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Post by bbbearsmom on Dec 16, 2019 0:53:08 GMT
Monday, 12/16
Today we start going through the list of the nine thinking mistakes.
Thinking mistake #1: All or Nothing Thinking
"Either I'm completely on my diet or I'm off of it"
"Either I'm 100 percent successful or I'm a failure and may as well give up dieting."
(Related to you having perfectionist tendencies.)
How do you deal with all-or-nothing thinking?
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Post by bbbearsmom on Dec 16, 2019 0:53:39 GMT
I've heard that all-or-nothing thinking is related to being a perfectionist, and I've been called a perfectionist by some people over the years. Also I'll do things then I'll catch myself saying: well it isn't perfect. Now not so much, now I'm happy to get things done however I can. I think of myself and things I do as works in progress rather than finished things. When I'm not completely on program I don't think of it as a failure and most times do not give up. I'll chastise myself and work on coming up with ways I can modify my behavior to be better next time. This works over time. A good thing about the Beck book is I now feel I have the tools to manage things and get back on track.
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Post by cathygeha on Dec 16, 2019 6:53:20 GMT
All or nothing thinking: I am kind of like this...I am on program or off and that might be for a meal, a day or more than a day. Right now I am not "on program" since my daughter is here but I am trying to make semi-sensible food choices. She leaves the 28th. She has been here a week. January will come  |
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Post by lani on Dec 16, 2019 15:33:37 GMT
I tend to this. In my case, I think it is just an excuse to avoid doing hard things - like don't bother if you can't do it really well. Then I am aware of what I'm doing (or not doing) and beat myself up over that. I am more kind to myself now, but I will always have to pay attention to being too hard on myself. It's a reflex action learned over a lifetime.
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Post by luvvinlife on Dec 16, 2019 22:29:23 GMT
I am alot like you lani , The funny thing is that I didn't realize it until you described me in your post.  I find that I do have thoughts of just throwing in the towel when it gets tough. After pouting and sulking and ranting for a bit, I get right back up and try again. I had to learn to be kind to myself also. If I survived one poor choice then there's still hope that I can make a better one next time. bbbearsmom,you've come a mighty long way. Awesome! |
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I find that I do have thoughts of just throwing in the towel when it gets tough. After pouting and sulking and ranting for a bit, I get right back up and try again. I had to learn to be kind to myself also. If I survived one poor choice then there's still hope that I can make a better one next time.