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Post by bbbearsmom on Mar 21, 2024 23:04:37 GMT
BBR Chapter 8 Week 4
Day 22 – Say, Oh, Well, to Disappointment
Beck talks about times when this process might seem disappointing such as when you don’t see the weight you want on the scale, when you can’t eat what everyone else is eating, when the disadvantages outweigh the advantages. She tells us that when this happens, we need to remember we choose to diet and with that choice we have another choice: to make ourselves miserable by complaining or to accept that dieting does come with disadvantages but they are “a necessary means to an end.” You might not like dieting, but it is the actuality of what you must do to reach goal.
Beck tells the story about how her son handled going on a restrictive diet for health reasons. His attitude was to say: oh, well, and move on. She suggests that we use the phrase when confronted with sabotaging thoughts lamenting the problems we see with dieting.
Examples she gives:
I want that doughnut. Oh, well.
I really feel hungry. Oh, well.
I wish I could order a hamburger instead of a salad. Oh, well.
Those chips look so good. Oh, well.
I don’t feel like exercising today. Oh, well.
I don’t feel like writing down my food plan for tomorrow. Oh, well.
What disappointments have you run into while losing weight/maintaining your goal weight?
How did you handle the disappointments?
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Post by bbbearsmom on Mar 21, 2024 23:09:53 GMT
I get disappointed by the number on the scale, but then I realize I'm in charge of that and it is up to me to do the work to change the number. I get disappointed when I can't eat everything I want and not gain weight. I then spend time talking to myself to realize that I don't want to gain weight and I need to talk myself out of overeating.
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Post by hpeterson1951 on Mar 22, 2024 11:33:38 GMT
I need to really work on this. I've been doing it in reverse- I know I should eat that double helping, but Oh well and I do it anyway.
Last night I had an oh well with all the wrong things. I ate way too much, didn't do my yoga, didn't track my finances like I usually did. I just gave in.
I pulled my Beck book out but haven't read it, just reading this threads. Maybe I'll read it this weekend and start making lists of a new why, new inspiration and try to get back on track.
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Post by cathygeha on Mar 22, 2024 11:47:22 GMT
hpeterson1951, I definitely see myself in your post. I am doing the "oh well" at the wrong point, too. I had the Potluck - oh well and I had the pizza restaurant and - oh well again.
BUT...
I was back on program yesterday and the scale was down some today (like three pounds) so I now have incentive to stick with it today and by stringing OP days together will see rewards on the scale but also in the way my clothing fits
I, too, need to do the "OH WELL" or perhaps go back to what I USED TO tell myself...I used to see the foods available and tell myself, "This is a food that is always available so don't have it now but have a measured portion when you reach goal weight...if you even want it then."
I noticed that at the end of the pizza meal with fries and onion rings...I was thinking, "Next time just get the salad as it was the best option and tasted the best of all you ate today."
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Post by susan092907 on Mar 22, 2024 11:56:27 GMT
I get easily disappointed by the number on the scale. I don't think I say, Oh Well, but I do have to remind myself that I can do the work to get it going in the right direction. I do think that I've used oh well - maybe not in those words but with that attitude - when I decide not to eat something. It's not really that I'm disappointed that I can't eat it, it's more that I wish I didn't have to be watching my weight or my health so carefully. hpeterson1951, I've done that at times too - it's all the things that I shouldn't be eating now but oh well I'm just going to do it anyway.
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Post by ermabom on Mar 22, 2024 12:29:48 GMT
"I really feel hungry. Oh, well.
Those chips look so good. Oh, well.
I don’t feel like exercising today. Oh, well."
I struggle with these and sometimes with the scale also. For exercising, sometimes saying that I will do 5 or 10 mins works. I end up doing a full workout. I've never been able to handle the other two when I'm really really hungry or late at night.
eta: today my resolution is to read my cards when the reminder goes off. No matter what.
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