Post by bbbearsmom on Nov 22, 2023 23:52:55 GMT
Day 23 – Counter the Unfairness Syndrome
Beck points out that life is unfair, dieting is unfair, and some people use the unfairness they see in the situation to sabotage themselves by not doing what they need to do. She suggests that you admit that some situations are unfair or seem to be unfair and then use “Oh, well” and move on. She points out that there are worse unfair situations out there than us not being able to eat all the cookies we want and lose weight.
She guides us in putting our ideas of things being unfair into perspective.
First step is “Remind yourself why you decided to diet in the first place.” (Advantages Response Card) When you decided to diet the disadvantages of not dieting were stronger than the advantages to not dieting.
Second “Make a mental list of the advantages in your life.” Now compare your advantages to how other people live all over this country and the world.
Third “Create a Response Card.” If you have problems with feeling dieting is unfair, make up a card and talk back to yourself with a helpful response remembering that the greatest unfairness in this is not making your goal or not maintaining your goal weight.
Do you have any feelings of unfairness about this process? If you do how do you handle them?
Beck points out that life is unfair, dieting is unfair, and some people use the unfairness they see in the situation to sabotage themselves by not doing what they need to do. She suggests that you admit that some situations are unfair or seem to be unfair and then use “Oh, well” and move on. She points out that there are worse unfair situations out there than us not being able to eat all the cookies we want and lose weight.
She guides us in putting our ideas of things being unfair into perspective.
First step is “Remind yourself why you decided to diet in the first place.” (Advantages Response Card) When you decided to diet the disadvantages of not dieting were stronger than the advantages to not dieting.
Second “Make a mental list of the advantages in your life.” Now compare your advantages to how other people live all over this country and the world.
Third “Create a Response Card.” If you have problems with feeling dieting is unfair, make up a card and talk back to yourself with a helpful response remembering that the greatest unfairness in this is not making your goal or not maintaining your goal weight.
Do you have any feelings of unfairness about this process? If you do how do you handle them?
