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Post by Deleted on Mar 22, 2017 1:16:31 GMT
Say Oh well to Disappointment
At some point while you are trying to lose weight or trying to maintain you will probably feel discouraged.It come when you WI and you are disappointed with what the scale says.You could be out with friends and you see them eating food that isn't on your weight loss plan.At some point you might begin to think the disadvantages of dieting outweigh the advantages.
It takes time to develop a new mindset about the way you eat and you should expect to become discouraged or disappointed.
Learn to say oh well to disappointment.I remember during the first review I participated that this really helped me to avoid disappointment.I would see some kind of food that was a trigger in the grocery store and although I really wanted it I learned to say oh well.I wanted to lose weight more than I wanted the temporary pleasure of the food.
On page 179 Dr Beck talks about her son being put on a strict diet due to epilepsy.Even though he saw his friends eating foods he couldn't have he never had seconds or ate between meals.
Oh well means I don't like this but I'm going to accept it and move on.Whenever you find yourself struggling,try telling yourself "oh well."This exercise can remind you that you chose to diet to lose weight and you are willing to do whatever it takes to achieve what you wanted to when you first started your weight loss journey.
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Post by linda72 on Mar 22, 2017 13:29:17 GMT
"Oh well" works for me. Even when the scale is not where I want it to be (which is right now) I know I'm in this for the long haul so I keep plugging away. Looks like I may be paying WW next week for the first time in 3 1/2 years. Oh well.
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Post by bbbearsmom on Mar 22, 2017 15:10:01 GMT
From the beginning this time I knew this was what I had to do to stay healthy for the rest of my life. I knew this was because the rules of the physical world are in charge and they weren't going to listen to my whiny excuses.
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Post by jancanlose2016 on Mar 22, 2017 16:37:11 GMT
Yes, this is what I need to do. There's something about "oh well" that I don't like, but I can't think of another, better, catch phrase, so "oh well" will have to do for me, knowing that it means that I must accept what I need to do to lose and maintain a lower weight.
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Post by ladymajky on Mar 22, 2017 16:54:48 GMT
I don't like "oh well" either. I substitute "Get Over It." To me, it seems to deal better with the whiny excuses.
Linda was sharing some of my cards last week, so I'll share my card for today.
Say "Get Over It" to Disappointment
~ A person’s weight does not have any bearing on their entitlement to ups and downs
~ Whether Thin or not-Thin, every Person has occasional down times and disappointments
~ I might as well be a Thin Person
> I accept the downs that come with the Thin Person’s life
> I also embrace the JOYS that come with being Thin
I would rather have the Thin Person’s joys!
I choose to “Get Over It” and move on
→ Get over it
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Post by bbbearsmom on Mar 22, 2017 20:04:39 GMT
Carol: Thanks for sharing your card for today. They are always so wonderful.
I don't think I use "oh, well," now I'm trying to figure out what I do use. I think it all goes back to that moment before I signed up for WW online almost 11 years ago. I had a feeling in the pit of my stomach like you wouldn't believe and came to the conclusion I had to do this (this was after about ten years of not doing this thanks to numerous reasons) because I did not want to get T2 diabetes. I have problems with depression and my feeling was I would be so much more miserable with the idea that I gave myself T2 diabetes that my depression would be worse. Now, I also don't want to have to deal with the work involved once you need meds.
At that time the idea was "I have to do this." Therefore maybe that is what I say to myself...I have to do this. Am I perfect no...but as the years have gone by I like this way of eating more and more. I do not like the work involved especially with eating out but I have to do this. What else I told myself that day was that the laws of the physical world are in charge of this and it doesn't care about my excuses therefore I had to do this no matter what.
This all means more to me now that I'm 70 and everyone around me is getting older and health concerns are springing up for everyone. Aging can bite you in the backside no matter what but if you had a bad lifestyle it takes a much bigger bite.
An online acquaintance posted this from a study her company did:
• Diabetes care now represents nearly 10% of health care expenditures
• Diseases from lifestyle-induced conditions take the lives of more than seven in 10 Americans, such as type 2 diabetes, dementia, cancer, osteoarthritis, heart disease and stroke. Research shows that achieving “six normal” ranges (for low-density lipoprotein cholesterol, blood pressure, blood sugar, waist-to-height ratio, stress management, and tobacco toxins) with or without medication, reduces subsequent chronic disease by 80 percent to 90 percent over 10- to 30-year periods. If only 65 percent of individuals achieved the six normal, the nation would save well over $600 billion in health care spending per year. Currently, only 3 percent to 4 percent of the U.S. population entering Medicare meets those levels.
• Between 1974 and 2014, the number of type 2 diabetics in the United States increased from 3.2 million to 29 million. Diabetes care now represents nearly 10 percent of health care expenditures — and between 15 percent and 2 percent of the gross national product. Experts predict that by 2050, 120 million to 180 million Americans will have diabetes — a six- to tenfold increase in the U.S. population
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Post by Tammy on Mar 22, 2017 21:18:26 GMT
borntexan said: "I weigh every day and unless I have had a real salt bomb or my IBS was really bad the day before I don't have big upswings." You are still in losing mode. That is fine. The top of my healthy BMI is 146 and that is my WW goal. My last WW WI was 132.6. I stayed in losing mode for a while. At some point, your weight will settle out, and I also found that I needed to eat a few more points to avoid feeling "low". While you are in losing mode, upswings are hidden (offset) by losses.
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Post by Tammy on Mar 22, 2017 21:28:54 GMT
I love, love, love "Oh well". This was one of the biggest helps for me. I spent a lot of time thinking "this isn't fair." I think Beck's explanation is perfect.
1) Most people have to restrict their diet somewhat in order to remain thin.
2) True, you might have to restrict your diet more than most. (This acknowledges my feelings of disappointment.)
3) It doesn't really matter how fortunate or unfortunate you are with respect to your eating. Everyone has a limit. And everyone has to respect their limit in order to remain thin.
4) Dwelling on the fact that you limit might be unfortunate is counter-productive. It only makes you unhappy, and you can't change your limit.
The key to happiness is to realize that almost everyone has a limit. Accept your limit. Move on. I think I love Oh well because it acknowledges a power greater than myself. And I really did get a lot out of OA - OA ended the self-destructive binging for me.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 22, 2017 22:04:50 GMT
I am finding the review harder to do this time around because the 1st time I was in losing mode and I never felt deprived.Sure there were unplanned foods I wanted but I was so strict on myself I wouldn't give in.
Now that I'm well below the highest weight in my WW goal and almost 10# below my personal goal I'm not sure if "oh well" is the proper word for me anymore.I used the phrase because that's what Beck used in this topic.Now I may give in to a bite of this or a tbsp of that like I did today when we went to a salad,food,fruit and dessert bar.Other than a baked chicken thigh I would take a tbsp of this or a tbsp of that.I had less fruit than I would normally have at home and even took a small bite of DH's apple cobbler.I didn't know what they would have on the buffet.I had an idea but sometimes it changes.In the past I would have eaten very little and not even get my money's worth.Today I took a sample of foods I never cook at home and to me saying oh well would have felt like a defeatist attitude.
I have come to the realization that most of the rest of my life I will have to eat like I'm in losing mode but there are occasions where I can eat some of the foods I want to as long as it's in moderation and don't go off the deep end.I will be back on track tonight and totally OP tomorrow.So if there is an upswing so be it,get back on plan & I will get over it.
Linda,I'm sending losing vibes so you don't have to pay next week.
Tammy,My highest weight range was 141 but I kept losing and chose 135 as my personal goal.I am not trying to keep losing but it's so hard for me to get in even all of my 30 SP b/c if I have a bad IBS day I'm not hungry & I don't eat when I'm already full.I do get most of them(usually within 3 SP).I have not upped my daily points but I have my weeklies since I'm in maintenance mode.
You had so many good points and have covered tomorrow's topic so much better than I can.
Judy,I really like that article and it is so true for many things.I was able to get off my diabetic and high blood pressure medications by losing weight.When I was at my highest weight was when I first developed osteoarthritis in my knee.As I lost more it started feeling better so you can imagine my surprise when I was below goal that the pain came back worse than ever.If I had never been obese I may not have developed osteoarthritis.However my dad had the same problem and had to retire b/c of it.Then the osteo surgeon told me no matter how much weight I lose now it won't make any difference.At one point I will need a knee replacement.I realize if I hadn't let myself go in the first place this may not have happened but I guess there are some things losing weight won't help completely.My knee is finally responding to the injections even if it does hurt some still.I really do wish there were a way losing all this weight would have helped it but I still don't feel like I worked this hard and lost this weight for nothing.I did it for me and my health and as we age some things just get worse but the main part of that article is right on the money.Thanks for sharing it.
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Post by linda72 on Mar 22, 2017 23:53:43 GMT
@beckyw2016 Another great picture of you! You've done so well and now you're 10 pounds below your goal? Wow, that's fantastic! I'm not doing that well and my body seems stuck. I'm trying to pick up the activity and sticking to about 30 SP but nothing has changed this month. I will go next week and pay but I'm not going to go weekly to pay. My weight losses my final year getting to goal were so slow and I don't want to spend the money. I've got etools until Sept., 2020 and I'm reading the Weekly on the website but I do miss the meetings. I'm sorry you're continuing to have pain with your knee even with the weight loss. But, when you do have the replacement, the less weight you have, the better it will be for your rehab and recovery. I hope you don't need it for a long time!  |
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Post by bbbearsmom on Mar 23, 2017 0:23:50 GMT
Becky: Sorry about your knee. Hugs.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 23, 2017 0:29:11 GMT
Thanks linda72.I'm sorry you are struggling with your weight right now but it will come back off.My knee doesn't hurt all the time now thank goodness.It's better.It will just need replaced at some point in time.I do know you miss your meetings and I don't blame you for not paying for weekly meetings. I'm not quite 10# below my goal but right in there.I hope to at least maintain this week.I did end up getting close to 30 SP today and didn't think I would.Hopefully it's not too big of a salt bomb and I wasn't able to get enough fiber today but hopefully that won't matter. Hang in there. |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 23, 2017 0:31:52 GMT
Judy,My knee doesn't hurt as bad as before the injections but still hurts if I do too much.I still can't extend my leg all the way out but I will keep on going.Thanks for the hugs.
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Post by gypsie5 on Mar 26, 2017 23:56:39 GMT
Checked in.
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