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Post by healthyjoy on Jul 13, 2020 10:44:14 GMT
Welcome to the CLUTTERBUSTERS thread. We are a daily thread, Monday thru Friday, and we have a combined weekend edition Saturday and Sunday. We welcome new members and are a friendly, helpful and supportive group.
Our purpose is for support and sharing of tips and strategies in dealing with weight and clutter issues in our lives. Many feel that the two are often tied together. So, we will lend a caring ear, and hopefully give and learn tips to help all of us.
We want to remove at least 5 items or spend at least 15 minutes clutter busting today!
Remember, it didn't pile up in one day so it isn't going away in a day either. One organizer says: you don't have to stop everything to get organized, you just have to start somewhere.
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Post by healthyjoy on Jul 13, 2020 10:45:02 GMT
Just getting us started. Iāll be back when Iām have updates.
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Post by dottieb on Jul 13, 2020 12:33:06 GMT
Joyce, I was so glad to see that you started the thread. Will check-back later for an update. Prayers continue for you and the healthcare workers helping you.
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Post by mnwildhockeyfan on Jul 13, 2020 14:37:17 GMT
I too am happy to see you posting. Was coming early also to check to see any updates. Prayers continue and the other CB group are sending their prayers and love! You are not forgotten over there!!!
I got up an hour before everyone else and enjoyed my coffee and the quiet. I had put a load of laundry in the washer last night and transferred it to the dryer this morning.
Mara goes home after lunch and then I need to get working on my to do list. Filling out our primary ballots and getting them mailed is our #1 priority. And I think Stan wants to try and get out for a run with Maggie before it gets too hot this am and then rains tonight. More rain overnight and then during the day tomorrow.
Stan has started making noises about working in the garage and moving cars into different stalls; so that bodes well for cleaning it out and getting rid of some stuff. Lots of stuff I hope. And organizing what is staying in the garage and moving some stuff downstairs.
Ok, need to get moving. Need to get dressed, get Mara changed and dressed and getting a few things done! Will check back in a bit to see if Joy has talked to the doctors.
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Post by healthyjoy on Jul 13, 2020 15:41:42 GMT
Getting discharged this afternoon. They are going to have me meet with clinical team for the aneurysm discussion and procedure in a couple of weeks instead of dealing with it noW.
My AIC skyrocketed during the pandemic, I ate badly, Iām now diabetic. They have me on cholesterol meds, not statins (zetia I think) and blood thinners for 90 days , then aspirin.
I made sure to start the thread so you'd know I was doing ok.
Bbl
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Post by dottieb on Jul 13, 2020 15:56:49 GMT
Joyce, sounds like they have a good plan in place for you. Maybe they could arrange for you to see a dietician since they now consider you a diabetic. I know you know what to do, a lot of us are struggling with staying at home and eating too much. Take care.
Martha, it is amazing what people keep and also the big question is āwhyā. We are really trying to work on our basement. My knee started bothering me a few weeks before we came home from Florida. Once I got home I went to an emergency walk-in orthopedic clinic. I have arthritis in my knee and might eventually need a knee replacement. Steps were a major problem and we live in a 2 story house with the washer and dryer in the basement. Bill and I realize that if either of us canāt do steps easily that we will probably have to move ā and if the basement isnāt chock full of stuff it will be an easier job.
Ruth, as I mentioned my hearing aids have helped me but there are still many times that I miss parts of conversations when in a group. I also find that when we are someplace with high ceilings (either in someoneās home or a restaurant) I really have a hard time hearing, the sound goes up. Glad to hear that you had a good weekend with Mara. Hope Stan follows thru about the garage. Hope DS is doing okay. Good job on selling the desk and chair and having it leave the house so quickly.
DS#2 has quite a bit of his stuff in our basement yet. He hasnāt lived here since he started grad school in 2006. He bought his house in 2012 ā and we still have some of his stuff. I was hoping that he would come one day and go thru it but he is extremely busy. He is an associate professor and head of his department. With the pandemic he (and most teachers/professor) have been busy coming up with new ways of teaching. As he said to me he is trying to keep his department functioning. He is also eligible to try for full professor this year. It is quite a task. He has to basically complete a book (much like a grad school thesis) and then it will be reviewed and if accepted he will then have a series of interviews to see if he is selected for full professor. The book is supposed to be between 250 to 300 pages. So since he is so busy I will start today with sending him 3 or 4 pictures of his items in the basement and he just has to tell me yes or no. If he doesnāt want them I will either donate them or pitch (whatever is appropriate). If he wants them I will wait till I get a group and then deliver them to him ā Iām afraid he will want to keep most of the items ā he really has a problem with hoarding.
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Post by mnwildhockeyfan on Jul 13, 2020 17:46:10 GMT
Joy, thank goodness you can go home for a while. And then start working on the other issues. A dietician is a good idea for sure. Agree with Dottie, weāve all been eating too much; not getting enough exercise; you name it. Iāve worried about that very issue (diabetes) and will be accountable with you to watch diet and improve exercise. Prayers continue for you and your care team. Thank you for keeping us updated.
Ok, DS Carol let me know this morning that she has been exposed to Covid. She had 2 of her former work friends over last Thursday. One wore a mask when she got there; the other didnāt. The one who didnāt turned up positive for Covid yesterday and notified Carol last night. Carol was supposed to see the drs about her feeding tube issues today; had an appt on Thursday for an EKG, and is scheduled for chemo again next Tuesday. And, she had an appt. last Friday and got 2 pints of blood. She probably wasnāt contagious then (if she gets it); but they should be notified. And both her DSās and their DSs and a half-brother to one of the DGSs were there a couple times this weekend. So they may have to quarantine. I know DS Carol worries about how much time she has left with her family and friends; but in visiting w/o masks she may have shortened that time unknowingly. Iāll keep you all updated when I hear more. (Marsha; my youngest DS Carol has esophageal cancer - going on year 3; has a feeding tube; has had extensive surgery; multiple kinds of chemo; 2 bouts of radiation; and still has a tumor on the esophagus that came back after surgery to remove the 1st one). She lives in Indiana.
Dottie; showing DS pictures and letting him decide is a great idea. The first time older DD and I worked on cleaning our storage room DH refused to help. He sat in his recliner. So we made most decisions but things we werenāt sure about or knew He might care about, we brought up the stairs and showed him. Same concept. And you might find things you know he wonāt care about. Our DS is sort of a hoarder type too. He has hundreds of board games And I know heāll never play a lot of them again. I want to get him sorting them and Iāll help him list them and sell them. Iāve told him/them that I will help with cleaning by starting with laundry (they have baskets of it thatās clean, but never gets folded, sorted, or put away; they live out of the baskets. So I told him to get it ALL (multiple baskets) to me; Iāll make sure itās all clean; will fold, sort, match up (socks, outfits, pjās, etc.) and put in separate baskets for him, her, Mara, household and get it back to them and then maybe it can be put away more easily. And then weāll start on getting rid of all the baby stuff (furniture, clothes, toys, car seats, strollers, etc.) and Iāll get that photographed and listed. And then weāll start working on their clothes; the games and other things they no longer use. Then we can get to actually cleaning. Because they need help!!!
ok, need to get Mara down for a nap shortly. Will see about running to Target & Kohlās to do pick ups while she rests. Then after nap weāll take her home. And get her stuff cleared up in the backyard because we are to get rain overnight and into tomorrow!
Will check in later
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Post by healthyjoy on Jul 13, 2020 18:27:17 GMT
I do need to read the past few days posts, but wanted to let you know Iām home. Picked up my meds, will start them up tomorrow.
Had a nice talk with my nurse last night. He probably gave me more information than the docs.
My stroke was basically a result of my high blood pressure, cholesterol, and Diabetes. Iām more angry at myself because Iāve been so neglectful even though I tried, it wasnāt enough. So now Iām on meds. And they all have scary side effects. But the docs say the benefit outweigh the risk, I hope so.
I was fine, dealing with everything, then started crying in the car on the way home.
I do plan on meeting with a dietitian, obesity isnāt helping either. I donāt want this to happen again and I think I have some control over that.
Bbl
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Post by healthyjoy on Jul 13, 2020 19:00:39 GMT
Back ...
Martha, hereās my intro: Iām 68, single, no kids. I own my own home and live just outside of Buffalo, NY. My basement has always been the place I tossed things. After 35 years, thatās a lot of stuff. I still work PT evenings and Saturday as a cashier for a car dealership. My friends have all pretty much moved out of state, no real close friends nearby and that bothers me a lot. I used to be very outgoing when I was younger, planned on getting married but unfortunately it wasnāt meant to be. I never got involved with anyone again, stayed in my home and spent a lot of time just working, I had 2 jobs for a lot of years.
When Covid hit, I was out of work for a while and used that time to get more clutter gone from my basement. I am happy to say that everything there is in plastic bins on shelves. I donated a lot to charity and still have more to do.
Ruth - there were no Covid cases anywhere near. We actually have 2 hospitals dedicated to Covid patients. The last I heard there were only 35 patients in WNY hospitals. Hope we can keep those numbers low. Visiting hours are limited to only 1 person per patient between 3-7pm, they have to fill out paperwork and get checked for fever. I told my brother not to come to visit.
Scary to read about Carol, praying that it doesnāt effect her. I wear my mask even when I donāt have to. I put it on when any staff walked into my room, they kept telling me I didnāt have to. I didnāt mind.
I have a video visit setup with my dr got Monday. Sheās on vacation this week. I donāt know what sheāll say, sheās been on me for along time, weight, cholesterol, diabetes ... I wonāt blame her if she says āI told youā ... but she wonāt.
See ya tomorrow
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Post by dottieb on Jul 13, 2020 19:18:17 GMT
Joyce, I was happy to hear you are home. I know what you mean about the nurse talking with you last night. I have found that nurses can be more helpful and compassionate than doctors. I was the office manager for over 125 nurses, LPNs and NAs for 7 years when I worked at the VA. They were all so caring and helpful to me, other staff and of course their patients. It is understandable that you cried on the way home, it is a very scary time ā take care.
Ruth I was so sorry to hear the news about Carol. I hope that she doesnāt get the virus and has to postpone her treatments. I hope DS and DIL take your help and let you do their laundry and sell some of their unneeded items now. Especially since DS is unemployed he should have some extra time for going thru the items, and of course some extra money when the items get sold.
Well DS wanted to keep 2 of the items. The third item we already put in the donation pile, Bill plans to bring the items to Good Will later this week. Iām sure I will need to remind him. He is always asking āwhat can I help you withā. He usually doesnāt like my suggestions ā but I will keep mentioning the donation pile.
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Post by StartingOver on Jul 13, 2020 22:16:14 GMT
Joyce - very glad to see that they have dc'd you from hospital. Don't be surprised if tears come again a time or two, or more. Sounds like you have been very productive in cleaning out the clutter. ((HUGS)) Could the dietician do a house visit/clean out cupboards of foods that aren't diabetic friendly foods?
Dottie - If DS doesn't know all of what is there, how would he know if some clutter went to thrift/trash? I was the same way, moved out when 21, then out of state at 23, left 95% at parents. After parents passed, the dismantling began. DBro told us, speak now or forever hold your peace. I didn't know that they would start with the books and I didn't speak up in time. Not that I wanted them for myself but to reread some of them.
Ruth - Don't blame you for wanting to winter in warmer weather!! Keeping up with a 2.5 year old is work. I think that your DS/DDIL would be appreciative of any help. Will keep your Dsis in thoughts/prayers.
Today, walked to store (2 mile round trip) to get some on sale lunchmeat and to redeem a coupon for a free 1/2 gal ice cream. Had 2 insulated grocery bags in backpack. Watered garden and realized that it wasn't flowers coming up, it was kale. I'll pick it in the morning and make/bake kale chips for DH.
Dinner tonight: Roasted eggplant and pepper hero type sandwiches with mozzarella cheese.
Have a good night.
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Post by mnwildhockeyfan on Jul 14, 2020 2:06:27 GMT
Joy, so happy to hear you are home. If you need to talk to anyone, we are here; and Iāll email you my # so if you need an in-person chat, please feel free to call. We all need someone to lean on. Tears are totally understandable and as Marsha says, they may come unexpectedly at random times. Just go with it. And you are not alone in knowing what we need to do but havenāt done it.
I brought home 4 big overflowing baskets of laundry. Have the first of many loads going tonight. Will work my way thru it. DS seems very receptive to the help; weāll get DIL on board yet! Marsha, we are tired after having Mara for 4 days. But it gave DS a break to figure out some things and to do some things w/o the mini terror! And she had so much fun here playing in the water in the backyard. Actually, 90% of the time sheās a sweetheart; the rest of that time sheās 2!!!! ššš
I never was allowed to leave anything at my parents house; they packed it all in a truck with our wedding gifts and moved them to MN with us on Monday after our Saturday wedding. But our kids have left stuff. Older DD took hers. Younger DD still has a bin of stuff here from high school; plus her wedding dress in a closet upstairs. And then all the clothes from the girls that Iām getting rid of. DS/DIL have a bunch of stuff here; even tho after they bought the house we took an entire trailer load of stuff to their house. And then we have baby stuff. Some of the stuff they have here I have sorted thru and gotten rid of stuff. But thereās more.
ok, need to go check laundry and do a few things before bedtime. And get my to do list ready for tomorrow.
will check in right away to check on Joy. Prayers continue for you DF.
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