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Post by gypsie5 on Mar 29, 2017 7:22:25 GMT
WEEK 5
*Overcome Challenges
What we have touched up on so far-
-hunger is never an emergency
-you can withstand cravings (?)
-tolerate discomfort
-monitoring what you eat
-more aware of sabotaging thoughts
*For Week 5 we will learn how to stay in control in challenging situations, unexpected, social pressures, and emotional feelings
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DAY 29
RESISTING FOOD PUSHERS
Some points in reading through this chapter-
Its okay to disappoint others. Their disappointment most likely be mild and fleeting.
Are you able to deal with the food pushers in your life?
This most likely will be a CHOICE of you not wanting them to feel bad, as to a CHOICE in making yourself feel bad and sabotage yourself.
Do you find it hard to say no?
How have you handled this situation?
Prepare your initial response
Visualize your plan in action
Good reminders from Beck-
are you-creating time and energy for dieting (I need to be mindful of this)
consult with your diet coach?
hunger is never an emergency
anti craving techniques
eating to normal fullness
Did you read through your to-do list for today?
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Post by bbbearsmom on Mar 29, 2017 15:11:21 GMT
Luckily there aren't food pushers in my life. What very little that goes on I need to have the backbone to handle. The biggest threat is me telling myself I need to eat something. I need to learn to catch that thought and be firm with myself. Most people in my life mind their own business when it comes to eating.
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Post by linda72 on Mar 29, 2017 15:11:30 GMT
I don't have any food pushers in my life. But, DH is constantly asking me to share a bite with him or will offer something he knows I shouldn't eat. I used to get angry but I now realize he's not thinking he's sabotaging my plan. He's just excited about something and wants to share. On the few times I've mentioned this, he gets defensive and then has hurt feelings. I now know this is my problem and how I perceive what he's doing. I think this is exaggerated thinking. ("he wants me to fail, he knows I can't eat all of this, he is being inconsiderate, etc.") Now, I just say "no thank you" or I will have 1 small taste of something. This was a problem I was making for myself and it's gotten so much better since I worked through the issue in my mind.
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Post by bbbearsmom on Mar 29, 2017 15:14:07 GMT
Linda: My husband too will say things, ask me about wanting food. He is better now but I had to get use to the idea that it was his way and he was being social. It is hard to say no and stand my ground but that is what I have to do. Can't let my people pleasing side sabotage me.
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Post by gypsie5 on Mar 29, 2017 17:54:10 GMT
Not many food pushers with me either. If tempted s bite will work. Otherwise I can say , ahh I'm trying to be good!
Then there's is the ST of justification or over positive fortune telling to get in the way!
Then I'm doomed!
Beck listed a lot of good remnders here to touch base with. A good time to make sure your good with all the lessons, and what you may need to work on for later...
maybe list a card of your strength and weaknesses...?
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Post by doordie50 on Mar 29, 2017 18:01:58 GMT
The only time I encounter food pushers is on the holidays. Everyone takes no for an answer but, my brother who will practically wrestle a bite of his dessert into my face. I swear he's still 12 years old! Seriously though, I don't really have too much trouble with food pushers.
Its a beautiful day here for a change - blue skies and sun. Judy our season is on the way :-)
Hi Gypsie!
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Post by Deleted on Mar 29, 2017 20:15:52 GMT
I have no food pushers but DH is the same way about offering me something.If I say no he's good with that.I have gotten in the habit of maybe taking 1 bite of his nutty bar once in awhile but if I tell him I don't want it that's okay with him too.I did have a problem at one time when I finally had to make him realize I could never go back to eating the way I used to and lose or maintain.He has gotten it now and he never gets upset.He likes to eat at Whataburger and I know I can eat part of a chicken salad and be satisfied even if that's not the healthiest at least I know it's not a hamburger.I do have to watch what I will take a bite of once in awhile now.
I did use something out of this lesson this morning.For the 1st time in a long time I felt hungry between breakfast and lunch.I stuck to drinking my water and told myself hunger was not an emergency.It's finally sinking in.
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Post by ladymajky on Mar 29, 2017 21:24:11 GMT
My DH is over there chatting with Linda's DH and Becky's DH. They are just social that way, and we just have to accept that it's not personal. They don't mean to hurt us. We are just glad that they like us, and want to be social with us.
I guess I prefer that DH is offering tidbits to me instead of to some floozy he picked up on the corner.
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Post by linda72 on Mar 29, 2017 21:39:53 GMT
ladymajky @beckyw2016 Once I realized DH was not trying to hijack my weight loss journey, it became easier. He was taught good manners and just wanted to share food with me. Now, I have no problem saying, "no thanks" and I don't get emotional about it. Just "no" and move on. It's so much easier!
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Post by Deleted on Mar 30, 2017 1:09:56 GMT
ladymajky,LOL at your post about our DH's.Mine is super friendly and has never met a stranger. linda72,I never got upset with my DH about offering me bites of his food.I did have to let him know a couple of times that I couldn't eat something and he has always understood.
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