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Post by Jarmstrong on Nov 19, 2020 12:07:24 GMT
This thread is for anyone that has been away from healthy eating, had a gain and is recommitting. We accept all forms of healthy eating here, whatever that means to you. We touch base daily for accountability and to encourage one another. This is a judgment free zone.
We all struggle to get the weight off and keep it off. Sometimes this is a challenge, but we never give up and that is the key. Regardless of our situation or where we are in reaching our goal, we count on talking to each other every day and are blessed to have one another as friends.
All are welcome here.
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Post by Jarmstrong on Nov 19, 2020 12:20:32 GMT
Good morning and happy Thursday. I am so glad tomorrow is Friday.
I am thinking about talking to DH and maybe trying to get away to my mom's family home this weekend alone. I feel guilty for feeling like I need some solitude. I don't know if it would even help my current state of mind. I would need to check with my Uncle and make sure no one was at the house. I will let you know what I decide.
Things at work are slowing down a little bit because so many people will be taking vacation next week. My work will slowly start to ramp up as we try to make budget deadlines.
Thanks for the advice about ex friend. I am not 100% sure what I am going to do yet but I do need to do something with the emotions and feelings that it brought up. If there was some way I could remain in her DD life without any contact with her or her ex husband then that is what I would do - but I don't believe that would be possible, so unfortunately I need to figure out some way to have peace with this situation.
Lora her husband was in a car accident and messed his arm up really bad. He wasn't driving because he was intoxicated - but the person driving was intoxicated as well. He ended up having several surgeries on his arm and his arm will never be the same as it was before. Thank you for the quote.
Thank you all so much for always allowing me to have a safe place to fall.
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Post by LR63402 on Nov 19, 2020 14:15:16 GMT
Good morning friends and wishing you all a happy Thursday!
Jana - thank you for starting us off. I want to start with big hugs!!! Of course, nobody can tell you what to do with your xfriend. How old is her daughter? It would seem unlikely that you would be able to continue a relationship with her DD and not have any interaction with her parents - at least not until she's in her teens or older - but I could be wrong. But from my experience forgiving someone who has hurt you is a powerful and freeing act - even if they are not sorry or don't appreciate the gravity of what they have done to you. Forgiving them is an act that frees YOU from the hurt and anger. It doesn't mean you have to continue on with them at all, at this point I don't think that is even possible anyway. But it relieves you of having to continue shouldering the pain of that hurtful experience. Holding on to hurt and anger isn't impacting her a bit, but it's clearly hurting you. Why in the world should you continue to suffer over someone else's bad behavior? Forgiving someone who has hurt you takes away their power, and the power that their deeds have over your emotions. Just my thoughts. It took me a looooooooooooooong time to figure this out, but once I got real with myself and admitted that the offenders weren't changing, and that they clearly had no intentions to do so, it was pretty clear to me that continuing to give their acts power over me was only hurting me. I also had to realize that their bad deeds were due to shortcomings in their emotional and personality makeup - not mine.
I'm also wondering if her reaching out to you and using her daughter as an excuse is a way to manipulate you back into the relationship? I makes me wonder what she wants from you this time?
RobinMD - I hope you slept well last night. Did you have that meeting outlining any changes they may be instituting at work? I'm sorry if you already posted about that and I missed it.
Mostly house stuff around here today. I've got a load of towels in the wash and will be working on a grocery list for tomorrow's shop. I'm hoping that I can get everything I need at my little local spot - otherwise I might have to make a trip to WM over the weekend. And I'm REALLY hoping to be able to avoid that. WM shopping on a holiday week, no thanks! Haha!
It's chilly here this morning, but not as cool as that past couple or days have been. It looks like we're settling into a trend of low 40s - low 60s for the next week or so. That's totally doable.
Well, I think it's time to move the towels to the dryer. I'll do my best to pop back in later. Take care everyone! Love you ladies bunches!!
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Post by Jarmstrong on Nov 19, 2020 16:04:14 GMT
Lora the child is only 9 so there really isn't any way for me to keep in touch with her without her parents involvement. There is also a little boy who is 5 but I never got as close to him as I had their daughter. I am not sure what the purpose of her message yesterday was. Our friendship is definitely over and I just need some closure on my end. I think I might take your advice and write my feelings out tonight and then either rip the paper up, burn it or just destroy it in some manner.
I hope you can get what you need at your local store. I know going into any type of store from now until the end of the year is going to start to be a PITA. Is it this weekend you will get to see DD?
RobinMD I hope you were able to sleep last night.
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Post by LR63402 on Nov 19, 2020 17:46:02 GMT
Jana - DD is coming on Wed. afternoon (the day before T.giving) and heading on Saturday morning of T.giving weekend. Then that same Saturday afternoon we'll see Mark's parents and watch the football game.
I've been debating on what to make for our T.giving meal. DD eats like we do, DSIL is tends to lean toward a low carb diet, but has no health or weight issues that he's trying to improve, so being tighter on ingredients isn't an issue for him like it is for us, but he's pretty easy and eats anything we put in front of him with gusto. haha. DD has never been a turkey fan and I'm not a big ham lover - a little is fine, but I surely don't love it enough to buy some big hunk of it.
So I'm thinking of baking a stuffed pork loin - slicing it to open it up, then layering in ham slices, provolone slices and rolling it back up and tying it into a roll with kitchen twine. Then seasoning the outside and making a sauce to drizzle over the finished product before serving. It would be kind of a "cordon bleu" kind of dish. Then making a couple of sides to go with it. I'm not fully settled on that yet, but I am leaning that direction at the moment.
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Post by robinmd on Nov 20, 2020 0:29:20 GMT
Hi everyone,
Lora, I have to say that the pork loin sounds like a great idea. I don't want to buy a whole turkey or a ham, so I might roast a chicken or do chicken breasts. I also have some fresh red potatoes from the farmer's market so I might make mashed potatoes. I also like the stuffing with fresh chopped veggies in it. Its just going to be me, so if I have leftovers, I want them to be something I want. If I don't make potatoes, I might make baked cheese grits. And I haven't decided on my veggies yet. Thanksgiving is going to be a DAY OFF for me, and I am going to give myself permission to NOT do any housework, yardwork, laundry, or anything. I will probably be bored to tears and do something anyway, but....it sounds good right now! We did talk about increasing protocols as we go forward, but we are all double masking and being extremely vigilant about cleaning with surgical grade germicides, after every single patient encounter. We found out that an asymptomatic patient came in last week for a physical, and tested positive for covid the next day. I didn't have any contact with that visit and the team that did, routinely wears full PPE with gowns and safety glasses. One of our nurses is going to New York for Thanksgiving week, and I don't know if she realizes it yet, but she won't be allowed to return to work for at least 10 days after she returns.
Jana, I hope you are able to find a way to ditch that relationship and contacts, in a way that you have peace with. I hope you can get some time away, if that is what you need. It felt like you never really gave yourself time to deal with all the "stuff" that happened last year. Maybe you are just finally, gradually processing all those feelings, fears, losses, responsibilities, and changes that happened. It was almost like one long, big event that went on for months and months, as one thing rolled into another. In some ways, taking care of your dad is still part of that story. And honestly, I still feel like I am trying to find out who I am now, without my mom. I am the same person, but not the same. I don't know if that is what is going on or not, but it is always good to stop and take a deep breath, and maybe you could do that for a minute, if you get away!
Work was busy again, but manageable. I can't wait to get back to my schedule with my WFH day once a week. I miss that. We don't have any plan yet to have anyone do more virtual days, but I am all for it. When there are 3 doctors (or 4) in there, it is a lot of people and a lot of patients. We only bring them in one at a time with no loitering in the waiting room, but it feels like there are too many people inside at once. We will see.
I am going to think about getting a little bite to eat and I need something for my headache, and the heating pad for my back. I didn't sleep too bad last night, just got there a little late. I will head up a little earlier tonight. I can see the weekend ahead! I hope everyone had a good day today, and I'm waving to all I missed. Take care,
RobinMD
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Post by success4susie on Nov 20, 2020 2:37:46 GMT
Hi Everyone...just checking in before heading to bed...seems like I have been busy, but what else is new?? Last night was one of the "early to bed" nights-8:00 PM- and I am heading there right after I finish this post, so tonight is pretty early too. Tomorrow morning is my exercise class, but it shouldn't be as cold as it was yesterday. I had PT this afternoon and that went well...I am starting to get the hang of what I am supposed to do - ha! I had a group google/whatever this evening. I am used to zoom, but not this...I also had to do it on DH's MacBook with which I am unfamiliar. By the time I got everything figured out, I felt it was time for me to leave, but at least I will have a better idea for what to do next month.
Jana - I thought it was interesting that your ex DF's Ex was the one to call you when your DM passed. I am wondering if she is trying to make amends and doesn't know how to do it...but then, you know her better than any of us do. I think you have to do what you think is right for you. The weekend away may be just what you need. Always know that you can come here to vent, cry, celebrate, etc. So glad we all have one another.
Lora - no matter what you fix for TGiving, I am sure it will be delicious. I think you gave Jana good advice.
RobinMD - I think you hit the nail on the head with Jana's life the last year or so....seems like one thing just rolled into another. I know you see your DDs...do both of them have other plans for TGiving? I think everyone is doing less for the holiday due to the unusual circumstances. We are still going to ODD's, and YDD & her BF is staying with them, so besides us, there will only be 2 others there (my SILs parents). ODD and YDD were trying to plan how to scale down the food too.
Oh, after PT today, I used an ice pack that kind of fit over my shoulder and down my arm...I had never seen anything like this before... I always just think of a back of ice...lol. I really liked it and will ask for that every time from now on.
OK -- off to bed
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