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Post by bbbearsmom on Mar 22, 2024 22:46:50 GMT
Day 23 – Counter the Unfairness Syndrome
Beck points out that life is unfair, dieting is unfair, and some people use the unfairness they see in the situation to sabotage themselves by not doing what they need to do. She suggests that you admit that some situations are unfair or seem to be unfair and then use “Oh, well” and move on. She points out that there are worse unfair situations out there than us not being able to eat all the cookies we want and lose weight.
She guides us in putting our ideas of things being unfair into perspective.
First step is “Remind yourself why you decided to diet in the first place.” (Advantages Response Card) When you decided to diet the disadvantages of not dieting were stronger than the advantages to not dieting.
Second “Make a mental list of the advantages in your life.” Now compare your advantages to how other people live all over this country and the world.
Third “Create a Response Card.” If you have problems with feeling dieting is unfair make up a card and talk back to yourself with a helpful response remembering that the greatest unfairness in this is not making your goal or not maintaining your goal weight.
Do you have any feelings of unfairness about this process? If you do, how do you handle them?
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Post by bbbearsmom on Mar 22, 2024 22:53:17 GMT
For me I don't think needing to work to lose and then maintain my weight is unfair. I taught myself to overeat and I now know what I need to do to lose weight and maintain my goal weight. Granted working on the mental side and getting myself to do the work can be rough at times, but as I look around me many, many people have a weight problem so I'm not being singled out. I'm just one of a large group of people. The laws of the physical world govern this and that is what we have to work with.
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Post by cathygeha on Mar 23, 2024 9:31:13 GMT
In the past more than I do today. I had tall thin friends who could eat anything...or so it seemed. I CAN eat anything but if I do, I know what will happen and doing so would be "unfair to me" and see me back up on the scale higher than I want to be.
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Post by susan092907 on Mar 23, 2024 13:18:38 GMT
I don't compare myself to other people who can eat all they want and stay thin. In fact I really don't even know anyone like that. One time at a lunch, a couple of friends noticed what I was eating, and they wondered how I could eat so much and maintain my weight (I had recently gotten to goal weight on WW this last time). I said that I made up for it the rest of the day - that this was my big meal and breakfast and lunch were going to be small and I'd end up eating the right amount for me at the end of the day. So we really don't know what other people are doing to manage their weight.
Also, I never think that it's unfair that I have a problem of eating too much. I often think that it's absurd that so many people are so overweight (including me in my past) because we have too much food too easily available, when there are so many people in other places who don't have enough food available to even sustain their lives.
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