling all staff party. I really dont see much of our own center staff actually willing to participate but we shall see.
This week I have an appointment with the new primary doctor that I had researched a while back. I will see how that goes.
Have a great day!
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Post by keshet51 on Dec 7, 2019 12:59:37 GMT
Good morning all. Like Susie I thought I posted yesterday but I didn't. We had our winter all staff meeting and I always get anxious before these since public speaking is so not my thing plus the speaker we had coming was someone I recommended and I wasn't sure how it was going to go. It did go fine but I was pretty exhausted at the end of it and then drove down to the city to have dinner with DS and the DGKs. Had fun but I was so tired when I got home I was almost in tears. Fell into bed. I have to start saying no to things I love to do because until I can retire, my job takes it all out of me and there's not a lot left over. I need time at home to rest and recharge and I'm not getting enough of it. It also saddens me that I can see I'm slowing down, can't do as much as I used to be able to, and the aging thing takes its toll. Mostly I can adjust to it but not this week.
Today am driving up to New Haven CT (an hour and a half from me) to see a DF from high school. I really want to see her but... (see above). She wants to have lunch and go to a poetry reading. Hope I don't fall asleep. Tomorrow I'll be around more doing catch-up, supermarket, training, and a Messiah sing-along at a local church in the afternoon. Am taking DN with me so we'll likely go out to dinner. All these meal events are also super challenging, one after another, when I'm trying to eat really clean before the Cayman trip in 2 weeks. Just doing my best but it's an uphill slog. Maybe for the office pot luck on Thursday I can do a vegetable option...
Janet, glad your friend's husband got back home and has help for now.
Jana, I think Lora has said it best. Please, please ease up on yourself. OMG, your expectations are so high and unrealistic. You're doing an amazing job while grieving yourself! Glad you have the counseling session set up - the person who needs compassion right now is you.
Susie, sounds like such a fun get-together with the neighbors. Your community is just awesome, makes me so jealous. And how nice you can include a former neighbor in the New Year's Eve celebration.
OK, better get myself together to get on the road by 9. Have a great Saturday everyone.
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Post by robinmd on Dec 7, 2019 13:45:35 GMT
Happy Saturday, everyone,
I am happily home this weekend. It is my only one off, until January, and while I am grateful for the hours at the PT job, I am also VERY grateful for 2 days off in a row! It has been a hectic week, and my eating has been a challenge. I've gained back a few pounds, and although I have been eating fairly healthy, I have had more than I usually eat, and a few too many goodies included. I am taking time this weekend to re-focus my plan.
Jana, I'm sorry for what you are going through, and the struggle. I am really glad you will have some face to face help. I still struggle quite often, and I think having some helpful tools would have been good for me. As someone else said, you really do need to take care of yourself as you go through your personal path/process, and allow others around you to go through their own process. The very fact that you moved your dad in with you, is a huge thing, because he knows he is not alone, even if he feels like it inside... Hugs to you.
Lora, sounds like you had quite a good Aldi trip, even if it cost a little more! HA! Getting those deals isn't always expected, but you know you'll use it all.
Andi, I hope you last through the poetry reading! You say you are so tired, and it bothers you about getting older, but you are way more on the go, than most people I know! I am a lazy slug, compared to you (and Susie!). It get a little down about the painful stuff that is catching up with me. But I think generally, we are aging well, and will be able to enjoy retirement!
Janet, I'm like you, I try to post in the evenings, and a couple of times I have lost my post and gave up, or I fell asleep before getting it done! Hope you enjoy your outing today.
Well, guess I'll get moving. I am taking my little pittie in for her shots and a nail trim this morning. She is the only dog I have ever owned in my life, that will NOT let me trim her nails. She is getting a dose of CBD before we go, and they muzzle her and man-handle her until they get her trimmed. It is quite a spectacle. After that, back home to do some super-cleaning, vacuuming, change bedding, and straighten up the kitchen. Don't know what else, but I have lots I want to get done. I will bbl though, and I am waving to all,
RobinMD
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Post by LR63402 on Dec 7, 2019 23:16:16 GMT
Hey y'all.
Just a quiet day at home. The weather has been nice and but I've been in the house and trying to not do too much with my shoulder and keep heat on it as needed. Sigh, this is annoying to me.
I just have a moment, so wanted to pop in and say something to Jana.
Jana - I don't think you're unrealistic at all! You're a care giver and a fixer. That's just who you are. And when people have problems you naturally want to help, and I'm sure it's frustrating that you cannot help your father with his feelings and his grief. But this I know for sure, grief is something that takes time, and everyone has to find there own way through the darkness and back into the light. I think the fact that you've moved him into your home, and you're keeping him from being alone in that apartment 24x7 is more help than you realize. You're keeping him engaged with others humans and that's huge.
I'll try to pop back in a bit for more personals. I need to get the dinner dishes washed up.
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Post by keshet51 on Dec 7, 2019 23:18:01 GMT
Good evening, all. I ended up having a fabulous day in spite of all my whining this morning. Thanks so much RobinMD for making me feel better - I know I'm pretty active but recently it just seems to be taking a toll on me. Just not sure what I'll give up. I did last through the poetry reading and, gasp, enjoyed it! My DF wasn't that impressed with the poets, said they were more narrative than poetry, but it worked for me. My headache also cleared after having a half caf at her house on top of the Advil I took twice in the morning, so now I'm feeling pretty feisty. We talked for hours about life, grandchildren, retirement and meaning in retirement - there's nothing like a high school friend who has known you for decades to make you feel understood and challenged. I'm even rethinking, or re-adding the option of moving to Denver to be near DD. DSon will be upset as will my sibs, so it's definitely a weighty decision. But I don't have to make it yet. She also told me about Osher Institutes - Susie, is that where you do your continuing ed programs? They sound wonderful and are in all 50 states. Lora, I even saw there's one in Huntsville.
RobinMD, i had to laugh about the ordeal to get your dog's nails trimmed. Sounds so funny. And you know I can relate to the weight gain - the food this time of year is pretty crazy and it's everywhere. I have two more food fests to get through and then I'll pretty much be done with the orgy. I'm determined not to get derailed. Enjoy your weekend off.
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Post by Jarmstrong on Dec 7, 2019 23:21:39 GMT
Just stopping by but I had to stop and comment:
"OMG Andi - that sure didn't help me feel any better!" I am going to assume that you didn't mean your post the way I am taking it because I don't think you would intentionally be incompassionate to me. Or maybe you are trying to tell me to just snap out of it........ I realize I am doing the best I can at the moment and that is the reason I am currently seeking counseling and not just letting that go.
I hope everyone has a GREAT weekend.
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Post by keshet51 on Dec 8, 2019 0:05:19 GMT
Oh, Jana, of course I didn't mean you should snap out of it or be unkind to you in any way!!! I just wanted you to be kind to yourself and not to have such high expectations for how you should be feeling or what you should be doing. I will certainly be more careful with my words in the future!!! I'm so upset now that I upset you! I am so sorry. I meant the opposite of what you thought I meant.
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Post by janjasmine on Dec 8, 2019 2:10:08 GMT
The exhibits didnt take very long to see even between two different places but they were right next door to each other. It was only me and one other person that came. One guy who said he was coming didnt show up. Then we went to Maggianos for lunch nearby.
I got home in time to get to the library to pick up my book that I requested for the children and looked for another book to read and did a quick run into the dollar store and another nearby store. Should do some laundry but since I usually get up early I will do it in the morning.
Lora, sorry that your shoulder is bothering you. My right knee has been bothering me more than it normally does.I am not allowed to take any nsaids tho so just take tylenol which I dont think helps as much as an nsaid.
Have a good night!
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Post by robinmd on Dec 8, 2019 2:33:39 GMT
Hello again, Andi, I'm glad you enjoyed the poetry! I'm curious what got you to thinking of moving to Colorado?... I am trying to figure out where I want to land when I leave here. I am not feeling as urgent as I was, since getting a raise, and currently being able to get so many weekend shifts on the ambulance...but I can't figure out if I want to stay here. I often think that life puts things in your path, that takes you where you are supposed to go. Anyway, who wouldn't want to live in Colorado? I have even thought about it myself, and I don't even know anyone living there! Well the nail trim was a complete bust. Duchess was wound up and ready to rumble. I didn't have time to give her CBD, and was trying to avoid the sedative. She went into full Honey Badger mode when they just touched her leash. Sooooo, I am going to sedate the crap out of her, and take her in on Tuesday afternoon, when Forrest is going in for his shots. She is not quite as full of energy as the day wears on, so I think being an early morning appointment didn't help. It was ridiculous. Susie, I meant to mention Pearl Harbor day, too. I always remember it.... I sometimes wonder if kids get much history, or appreciation of it, in school these days. They don't seem to know much. I love how much you enjoy history yourself... I just know you were a great teacher of it! Jana, I'm sorry that Andi's words hit you the wrong way... ALL of us would do anything to lift you up from your sadness and struggles, and I know Andi would never be so blunt or careless with her words, the way you perceived them. I didn't read them that way myself... We have suffered loss and sadness, and there just aren't going to be words to take that experience away for you, but we try to give you encouragement and a soft place to fall when you need it. You are getting through this, a little bit every day  I got a couple of things done today. I took the battery out of mom's car, to put it on a trickle charger. I am going to get temporary tags for it, so I can get it running again. I don't know what that's going to cost, but there was nothing wrong with it when I brought it up here. I also drained the rainwater off the top of the pool, and I got a little cleaning done here in the house. Not nearly what I need to do, but at least I got some of it. I also managed to finish a couple more modules of my online Paramedic recert stuff. Only 3 to go, and I plan on finishing those tomorrow. I had a much better grip on my eating today. I am not even a little bit hungry or "munchy" now, so I don't feel like I will have to fight myself to not eat anything else! It is amazing that when I eat a balanced, nutritious meal it really satisfies me enough to prevent the kitchen prowling... I am going to start getting ready for bed, and a GOOD, long night's sleep. Hopefully. I hope everyone is having a good weekend, and a good night. I will be back tomorrow. RobinMD |
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