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Post by bbbearsmom on Nov 23, 2023 23:42:03 GMT
Day 24 – Deal with Discouragement
Beck points out dieting is often easy at first because in the beginning we are inspired. As time goes on it can become harder, life gets in the way, dieting requires more effort, there are days when cravings are more intense, you think this is too hard, you don’t think you’ll keep up, you think you just don’t want to do this anymore. She goes on to say that those feelings are normal, but it isn’t okay to let them overwhelm you and keep you from your goal.
You have a choice when you have these thoughts, give up, or fight the sabotaging thoughts. You can do this and dieting will get easy. (It usually goes in hard/easy cycles.)
These are her suggestions for finding encouragement:
Read your Advantages Response Card more often. Rewrite it to freshen it up thinking about each item listed. Add new advantages as you think of them.
Add up your difficult hours. There are 168 hours in a week how much of this time was difficult?
Focus on what you can do today. She cautions us about focusing on the long term, instead she suggests focusing on today taking care of tomorrow when it gets here. (I somewhat disagree with this because I’ve found that planning ahead is such a help.)
Have you been discouraged while doing this? How did you handle it?
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Post by bbbearsmom on Nov 23, 2023 23:44:02 GMT
I don't think I've been discouraged while I lost weight and maintained my goal weight. I do think I get frustrated because it can be a struggle to get myself to do what I need to do. This is just something I have to do to have the health and the body I want.
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Post by cathygeha on Nov 24, 2023 8:54:07 GMT
I have been discouraged but take the gains (on the scale) in stride never giving up on my ultimate goal. I will not let a slip (or two or three) become a slide that sees me having to lose it all again!
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Post by susan092907 on Nov 24, 2023 12:53:44 GMT
I have gotten discouraged over the years, and it led to me giving up on working on weight management and the regaining all of my lost weight plus more.
This time around I’ve also gotten discouraged but I’ve stopped the old pattern of giving up. I think about my advantages to being at my goal weight and I talk to myself, acknowledging that yes this is hard, but reminding myself that it took a lot of hard work to get to my goal weight in the first place, and the work that it takes to maintain is just the same thing. I also remind myself that like so many good things in my life, it takes work to get them and keep them, but that the work is so worthwhile.
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Post by lani on Nov 24, 2023 15:25:54 GMT
I was discouraged the first time I did Beck and was perfectly perfect for so long, and then I wasn't. Back on Track saved me. I had the mind set that if Beck didn't work, nothing ever would. And I think I was prepared for failure. It's all in the mind.
Pre-Beck I don't think I felt discouraged because I could always lose, but then the gains would happen, then I would go back on a diet. Lather, rinse, repeat. So I just accepted that was how it was going to be for the rest of my life. Look how wrong you can be.
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Post by lizlor on Nov 24, 2023 21:47:23 GMT
I’ve been disappointed in myself for giving up, but I handle it by redoing Beck. I like the strategy of counting disappointing hours and focusing on today. I did not track or log on Thanksgiving and I overindulged but gave myself the holiday. I’m not at all disappointed. Instead I am back on track today with logging and exercise.
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Post by surfgirl on Nov 25, 2023 23:36:57 GMT
I’ve been disappointed in myself for giving up, but I handle it by redoing Beck. I like the strategy of counting disappointing hours and focusing on today. I did not track or log on Thanksgiving and I overindulged but gave myself the holiday. I’m not at all disappointed. Instead I am back on track today with logging and exercise. This 100%!
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Post by ermabom on Dec 2, 2023 14:42:48 GMT
I got very discouraged when I first stopped being able to maintain due to perimenopause. Despite my best efforts, nothing worked and I gained weight. I gave up on weight loss for a while and while I didn't gain a ton of weigh, I definitely didn't lose. But that pause for about 10 years was good for me. I discovered Beck and I feel more in control now - even at my worst times.
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