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Post by Jarmstrong on Jan 17, 2020 14:55:36 GMT
This thread is for anyone that has been away from healthy eating, had a gain and is recommitting. We accept all forms of healthy eating here, whatever that means to you. We touch base daily for accountability and to encourage one another. This is a judgment free zone.
We all struggle to get the weight off and keep it off. Sometimes this is a challenge, but we never give up and that is the key. Regardless of our situation or where we are in reaching our goal, we count on talking to each other every day and are blessed to have one another as friends.
Feel free to jump in and join us. All are welcome here.
Our motto is persistence, not perfection
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Post by Jarmstrong on Jan 17, 2020 15:12:15 GMT
Good morning from Sunny but COLD Virginia.
Lora do you have sun yet? Are your temps supposed to get really cold this weekend? Any snow if your forecast? They are saying there is some possible snow here tomorrow but they aren't freaking out about it with updates every 10 minutes so I am thinking it probably will not happen, and I have FINE with that.
Susie sorry about the upset tummy. I hope it has calmed down for you.
So I have an interesting update. DH and I talked yesterday about my DD. We both agree it is time for her to figure out her situation. She makes enough $ that she should be able to be on her own. She doesn't want to live by herself but it is time for her to take flight. I had a conversation with DD and told her this information. She got a little defensive at first - but I told her I did love her and I didn't want to argue with her. I also did not want it to get to the point where we had to give her an ultimatum where she only had 30 or 60 days to find somewhere else. I think she finally listened to me. She started looking at apartments yesterday. She called me after work and asked me to go look at a couple of places with her. She even filled out a couple of applications. She is now excited about the idea. Last night DH and I helped her look online and look at reviews for several places. I really think this is going to be a good thing for her and for me.
Unfortunately all this kind of spiraled my dad out of control. He thinks we are making DD move because he is living with us. A small part of that is true but it is time for her to move on. I try so hard to reassure him that is OK that he is living with us. He is so insecure and when the insecurity is bad - he drinks worse. I hope that eventually he feels comfortable living with us.
Dad keeps talking about wanting to take some trips - this scares the crap out of me. He wants to go down to the Southern Shore of VA which is a couple hour trip. He has never been there before. He doesn't follow GPS well. I am afraid he will go down there and get lost and I won't be able to find him. He also keeps talking about visiting with his sisters on his own in NC. IT is a 4 hour trip one way. He has been there plenty of times - but he hasn't driven that far by himself in a long time. I told him I worry about him driving that far alone. He said I only drink at night and I wouldn't be drinking and driving. But he tells me he is having trouble seeing - but he wants to get in the car and drive for 4 hours. For now I am just going to keep trying to talk him out of it.
We do not have any plans this weekend. Yay! I am going to try to get motivated to start decluttering my house some. I want to start in my bedroom - and obviously the stinkin pool table still needs to be cleared off.
I hope everyone has a great day and a great weekend. Try to stay warm! |
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Post by LR63402 on Jan 17, 2020 15:17:04 GMT
Good morning Jana and ATF.
Jana thanks for starting us off. As I'm typing this I've only seen the intro post, so I suppose we're posting at the same time. I hope this weekend is a good one for you.
We're going to see 1917 tomorrow afternoon. But before that stopping by my father's house for a quick visit. I'm quite nervous about doing this, but trying to do what's right. I just hope this time they have it in them to do the same. I'm a little sick to my stomach just thinking about it, honestly. So he never responded to my email for earlier in the week, never acknowledged the unanswered evening phone calls but last night responded to the email that Mark sent yesterday morning saying, "I don't understand why say you couldn't reach me, if I'm not at the doctor we're always home." So I'm wondering if he thinks we didn't even call?
Today is cloudy and colder. This morning it's 43, yesterday morning it was 62. Over the weekend we're dropping into the 20s for low temps. Brrrrr!
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Post by LR63402 on Jan 17, 2020 15:27:04 GMT
Jana - nope, no sun yet. Lol. And now snow predicted. But when the predict it, we never actually get it. So maybe since they're not predicting we'll actually see some flakes. Who knows?!
I was wondering the other day when you were mentioning how crowded the house felt if there'd been any talk of DD moving out. And I think you're right, it is time. As for your dad and the travel. Dang girl, just when it looks like one issue is getting solved, then there is a new one to contend with. If you don't already have it, you could set up his phone with a tracking type app so you can always see where he's at (if that might make you feel better). And if he's not day drinking, then maybe let him go on a couple of short adventurous and see how he does. It would probably be good for him to get out of the house a bit and if he can do so on his own, it could go a long way toward making him feel more independent. I think the loss of independence is hard on older people. If he having trouble seeing, maybe you could get him to the eye dr. and get his vision checked and some glasses if necessary. America's Best at WM generally has a decent price for exam + glasses.
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Post by success4susie on Jan 17, 2020 16:00:59 GMT
Good Morning Jana, Lora and ATF...regular morning (gym class, walk with DD, took DGD to pre-school). I am heading to Kohl's and SteinMart since they are both having a sale on intimate apparel and my bras are feeling tight around the ribcage...do you think that is because I am shrinking in height and things are shifting down...ha ha. I have to help out DD by picking DGD up today too, but that is no problem. This evening we are taking DSon to Outback for his birthday dinner. All-in-all a pretty good day. So far the tummy is OK...I had taken a RX anti-inflammatory for my hip and knee for a couple days and I am wondering if that is the reason...haven't taken one since yesterday morning....so...do I deal with hip/knee pain or tummy pain??? Catch 22: Damxed if you do, and damxed if you don't.
Jana - I am excited about DD moving out AND that she is now excited about it too...it will help you sooooo much I think.
I like Lora's idea about the tracker on DFs phone. Hey, do you think the next time you go to NC you could let him drive and make all the decisions (as if you were not even in the car) and see how he does?
Lora - What did DD think of 1917? It does have some graphic scenes so just be forwarned. Oh, I so hope the visit with DF goes better than you could even hope for!!
OK...off to the stores...bbl
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Post by Jarmstrong on Jan 17, 2020 16:05:47 GMT
Lora - do the best you can with your Dad. I know it is so hard. You know you attempted to call him - if he doesn't want to believe that you did then that is on him not you. maybe while you are there you could say "I just need to double check and see if I have the right # for you" or "double check that you have the correct # for me" As for the visit - just take it for what it is. You are doing the right thing and if they can't be civil or if they want to act out - you did this for you not for them. Try not to react to them. This is what I do with my dad. I sympathize with him - I don't necessarily agree with him. just know the visit only has to last as long as you want it to. Take a deep breath before going in and take another one when you leave.
My Dad does not have a smart phone. He still uses a flip phone so I don't know if we can do the GPS tracker on it or not. We are going to get him an appointment to get his eyes checked. He does go to the store and around town close to where we live and he has gotten lost several times but usually manages to find his way back. LOL |
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Post by Jarmstrong on Jan 17, 2020 16:06:37 GMT
Susie my dad's driving scares the heck out of me. I am not sure I could ride in the car with him with being medicated (that sounds awful huh)
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Post by LR63402 on Jan 17, 2020 16:23:10 GMT
Susie - DD really liked 1917. We saw the previews when we went to see Richard Jewell, and immediately Mark and I knew this was a movie we wanted to see. Especially on the big screen. I've already reserved our seats! Yay!
Jana - that's exactly the way I'm trying to look at the situation with my father and his wife. It's hard though.
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Post by LR63402 on Jan 17, 2020 17:14:26 GMT
Jana - Oh, I don't think there is anyway to make the location work on a non-smart phone. It's generally a downloaded app that allows the phones to share location info.
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