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Post by murphy1288 on Aug 9, 2024 10:31:44 GMT
Welcome to Alcohol Free is What We Want To Be!We are glad you are here with us! If you have been struggling with your weight and have found this board you undoubtedly have your own unique, complicated relationship with alcohol and food. Laying out the problem honestly can give you the extra push you need to succeed in getting it under control. A few questions for you to think about...do you wake up at 3 AM wondering what did you do? Do you sometimes have no recall of the evening before or do you try to recover your memory of the evening before you even get out of bed? Is your spouse angry with you...or do you simply think that A is taking over too much of your life, affecting your weight loss? These are hard questions but know that you will find understanding, love, encouragement and support on this thread. We are each in a different stage of this journey but you will find others have shared your experiences. There is no judgment, just an acknowledgement that we have been there, done that. This board of great people will support you in your journey.
Some of us have been here for several years, others are new, but all are welcome and if you have visited before but didn't stay, there is still and always a place for you. Don't get overwhelmed, take your time, if something strikes you, respond. We are great at giving advice, whether you want it or not....you will get tough love, if necessary, but you will also find help. We practice positive self-talk and support, we encourage and gently hold each other accountable. We each have stories to tell, share and suggestions to help. We post different challenges during the year. Please join us if you think this is the group for you. You will be glad you did.
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Post by murphy1288 on Aug 9, 2024 10:32:10 GMT
Labor of Love
NEW CHALLENGE
July 5 through September 2
The word labor implies a specific task or effort, many times painful or arduous. A labor of love is doing something because you really want to, not because of any monetary reward you might get for it even though it involves hard work.
This challenge is all about a labor of love, reminding yourself to love yourself so it becomes your norm.
How often do we do something for someone else because it makes them happy and in turn makes us happy. But as the saying goes “how can you love someone else if you can’t love yourself”.
There are many ways we don’t show ourselves love. We are harder on ourselves than on anyone else. We go over and over “why did I drink too much” and the ever popular "if I lost weight I would be so much happier”. We are not showing ourselves love by overeating and over drinking, we are doing the opposite. To start, give yourself grace and tell yourself yesterday is done, tomorrow isn’t here, so let’s deal with the present.
We worry about so many things, things we have no control over. Resilience, happiness and freedom comes from knowing what to care about and what to not let us get bogged down. Let go of things that do not work for you, help you, or encourage you. It is hard! You want to be a good person but be good to yourself first. Send out positivity but give yourself positivity.
We all have bad days, nothing goes right, nasty people out and about, stress levels are over the top and you have no control. This can be true in many ways but your control is to step away, love yourself.
Journal it, put it down on paper, and then let it go.
So each morning give yourself an affirmation. Here are some suggestions:
#1. I am worthy.
#2. I am enough.
#3. I am beautiful inside and out.
#4. Even my “flaws” have good and helpful aspects.
#5. I love and approve of myself.
#6. I am delighted with who I am.
#7. I fully approve of who I am, even as I better myself.
#8. I approve of myself and love myself completely.
#9. I am happy in my own skin and in my own circumstances.
#10. I am surrounded by love.
#11. I am treasured for who I really am.
#12. I am worthy of happiness and love.
#13. I enjoy my own company as I get in touch with my true self.
#14. I am at peace and happy when I’m alone.
It may sound like Stuart Smiley but go with it!
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Post by murphy1288 on Aug 9, 2024 10:32:33 GMT
THE EIGHT GOOD HEALTH GUIDELINES
1. Eat at least five servings of vegetables and fruits each day.
2. Choose whole-grain foods, such as brown rice and oats, whenever possible.
3. Include two servings of milk products – low fat (1%) or fat-free – each day.
4. Have some healthy oil (olive oil, canola, sunflower, safflower or flaxseed each day.
5. Ensure that you are getting enough protein by choosing at least a serving or two of meat, poultry, fish, eggs or dried beans each day. Many dairy products are also good sources of protein.
6. Limit added sugar and alcohol.
7. Drink at least 6 8-ounce glasses of water a day.
8. Take a multiple vitamin-mineral supplement each day.
NUTRITION ACCOUNTABILITY
Drink more water:
One or more fruit daily:
One or more vegetable daily:
Dairy:
Healthy Oils:
AF:
AIM:
ANIM:
Exercise goal:
HABIT ACCOUNTABILITY
Journal:
Move Accountability:
Sleep Accountability:
Nutrition Accountability:
Happiness Accountability:
Habit Accountability:
Check in Daily Accountability:
Time Management Accountability:
What did you do for yourself today?
Please post a NSV (non-scale victory), LSP (little sign of progress), PA (positive affirmation) or motivational quote
Start weight July 5:
July 12:
July 19:
July 26:
August 2:
August 9:
August 16:
August 23:
August 30:
Yay we have done great! September 2
Celebrate! Final weigh in:
Great success!
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Post by murphy1288 on Aug 9, 2024 10:43:42 GMT
THE EIGHT GOOD HEALTH GUIDELINES
1. Eat at least five servings of vegetables and fruits each day.
2. Choose whole-grain foods, such as brown rice and oats, whenever possible.
3. Include two servings of milk products – low fat (1%) or fat-free – each day.
4. Have some healthy oil (olive oil, canola, sunflower, safflower or flaxseed each day.
5. Ensure that you are getting enough protein by choosing at least a serving or two of meat, poultry, fish, eggs or dried beans each day. Many dairy products are also good sources of protein.
6. Limit added sugar and alcohol.
7. Drink at least 6 8-ounce glasses of water a day.
8. Take a multiple vitamin-mineral supplement each day.
NUTRITION ACCOUNTABILITY
Drink more water: Improving!
One or more fruit daily: Yep!
One or more vegetable daily: Yep!
Dairy: Yep!
Healthy Oils:
AF: 13
AIM:
ANIM:
Exercise goal:
HABIT ACCOUNTABILITY
Journal: Yes!
Move Accountability: Lots of walking at the senior luncheon.
Sleep Accountability: Finally sleeping well again
Nutrition Accountability: I'd give it a 6 out of 10. Had a piece of fried chicken at the luncheon but then pretty good the rest of the day.
Happiness Accountability: Happy and grateful to be here
Habit Accountability:
Check in Daily Accountability: I'm here
Time Management Accountability: Very good
What did you do for yourself today? Got my new disposal and my fridge fixed!
Please post a NSV (non-scale victory), LSP (little sign of progress), PA (positive affirmation) or motivational quote
Start weight July 5:
July 12:
July 19:
July 26:
August 5: 159.6
August 9: 160.2
August 16:
August 23:
August 30:
Yay we have done great! September 2
Celebrate! Final weigh in:
Great success!
Good morning all! Well I may not have cash but I have plenty of food, clothes to wear, a roof over my head, clean water, gas in the car and everything I NEED so I'm pretty blessed! I could have waited on the disposal and ice maker but it's done and I'm glad. The disposal was just old and had to be replaced. It turned out that the problem with the ice maker was my own fault. Because I never use the water dispenser, I had never replaced the filter since I got the fridge maybe 8 years ago? I didn't realize that the water goes through the filter to the ice maker. But the plumber went and got the filter and it's taken care of and I've made a note to replace it yearly! I'm happy with my decision to stay home last night. I dozed on the couch for an hour and still slept through the night. I was so happy that I wasn't triggered by the stress and I still feel great!
Today I'm going to organize the chest freezer. And I'm going to receiving of friends for a neighbor who passed away earlier this week. No word from Tyrine about Twitter. She might be on vacation. If it is meant to be it will happen. If not, I know in my head that it is still a good idea to wait a while. But if any of you want to get a look at her, go to sbret.com and she is the last one listed under available rescues. Hope everyone has a great day!
Murphy
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Post by amyj on Aug 9, 2024 13:02:18 GMT
THE EIGHT GOOD HEALTH GUIDELINES
1. Eat at least five servings of vegetables and fruits each day.
2. Choose whole-grain foods, such as brown rice and oats, whenever possible.
3. Include two servings of milk products – low fat (1%) or fat-free – each day.
4. Have some healthy oil (olive oil, canola, sunflower, safflower or flaxseed each day.
5. Ensure that you are getting enough protein by choosing at least a serving or two of meat, poultry, fish, eggs or dried beans each day. Many dairy products are also good sources of protein.
6. Limit added sugar and alcohol.
7. Drink at least 6 8-ounce glasses of water a day.
8. Take a multiple vitamin-mineral supplement each day.
NUTRITION ACCOUNTABILITY
Drink more water: 80/75 oz goal
One or more fruit daily: Y
One or more vegetable daily: Y
Dairy: Y
Healthy Oils: Y
AF: (mostly alcohol free since August 16, 2006): 6567
AIM: 0
ANIM: 1 (021221)
Fitbit Goal/burned: 2170/1939
HABIT ACCOUNTABILITY
Journal: Y
Move Accountability: 4, 12,800+ steps, 250 steps 8/8 hours, walked the nature trail, yard work, workout with weights, counter PU, wall stretches
Sleep Accountability: 3, slept well, 7+ hours, Fitbit score 90, stress management 82
Nutrition Accountability: 3, protein shake, protein bar, breakfast wrap, yogurt, peach cobbler, pizza, cucumber salad, ice cream cone
MacrosFirst: Protein: 122/137 (31%), Carbs: 150/100 (38%), Fiber: 27gm, Net Carbs: 123, Fat: 53/45 (31%), Calories: 1499/1353, 146 over, lots of protein
Happiness Accountability: 3, enjoyed the day, watched Olympics, stitched, read before bed
Habit Accountability: 3, more water than Diet Coke
Check in Daily Accountability: 3, I'm here!
Time Management Accountability: 3, walked, yard work, stitched, couch time
What did you do for yourself today? reading, time outside, stitching
Please post a NSV (non-scale victory), LSP (little sign of progress), PA (positive affirmation) or motivational quote: “Keep your face always toward the sunshine―and shadows will fall behind you.” ―Walt Whitman
Start weight July 5: 160.4? Mom's scale
July 12: 158.6
July 19: 158
July 26: 157.6
August 2: 156.4
August 9: 155.8
August 16:
August 23:
August 30:
Yay we have done great! September 2
Celebrate! Final weigh in:
Great success!
2024 Goals:
11,000 steps each day: 206/227
At least 7 hours sleep: 105/227
Lift weights twice/week: Wk 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13:only once, 14, 15, 16, 17:only once, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31
Starting weight: 179.8
Get to the 160's: March 10, 2024
150s: June 24, 2024
140s:
DH & I walked the nature trail yesterday morning, had a breeze some of the time. When we got back we did the mowing the yard routine. I had to take several breaks, thank goodness there was a breeze. We chatted with the neighbor who walked over to pick up her sign advertising her flooring company. I picked green beans, tomatoes, and a cucumber. Looks like there are 3-4 more that could be picked any time. When we were done I soaked in the tub, read, had lunch, then some couch time, but no nap. I did a workout with weights in the basement. Annie kept rubbing against my legs and I was worried I would step on her, glad that didn't happen. We ordered pizza for dinner. I had seen a lot of the primetime Olympic coverage during the day, so I headed up to bath and bed early. Fitbit says 11:45 to 8:02.
It's another sunny day. Looks like the same for the next few days until Wednesday when there is rain forecast, and maybe a drop in temps.
Murphy- Thanks for getting us started. Glad the Senior Lunch went well. Individual counseling sounds like a good idea, and it's good that you getting out and being with people and have an attitude of gratitude. Sorry about the plumber $$$. Our fridge beeps at us when it's time to change the filter, which is so annoying that DH gets right on it. Hope it works out for the best with Twitter.
Carole- Sorry it was stinky in Venice, yay for finding shark teeth.
Jan- WTG steps, PU, stretches, blue dot, rollover, AF. Sorry your schedule was messed up yesterday, it's hard to feel perky if not feeling rested. Yay for being crowned Craft Queen and for the garage sale finds. Sorry the NR book is giving you crazy dreams. Did you notice Connections has stats now?
Cindy- Sorry your birthday sister in France is having a difficult time. Is it her birthday that makes her sad in August? It's hard to avoid the temptations at Costco. happybirthdaytoyou!
Cathy- Glad you found the book interesting enough to skim. Sorry about having to change your plans for the trip to the beach.
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Post by amyj on Aug 9, 2024 13:11:35 GMT
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Post by amyj on Aug 9, 2024 13:12:24 GMT
M-W Word of the Day
fusty
adjective | FUSS-tee
What It Means
Someone or something described as fusty is rigidly old-fashioned. Fusty is also used as a synonym of musty to describe things that are full of dust and unpleasant, stale odors.
// Wanda is quick to admit that the music she prefers is fusty, as it excludes pretty much anything recorded after 1960.
// The trunk in the attic was full of fusty old clothes that smelled like mothballs.
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Post by tatermom on Aug 9, 2024 13:58:33 GMT
I look to 2024 with a renewed commitment to Progress” “Out the Door in 2024” NUTRITION ACCOUNTABILITY Drink more water: daily goal 70: 80 oz One or more fruit daily: 2 One or more vegetable daily: 3 Sober Spring AF: 204 AIM: 17 Fitbit Goal/burned: 2,000/2,136 JUST JOURNAL! HABIT ACCOUNTABILITY Move Accountability: Step goal 8,500: 4,598 steps, 6/11 hours, 60 PU, 3 floors, stretched, Sleep Accountability: 8 hours, 71 sleep, 66 stress, resting, HR 72 Nutrition Accountability: 42/23 13 weeklies, egg sandwich, bacon, grilled bacon, tomato, cheese sand, fries, cake, enchilada bake, granola trail mix, wine Off the rails. Fitbit Macros: calorie goal @1500/2394!!! cal 50% carbs, 204g, 33% fat, 91g, 17% protein 106g, fiber 27g, 1,008 over!!! Whee Happiness Accountability: 4 feeling happy Habit Accountability: Exercise bar 2/4. Morning routine messed up, Ate it all Check in Daily Accountability: 5 I'm here!! Time Management Accountability: 4 Knitting, lunch out with friends, garage sale, TV time and scrolling Slug day What did you do for yourself today? 4.journal, knit, TV time, read in bed, saw friends Please post a NSV (non-scale victory), LSP (little sign of progress), PA (positive affirmation) or quote: "You'll have good days, bad days, overwhelming days, too tired days, I'm awesome days, I can't go on days. And every day you;ll still show up. " Start weight July 5: 194.6 cabin July 12: 194 July 19: 194.8 193.8 at cabin today July 23: 192.4 Now to hold on  August 2: 194 WW August 9: August 16: August 23: August 30: Yay we have done great! September 2 Good morning all. Well that was an exciting detour. NOw dust it off and move on. NSV - all tracked. Not sure what started me off, cake at knitting, then comfort food lunch with all the cheese and bacon, fries, More cheese with enchiladas and just chose to have the wine, maybe for the sleep factor. Feeling better this morning, have my list of chores, need to get out for some exercise and go get groceries. Have another garage sale on my list and then still sorting and putting away the things I got yesterday  Talked to my friend last night, getting our plans together for reunion. Looks like she'll be here from a Thursday to Thursday, so plenty of time to get into all the snooping and fun together. A little distracted this morning as DH already has the women's bronze medal game on TV, since I guess this isn't a big program seller in the US, it's on the Spanish channel, I turned the sound off when he went upstairs, it's 2 minutes to 1/2 time. I need to figure out a LP breakfast so I can get going. Hope you all have a good day. Jan Murphy You have a great attitude, and this too shall pass. When you start Medicare will that free up any $$ that you are putting out now for insurance, or break even as it will come out of your SS check? At least when DH got off the marketplace and on to Medicare, it was about 150 less that what we were paying. Every little bit helps. Hope you can find the counseling that fits for you. SO glad all the extra stress was not a trigger, or even if it was, that you knew not to act on it. I'm looking forward for my next week of calm and quiet up at the cabin to get recentered Amy You are doing great in the scale department girl! I need to send you my crown to wear around the garden as the OP queen I had seen most of the early sports too and went up to read a bit earlier. The wine and the no nap yesterday put me to sleep without the crazy dreams last night even tho I read part of my book. Glad Annie was so happy to see you in the basement I'll have to look for the Connections stats, probably have to sign in or ? Does Wordle have it too? I was surprised that DS is doing the puzzles, saw him while they were here. Have fun with family today. Cindy Whispering Happybirthday to you. Guess the alternative isn't better so we just keep moving forward. Hope you friend is OK, maybe just doing some life evaluating. How did they end up in France, or where did you go to Jr high together? My Costco staples are the Fairlife protein drink, the big Tillamook block of cheese and sometimes lamb chops. Of course things jump into the cart but I've really tried to not get the snacks that take us forever to eat. Hope you have a nice day and a GF free weekend Cathy Probably a good plan not to go to the beach, does anyone else have a pool you could go use? Carole Safe travels home. When does school start, touchy subject I know! Where will you be working this year? Waving hi. |
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Post by WWVicki on Aug 9, 2024 23:43:52 GMT
Hi girls. Yesterday I decided to skip the Y and not rush around before the funeral. So I had plenty of time to make the potatoes and was relaxed when I got there. The funeral was for our pastors wife’s 98 year old mother. It was very touching. Today I went over to the Y just to walk. I had my music in my ears and really enjoyed it. I’m happy to report that I have been OP since Weds when I was up again. As of now, it appears that my switch has been turned back on. Tomorrow is the open house. DD isn’t coming down after all. Rylee has had an off and on again fever for the last few days. She just wants to spend some time with her momma, so they’re going shopping or to a movie or something. They only have to be out of the house for 2 hours. It’s supposed to be a beautiful day! Here’s hoping they have several offers by Sunday! Tomorrow morning I’ll start off with personals first!
Happy Birthday Cindy! 😘
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Post by flower on Aug 10, 2024 1:03:13 GMT
Happy birthday Cindy! I hope this is a great year for you!
I think I’m ready to go home! It’s SO hot, did I mention that?! DH and I are reevaluating our thoughts of moving here. We’re back to thinking of TN. Who knows!! I think I told you, I’m on an antibiotic, a side effect to sensitivity to sun. I literally burned my fingers from reading. Well now I think I burned my toes! I have huge blister on my big toes, and smaller ones on 2 other toes. Ugh! On a bright note, Alexis and I went to Mote laboratory and aquarium. It was wonderful!! We saw a manatee—named Buffett! (After Jimmy!). The otters were sleeping, but so cute. They had a talk about their sharks, they literally train them! So amazing. And lots of other things.
Jan, back to work on Monday 👎🏻👎🏻👎🏻👎🏻 I’m in production again. Making the pizzas, chicken and hamburgers. They’re adding onto my responsibilities, I hope I can handle it all.
Amy, does Annie usually do that to you? Or was she extra snuggly feeling for the day?
Cathy, sorry about the beach. I heard a CrossFit man drowned in a lake during a competition (if I read that right). So sad
Hello to all! Heading to bed.
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Post by cathygeha on Aug 10, 2024 7:01:22 GMT
Start weight July 5: 167.6 July 12: 171.6 July 19: 171 July 26:172 August 2: 171.2 August 9: 170.8 August 16: August 23: August 30: Yay we have done great! September 2 Starting weight: 167.6 and today's weight <170.8> [day two]
Was tired, achy, and had lower GI issues yesterday. Napped, hydrated, ate the BRAT diet and will take it easy today with food, too. No idea what the trigger was but hopefully it is going or gone. Hope to talk to our daughter this evening and will spend today reading.
It sounds like all of our lives are moving along fairly smoothly with only the few glitches from time to time. Hope this will be a lovely weekend for all of us.
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Talked to my friend last night, getting our plans together for reunion. Looks like she'll be here from a Thursday to Thursday, so plenty of time to get into all the snooping and fun together. A little distracted this morning as DH already has the women's bronze medal game on TV, since I guess this isn't a big program seller in the US, it's on the Spanish channel, I turned the sound off when he went upstairs, it's 2 minutes to 1/2 time. I need to figure out a LP breakfast so I can get going. Hope you all have a good day. Jan
