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Post by karen54171 on Mar 30, 2024 11:45:57 GMT
Good morning.
36, cloudy with rain moving in for the morning. High of 43.
Robin, there are times when I look back and realize I should have kept my mouth shut about certain subjects here, and yesterday was one of those times. I apologize for jumping on you about the subject of discharge and doctors, I see it is really a whole different way of doing things in NY, compared to here in WI. I will go into what happened to me yesterday later, but to say yesterday was not a good day for me, but still no excuse to harp about something that is completely different than what I know about.
That was such a cute picture of Leo, at the game, and it finally dawned on me that they were playing Milwaukee!! That was the game that got rescheduled due to rain the day before. How does he do at the games, does he get bored after a while?
Marsha, you sure have a lot to look into, and decide. I do not envy you at all. For years after the Packers went to the Super Bowl down in New Orleans, DH and I would kick ourselves for not biting the bullet and go to it. We would have loved to go there, from everything you see about that city, it is such a different world. And so much history! Good luck deciding where to go, with each of your trips.
Bob is 6'5" and is heavy; I don't know how much he weighs but I would say it is compareable to your DH, maybe more.
Pinky, I am sorry you all had the twins pass away. Does that happen very often? I cannot recall you mentioning that before.
Strange thing about me going to Bob's house. He has never once mentioned anything about me going there; I have never given him any hint that I would not go there, so I can't figure out why he hasn't had me there, even for a pizza dinner. He loves his house, it sounds like a big house, on that private lake, so I just do not know. Another thing I thought of too, is every time he comes over, he comes empty handed. He knows we will be drinking wine; you think he would bring a bottle of it! Never gives me any kind of gift.
Most likely we won't see you on here this weekend, I hope you have a wonderful time with family and Happy Easter.
Gareth, when I was at Kohls' the other day, the self-checks were hardly being used. They had 4 regular check outs open with no line, so I went to the regular ones, as I had Kohl's cash in my email, I wanted to make sure it got used but was not sure how to use it on a self-check.
I am afraid I will have to stop inviting him over. I too am afraid it is the end of the line with us.
Wow, your poor DGD!!! Is there anything that can be done when someone keeps getting that?
Congrats to your DGS!! He sounds like a go getter!!! Yes, you just never know when your time is up.
Carol, that is really tough, what your DDIL must have been going through, with all the pain, so wanting to get rid of it, but....
I too try to stay home when the kids are out of school, during the school year. Never fails that you can go to a store and hear crying kids.
I think I have given my time with Bob more than enough to figure out where this is going, and I am afraid it does not look good. I am worried about doing it delicately, as with him being a stage 4 MM patient, I do not want it seeming like that is the reason I would break it off with him.
I had somewhat of a pity party yesterday afternoon. I called the apartment office to see if they heard if I was approved or not, since I had not heard from them since Wednesday. The guy that answered said he was just reading an email from the head office, and they are once again needing paperwork. The SS letter I sent over was not large enough. OMG, I had such a hard time containing myself!!! This was around 12:30, and with me thinking I had nowhere to go, I was dressed in my staying home clothes, and my hair was brushed but not looking good. So, I had to change and do something with my hair and run the original letter over to them. There was a woman in the office when I got there, that I had not met, (so that is a total of 4 people working in that office that has a hand in this whole procedure). I asked her if it was possible to get an answer from the approval department, by the end of the day. (The time by then was around 1:30 pm) She was very nice, after I somewhat explained my time restraint I am under and said she would try. Never heard a thing the rest of the afternoon. Needless to say, this old lady was fit to be tied, by early evening. I will take this weekend (now I wish it wasn't the holiday and have to go over to DD's tomorrow) to figure out how to deal with this.
Wish me luck!!
Then Bob called in the evening, which was the last thing I wanted to deal with. I let him talk for a few minutes, then told him I did not feel like talking, which he asked why, and I tried to explain with as few words as possible, which he just replied, yeah, that's tough. Yeah, no kidding!! I know I will eventually get through this, but dang, it might cost a lot of money. In the light of the day, I am sure I can get this ironed out, but it won't be pretty.
I do not think I told you all a very funny thing with this moving story....for around a year, DD2 and her DH have been looking for a house, to move. Now DD1 told me they have been looking too, and as of yesterday, they found a house. I am so very happy for them, and they need more room, what with her fiancé having 2 kids, too. She is taking some furniture from me, which I am so glad it is staying in the family. So our whole family is in the process, somehow of moving. Crazy huh?
DD1 messaged me last night asking if I would go with them out to eat on April 13th, with fiancé's DF, as Howie (Brian's DF) wants to take the 3 of us out to eat at that same place we went to before, as he loves it there. I told her yes, I would be happy to go, but I want to pay for my own meal this time.
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Post by RobinS811 on Mar 30, 2024 13:44:41 GMT
Karen, that is crazy what they are putting you through. I wish I would have known. You can go on the SSA.gov website and download your award letter, and that would certainly be clear. I wish I were there with you to help to see what your numbers are, and if you are close to the maximum, so you know where you stand. As far as Bob goes, maybe make some kind of comment about how you are moving to try to save money, but you don't want it all to go to making dinner for him and buying bottles of wine. Would he take the hint? I hope both your DD's end up finding what they are looking for. I thought one of them was looking a while ago, I guess they didn't find anything.
DH ended up wanting to go out to dinner last night, which we never do when it's not a special occasion. We had plans for tonight with friends, but he is having surgery this coming week, and doesn't want to be exposed to anything before that. So once DH heard that, he decided he wanted to try this new Korean BBQ restaurant he read about. That's my DH for you, if it's not Asian, Italian, or steak it's not for him. We had a nice time, it got a little noisy as it filled up and we were ready to leave. I don't know if any of you know Benihana restaurants, they are Japanese hibachi that is cooking in front of you. This is more or less the same. The ompeprazole is doing so well for me it didn't even bother me that I ate spicy food. Of course I just remember that I forgot to take one today. Next visit to my doctor I will ask why that would work so much better for me than the pantaprozole prescription they gave me, because they are really the same class of drug.
I'm going to go over to Kohl's today. We need new cylinders for our soda stream. We used to get them at Bed Bath and Beyond, so now have to find who else has them. I think Kohl's does. CVS may also, so DH is going to go there in the morning. I did not have a good night's sleep last night for some reason, so dragging a bit today. I should enjoy this blue sky weather, as it is supposed to rain all week.
As far as Leo at the Mets game, I am sure there is a limited amount of time he will sit still, but DS loves to take him. Gareth, DDIL knows that kids somehow pick on red heads, so I am sure she doesn't want him to be subject to that. DS2 had blonde hair when he was young, pretty much the same kind of curly, but then it eventually darkened, and his might also.
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Post by gareth on Mar 30, 2024 16:41:56 GMT
Karen, Bob can't really be that clueless to always show up empty handed and never invite you anywhere. Why do you feel like you need to pay if you're invited out to eat by Brian's DF?
Robin, guess I've never heard of kids picking on redheads. I suppose kids though will use any excuse. DS was teased because he stuttered which made it worse. Thankfully he outgrew it.
It really thundered before bedtime last night. Rain didn't amount to much for all the noise. Lots of lightning too which even started a house fire with considerable damage here in town.
I was surprised that DGS's promotion is a hybrid job so it’s 2 days a week at the CU administration building and 3 days a week from home. He says as a support representative it's basically a floater for all the different back office departments. Robin, you probably understand what he's talking about more than me.
After The Women and The Little Liar I'm finding it hard getting interested in another book. Any suggestions on what to read next?
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Post by carol2 on Mar 30, 2024 16:44:09 GMT
I remember Benihana. I think we went there once when we lived in Dallas. There was a same type of place here but it closed a while ago. I think they had trouble with violations from the Health Department.
I forgot to mention I finally got my cut and color Thursday, a week late. My stylist's DH is still in the hospital. He is in one in a Dallas suburb so she doesn't have to drive as far as last time when he was in a Dallas hospital. There are trying to get him in a rehab facility here in town. She came home Wednesday night and took Thursday to catch up on all the clients who she had had to change and then was going back on Friday. She said one woman got mad because she wouldn't come back on Saturday to do her hair because you know, her hair is more important than the DH in the hospital with heart problems.
Last time I was at Kohls there were no self checkouts. I'm not sure I would try one with all the coupons and sales they have.
Karen, sorry for all the hassle you are going through with the new apartment. I hope it gets resolved soon. That is strange about Bob not taking you out or bringing anything. Could you just suggest he bring a bottle of wine next time he is supposed to come over? That is if there is a next time. Some people don't pick up on hints and you just have to tell them. Nice your DD can use some of your furniture.
I decided not to look for a new dress for Easter even though traditionally I get one. I have a new top I will wear with my Starfish Lands End pants.
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Post by Anngie on Mar 30, 2024 17:44:24 GMT
I wish I hadn’t gotten on yesterday but by the time I could actually sit down and type it would have been 7:30-8:00. For the future, do you all check for posts that late in the day?
Karen, I’m so sorry you’re going through this with the rental company. You’re right, there’s too many with a hand in it and no real procedure to follow. I really am sorry. But when you’re accepted then this will all be a memory (or should I say a nightmare). No, I don’t think you are nitpicking. I wonder if he ever had to reciprocate like what’s expected, before. He could be someone that just simply doesn’t think of this. Before throwing in the towel I would bring it up. Very nicely I would ask if he likes to go out to dinner and tell him that you do - that you like to be treated and not cook all the time. See what he says and then decide if nothing changes. Hey, do you think DD1 is trying to get you and her FIL together? You already know he likes to go out to dinner! lol
Gareth, our Kohl’s doesn’t have self checkout either. It does seem like they’re preparing for a Sephora to come in as the jewelry cases, which are up front are empty and have been since Christmas. Sorry about your DGD - she must feel miserable. But congrats for you DGS on his promotion!
Carol, maybe you’ve said and sorry that I’ve forgotten, but when will DDIL’s be?
Pinky, how nice that DGS wants his party at the farm? I’m sorry, too about the twin calves being stillborn. I wonder if their size was the reason for it as you said they were big. Does DH or your DSs attend to every birth?
Robin, it looks like your DH’s surgeon search is under control - I was going to suggest talking to his GP himself in regard to a surgeon. Of course, if his emergency continued on he might not be able to talk to him. After you explained it all, I can say things here are different than there! I need new cylinders for our soda stream too. I know our Target used to take them (maybe still does) but I didn’t know Kohl’s did.
Someone was talking about gas prices. Our gas has gone up 12 cents per gallon in the last 10 days. Reg. is $3.59 and mid-grade is $4.09. Can’t wait to see what happens in May.
Has anyone had to whip up cream cheese for a dish and been able to get out all those little “bumps”? I just made my dessert for tomorrow and couldn’t get them to blend. Hopefully it won’t be noticeable.
Happy Easter everyone!
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Post by carol2 on Mar 30, 2024 18:06:38 GMT
Anngie, I don't remember if I said, but DDIL's surgery is April 9. We offered to go there but they turned us down. She will only be in the hospital one night. I think we are send them a gift card for food or meal delivery.
Oh, sometimes I get the site in the evenings, but typically don't respond that late. Most of the time I'll read late posts the next morning.
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Post by RobinS811 on Mar 30, 2024 19:02:05 GMT
Anngie, I do look at who posted the night before, but I am usually the last poster. I think the thing with DH is that they felt that the doctor he had in the hospital would be the one he would use, not really thinking about the location, because it is not like it's far away, about 15 minutes from the hospital, 20 minutes from us with no traffic, but I just know what the parking is like there, but as we learned, she does have office hours at the practice near us. I am one who looks at where people went to medical school, and she went to Emory Medical School, so I know she's a bright woman. I honestly have no idea what kind of search DH was doing to find someone else, because it took me about 2 seconds to find the practice for the head of Northwell's department. DH doesn't use Facebook like I do, but when 15 people say the same surgeon, a few being people who's names I recognize, it's a pretty safe bet that he's good, and that may very well be who he will choose to do the surgery rather than the woman he saw in the hospital, who is moving out of the area anyway. The other thing that DH could have done was ask for the other doctor in the practice that we know well, but I don't think DH loves him, and one of the other doctors in the area is a friend of ours, so there is that.
Carol, I am glad that they are keeping DDIL at least one night. He may be in pain after she goes home, no matter how they do the surgery. They give you the strong pain killer, but with all that is being said now about opioid addiction, they tell you to take it, I think, every 6 hours, when you can really take it more often. I just can still remember the terrible pain I was in, and how I could understand how people could get addicted, because I was just counting down the hours until I could take another pill, which turned out to be not really the case, but when they sent me home from the hospital that's what they told me.
Gareth, I can't really say what they will have DGS do, but a lot of it is just walking through what they have to do, or maybe what stage things are at. I would imagine when he is in the office, they will teach him more, and when he is working from home, he will have a computer and phone, so he can log into their system add answer questions for whoever calls. These days a lot of these applications are paperless, with people just uploading or emailing documents, so you don't need to be in an office to look at a file. When I was out yesterday, we got a call from someone, of course not knowing we would be closed for Good Friday, and I was able to pull over, log into the person's file on my phone, and tell the person exactly the emails back and forth between our paralegal and someone else to confirm things. Then when I was home a client called about work we did for his parents 5 years ago, and I could log in to see exactly what they did. Or what we had in our system anyway, because I honestly think we did do a trust for them, but I wasn't seeing it. I know that the pandemic made this kind of thing more popular, but the thought process is that by coming into an office a few times a week, they gain something from seeing others but can really just do it from home.
Karen, maybe if you do invite Bob over again, shortly before he would leave his house, you should call him and say something like, "I didn't have time to pick up any wine would you mind stopping and getting a bottle?" See what his reaction would be to that, then you would have your answer right there. Is he being clueless, or cheap.
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Post by karen54171 on Mar 31, 2024 12:11:11 GMT
Good morning.
32, cloudy, going to 49.
Robin, I know what my total numbers are, which of course they go according to gross income, I am a little bit under the max for 1 person in the apartment. (I think around $3,600.)
Bob called yesterday afternoon, to chat, with him catching me at a really bad time. But I was able to vent to him and that helped get me unmad. What happened was, I went on the website of this apartment complex, and saw that 2 apartments are available. One of them (a lower) is being advertised for $1,295, available in June, like mine hopefully will be. The other one (an upper) is available in May, but the rent advertised is $1,150!!!! That is with a 12-month lease. That upper has just a 1 stall garage, so those go a little cheaper than my upper with the 2-stall garage. ($25) So take that into account, that apartments lease for May 2024 to May 2025 is what mine would be right now!!! No raise in rent going into 25!!! What the heck??!! Right after I saw that, and was fuming, Bob called. Lol, poor guy, he sure got an ear full!!! I did apologize and thank him for letting me get it out of my system. He was totally confused by what they are doing. (Sorry, that got so long)
How did your DH do, going out for dinner? I hope he was able to find something very good to eat off the menu.
I am really thinking of how to handle Bob and going forward.
Gareth, about Bob, we have been dating since Feb 5th, and so far, it seems he is quite comfortable with things the way they are, so I do think the guy is clueless, or just does not give a crap about pulling his fair share.
About paying for my own dinner with going out with Brians dad, I just would feel more comfortable, as we are not a couple, so I don't want him paying all the time.
Oh, I am jealous of you, having that thunder, but of course I wouldn't want the dangerous lightning. Those poor people getting struck!!!
Your DGS job sounds perfect, for just going to the workplace twice a week! Is he all set up at home, with the computers? I know my DD at first loved working from home, but then it got to the point that she would wander out of her office when it was quiet and do a load of wash or whatever. She needed that structure of being physically at work.
Carol, when you said you went for your cut/color, I was thinking what a minute, it is not time yet!!! Lol!!! I had forgotten how you had to reschedule, due to her DH. Now that I look on my phone calendar, I see I am going April 9th. So, you are not too far off, getting us all started going back. People are such idiots, just care about themselves.... doesn't she remember the lockdown for Covid??? I remember the day I got the call from the owner of my salon saying let's get you booked!!! I was so excited!!!
I did not use the self-check this time at Kohl's since I had a bit more clothes and stuff, I did not want to miss any mark downs or sales, otherwise I have used the self-check. Very nice registers. I was hoping to get a longer type of dress for today, but with putting that weight back on, my legs, and knee scares are just not nice looking, so I went with a pink dress shirt and white jeans. That is as dressy as I am going to get, I guess. I will give in and put on makeup, lol!!
Anngie, yes, I check the day before thread, to make sure I am up to date, when I start the thread. In fact, sometimes if I am bored during the afternoon, I will pop on to read everyone's post. Most of the time I don't feel like typing responses, so that waits till the next day.
Thank you, about the application process. I sure better get approved, after going through all that!!!
I too say that, mostly about tough times someone is going through, so there is that, thank you for reminding me.
This whole thing with Bob is irritating the heck out of me. I think I am disgusted that it seems like every man I met has some kind of big issue. I had taken a break, since that religious guy wanted me to move over by him, last September, so I was hoping Bob was a good catch. I am getting a bit impatient, to say the least. He did time it perfect yesterday, with calling when I was so mad. (See what I posted to Robin). He was good enough to let me rant about it, then after drinking almost a whole glass of wine, while venting, I did feel better.
I laughed out loud at your comment about Howie liking to go out to dinner!!! Hahaha, good one Anngie!! I wonder too, now that you say it, if those 2 (Missy and Brian) are subtly trying to set us up.....so far, I just look at him as Brian's dad, nothing more. The 13th I will check him out more, haha.
I have had that happen with cream cheese with generic cream cheese. I learned to stick with the Philadelphia cream cheese. I just used some yesterday in the twice baked potato dish.
Robin, I have decided not to have Bob over for dinner again, until after he takes me out to dinner. If that does not happen say for a month, too bad for him, then I will be done with him. I truly understand he feels for the most part, not good, but come on. I won't be keeping him out till all hours of the night!!! He does like to get home before it gets dark, with that one bad eye, so I am flexible with times to eat. We shall see how this works out.
Hello Pinky, hope you are having a wonderful weekend.
Check my post to Robin, in the beginning of the thread, about what I saw yesterday, pertaining to my current apartment complex.
Happy Easter everyone, have a wonderful day. Robin, I hope your day is not too much waiting on your DH. You need a break too!!
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Post by RobinS811 on Mar 31, 2024 12:54:43 GMT
HAPPY EASTER TO ALL!
Karen, it sounds like if you are calculating income the way they are, you have plenty of room for them to do things a little differently, you never know. Interesting about the place you are in now. Would you stay in your complex and move units? I don't know how things work there, but here it has something to do with what the previous tenant was paying and how much they can go up! I wonder what will happen with Bob if a few weeks ago by and you don't invite him, what will he say? My DH did not have any problems Friday for dinner, because he had the rice, and meats, that are all fine for him. I will say, the chairs in the place were not comfortable, and I can only imagine Bob sitting on one. They were relatively small metal bistro type chairs.
We are meeting DS2 and Leo at the Bronx Zoo this morning, so I have to get moving and get dressed. We are leaving soon.Yesterday I went food shopping and they had a 1/2 rotisseried turkey breast, so I bought that to have for dinner tonight. I am going to get Stovetop stuffing to go with it. I forgot to buy that yesterday, so hopefully someplace will be open when we get home.
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Post by gareth on Mar 31, 2024 17:05:14 GMT
Karen, when you say to read what you wrote to someone else does that mean that you expect otherwise they wouldn't read it? I've always read them all. Doesn't everyone else? Will you be calling your apartment complex asking about why your rent is increased and those aren't?
Robin, all I've seen here are rotisserie chickens. I'd love to get a turkey one.
Anngie, I know I never post at night not knowing if anyone will see it. I usually always check the thread at night and again in the morning.
Guess it's a good thing we had nothing planned today with DS and family. Now he has a stomach bug. That family has to be the unhealthiest.
Cloudy and gloomy looking like rain when I got up. There are rain chances all day. Midmorning it brightened up and the sun came out. Now it's gone again.
I made cherry cobbler this morning. Thought maybe I should do something a little special for the holiday. It made DH happy when he came up from downstairs and could smell it. It's a favorite of his and so easy to throw together. I'll grill salmon and have those little red and yellow potatoes DS gave me the rest when we had my birthday dinner. They were starting to sprout so I cleaned them off. I'll boil them and what we don't eat I'll make potato salad tomorrow. I've been hungry for potato salad anyway. DH really likes it too. I've never made potato salad with those kind of potatoes before but it still should be good I'd think.
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Post by RobinS811 on Mar 31, 2024 17:55:24 GMT
We are back from the zoo. It only took us 25 minutes to get there, but I was expecting that with traffic it could take us 2 hours to get home, but it was 40 minutes, and maybe would have been less if DS followed his GPS. However, we were on the phone with DS1 & DDIL so he was a bit distracted. Leo was a little out of sorts, but did like seeing the animals. There were some that weren't out, too early in the season, but he was fine with what he did see.
Gareth, I also always read everything, so read what Karen says to everyone. Sorry that your DS & family are all having so much trouble. I wouldn't even be able to guess why. The turkey breast I buy I have bought before, just to really have something different, but it is not the round, or whole kind of breast, it is bone in. It's enough for the 2 of us, and hopefully it will not dry out when I reheat it. Last time I was at BJ's they had a container of cranberry sauce that looked like it would be better than the canned, so I bought it thinking I would buy a turkey breast like this to cook myself, but I have not seen them in the stores.
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Post by carol2 on Mar 31, 2024 18:36:54 GMT
Karen, I read everything you post to others, too.
More people at church than usual today which is not surprising since it's Easter. Also, a lot of schools are out tomorrow so people came to visit grandparents, etc.
It is warm and cloudy today. We are supposed to get storms tomorrow night again. The longterm forecast predicts cloudy for the eclipse. The weathermen point out that may change since it's a week away. There is a little town of about 10,000 about 25 miles from us that is right in the path of the eclipse. I heard hotel rooms are at a premium and are going for $400/night. Of course, the town only has 2 major hotels so I'm sure they filled up fast. Also, heard the price of gas will increase in all these towns in the path of the eclipse.
My hair person lost a couple of customers during covid because they would refuse to wear a mask. She told them to wear a mask or don't come and they chose not to come. She calls them her old lady clients. I told her if I start acting like that to shake me or something.
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